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DRY 10!!!!

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CheesyNachos · 28/12/2015 06:22

Welcome! This is the thread for those of us who want to abstain from alcohol. We are all at different stages of our journey, and many of us have some hiccups along the way, but we are committed to an exciting, fulfilling, joyful life alcohol-free.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2485290-DRY-9?pg=1

Everyone is welcome!

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gladistopped · 29/01/2016 23:12

I am still up! Have had silly sleeping due to being ill and sleeping lots in day time but now recovering so all at sea :(

gladistopped · 29/01/2016 23:13

dona do you need some links? who do you already follow?

donajimena · 29/01/2016 23:15

Only HOF I would prefer British ones as opposed to American only because its closer to home. 》

gladistopped · 29/01/2016 23:18

Ok will have a think ( am v tired and still ill so bere with me )

LikeaHurricane · 29/01/2016 23:24

Lucy just read the "alcohol and over 40s" post on your blog....I'm 49 next Thursday 4th, so very relevant for me. I was particularly interested in the part about the effect alcohol has on your brain. I was chatting to someone recently who works for an organisation that provides short term housing for people with dementia and he was talking about how an awful lot of the people they are helping are suffering with alcohol related dementia....food for thought indeed
Also Lucy all good wishes to you and your colleagues for your training course tomorrow. I'm sure it will be a lovely and very enjoyable day xx

LikeaHurricane · 29/01/2016 23:31

Donaj I found this one earlier tonight thesoberschool.com/ and it's British. Not had a proper look around yet myself but it looks pretty good.

Night sober revolutionary warriors, I'm off to bed with AJ, Nooowww xx

gladistopped · 30/01/2016 04:47

She is Brit but USA now and so very very good. Her latest post really resonates with me.

gladistopped · 30/01/2016 04:49

We need a list of helpful posts for sober warriors. Lucy do you have one handy on your blog or shall I make one up for here?

yellowfloss · 30/01/2016 09:24

morning all! Day 14 for me here. Bloody hell I'm doing it.
Donaj not a blog as such but am working my way through the Smart Recovery handbook which I ordered from their website. It's helping me to really think about why I do what I do.
Had an AF blue becks last night. Wary of whether this is a good idea but trying to see if it helps for now. Hubby tutted and said 'slippery slope' Got pissed off at him and said he was no support. Think cos am nervous of it he may have pressed my buttons (which he's good at...)
Really focusing on the fact that I am not denying myself something lovely but am freeing myself from something nasty and hurtful. That helps.
Before I stopped I kept a sort of journal of my feelings when drinking. I sat with a pen and paper and my drink and wrote ie 4pm (I used to start very early feel relaxed. 4.15pm feel a bit tired etc etc I then added up the minutes of 'fun and relaxation' and the 'feeling like shit' the 'feeling like shit' won hands down and I didn't include after effects or hangovers! That was a real revelation for me. I don't actually get the effect I thought I did iyswim. I did it for 3 days and not once did I have a full few hours of peace and relaxation. Probably around 20 mins halfway through the another 10 mins at some point. The rest was rubbish. Eyeopener.
Anyways, hope you all have a great AF day.
Day 14.... WTAF!!!! Grin

LikeaHurricane · 30/01/2016 11:12

Glad the one I've linked isn't Laura, (who I also really like)

This lady is called Kate....it's a different one to the one you've linked. Smile

Like I said I've not had chance to have proper look at it yet but it looks good!
Another one for your tool box Smile

Hope everyone's ok and Yellow I really like your post xx

CheesyNachos · 30/01/2016 19:41

Evening Sober Warriors.

Hope everyone has had a good day. I am in bed!!!! I have been in a mood this evening, because DS is 'mummy mummymummy' constantly and DH has been puttering around doing his own thing and drinking cider and I am knackered. That is a prime trigger for me. So i decided to alleviate everyone of my presence and am in bed with a cup of tea, MN and the new Amy Liptrot book about how she got sober by living on a sheep farm in the Orkneys. (It's good, I recommend). DH is brilliant in that as soon as I said I was finished with today he immediately took over DS duties and brought me tea and crumpets in bed. Bliss.

Lucy Congrats to your DD! How lovely and what an exciting thing! Yay yellow Day 14!

How is everyone? Like I said, I am feeling triggery today and usually this is when I slip. So I am proud that I seem to have broken my usual habit of hitting the 'fuckit' button. I am going to AA again on MOnday and am looking forward to it. I had a couple of lovely texts today from people I met yesterday saying ti was good to see me and to please 'keep coming back'. Have swimming with DS tomorrow and house cleaning to do and that is about it.

Off to pootle around the blog links posted by Hurricane and glad.
Night, night friends. :)

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CheesyNachos · 30/01/2016 20:00

Love this blog post.

www.lauramckowen.com/blog/what-it-means-to-start-where-you-are

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Lucy2610 · 30/01/2016 22:23

Back from London workshop which was ace (as always!) I plugged Andrew Nowww hypnosis as you guys all rave about him! Grin Hurricane thank you for your well wishes :) Glad the most popular blog posts on my blog are this one and this one. Other Brit sober bloggers that I love are taking a new path and fitfatfood who have both become sober warrior friends as we're all over the two year mark so stopped around the same time :)

LikeaHurricane · 31/01/2016 17:18

Hi Cheesy, good luck tomorrow at AA. Hope you are still staying strong Smile I loved that particular blog post by Laura. It can apply to so many things in life, not just sobriety. Thanks for posting, I also really like her site.

Lucy I'm glad it went well yesterday, it must be very rewarding. I really hope they enjoy Andrew NOOWW Smilehe has definitely helped me massively, I feel very calm. I've also had a good look at the two blogs you shared, I like them very much. Thankyou xx

CheesyNachos · 31/01/2016 19:00

Thanks Hurricane.:) I am looking forward to AA. I am climbing the walls today..... PMT is very bad and I want to climb into a vat of wine, but the thought of AA tomorrow is another tool to add to posting on this thread and reading the blogs which is stopping me. That sentence is a bit jumbled, but I hope you know what I mean!

I am having a bath. Then bed. I have had ENOUGH of the day.

Have a good evening Sober Revolutionaries.

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Lucy2610 · 31/01/2016 20:47

It is massively rewarding Hurricane :) Another UK blogger I love is the sober girl wife and mum who is also a friend IRL now. Plus another Brit Carrie On Sober is fab but she hasn't posted for a while but is still going strong in her sobriety. I'm sure there are others too!

LikeaHurricane · 31/01/2016 21:04

Cheesy one of the things that sometimes motivates me to go to my running club (not that I often need motivating as I love it), is knowing that there are one or two people there who really are counting on me showing up and likewise, I can't wait to see them. I'm getting the feeling that your AA meeting is going to be a similar thing for you. Smile tomorrow is a new day and you will feel fabulous sans hangover Flowers

Lucy once again thankyou for the links, bookmarked again! I have so much reading to catch up on, however at least my Amazon Kindle account is having a little breather for once...and I do love reading everybody's stories.

Lucy2610 · 31/01/2016 21:12

My pleasure Hurricane :)

donajimena · 31/01/2016 21:38

Hi all. Just checking in. I'm feeling thoroughly fed up of January now but thats just a weather and dark thing!
Thanks for all the great links they will keep me busy!
Speaking of January and dry January I have noticed that a lot of my friends have struggled and are counting down the hours.... I on the other hand am really looking forward to a dry February too. I am not saying this to be smug or superior as I did my struggling and 'cracking' in Nov and December.
I just think that as a society we should take this whole thing a lot more seriously.

LikeaHurricane · 31/01/2016 22:30

Yay Donaj I'm with you into dry February! Smile and I'm glad to see the back of this rubbish wet, dark January. In fact it's not really stopped raining here (in the North West) since November. It's been crap! Off to bed now with Andrew Nooowww. Ha ha. What will people think??
Night sober warriors.

gladistopped · 31/01/2016 22:33

Off to bed with Andrew Nooowww as well

CheesyNachos · 01/02/2016 05:36

Morning all. You are right Hurricane I feel much better this morning sans hangover! :)

I think I need to check Andrew NOOOOOWWWW out also!

dona i agree that we need as a society to take alcohol more seriously. On the website Living Sober there is an interview with a woman who works with addiction and she describes our society as 'saturated' in alcohol. That hit the nail on the head for me. For heavens sake, my fb feed has a friend sharing a story about how he broke Dry January early and had to go to A&E and our friends are laughing and saying 'Good night then mate!'. It is normalised. It is TERRIFYING. Thank heavens my friend was okay..... we are all 40s and 50s, professional, families.

I do not want to get pious over alcohol- I know lots of people can handle it. I can't, that is all I need to focus on but I find it disturbing how alcohol is viewed culturally. (here in the UK at least).

On that note I shall wish you all a great day. :) I am up early to wave DH off on a work trip. Sans hangover as you said Hurricane. Waking up sober never gets old. :) :) :) Thanks

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LikeaHurricane · 01/02/2016 17:32

Cheesy your friend could so easily have been me not so long ago!! Although I would NEVER have shared that on Facebook, however certain friends have shared very drunken photos of me in the past and I've had no control over that....well apart from the fact that I could have not got quite as pissed I suppose!!
I've lost count of the times I've fallen over, banged my head, fallen partway down the stairs.....it's ridiculous really. I probably should be dead or have got seriously injured and it's not bloody funny is it? Weird thing is though, I'm not really ashamed of myself, it's pointless really as that would only make me feel worse. I am what I am and I know I can't handle it either. That's a fact. I'm glad you stayed strong Cheesy and as for Andrew NOOOWW, well you know my thoughts Smile

Now then here's something. My son who's 21 went out with his mates on Saturday night and got hammered. He doesn't usually do that to be honest as he spends most of his time with his girlfriend and neither of them are big drinkers. Plus, he likes being able to drive his car. Anyhow, yesterday he developed a really bad skin rash and swelling all over his face, neck and the back of his head. I was really concerned and insisted he make an appointment with the Dr this morning as there was no reason for it, such as new face wash etc etc. This morning, it had completely gone. Then I remembered, it has happened to him before, about 2 years ago which was the last time he got totally hammered!! It's poison, simple as. That's not being pious, it's the truth of it!!

The only thing I seem to miss is using my nice crystal red wine glass....so I think I'm going to have a look at having the odd glass of one of the Belvoir or Bottled Green soft drinks at weekend. That'll do me for now Smile

yellowfloss · 01/02/2016 19:09

likeahurricane Eisberg alcohol free wine is amazing. Really helped me Sat night. Nice glass, felt relaxed and happy and didn't feel I was missing anything. Maybe not for you but for now I really like it and it doesn't make me hanker after the real thing. Keeping it for a treat though.
cheesynachos the exhaustion I felt in the first 2 weeks is settling down and oooh yes, waking up hangover free is very nice thank you. Went to Aldi today and didn't have to dump shopping and race to the toilet with hangover diaorreah. Sorry is that's too much info but it's an astounding first for me!
lucy thanks for the links off to have a wee look.
Relaxing with a green tea and feeling peaceful.

LikeaHurricane · 01/02/2016 20:30

yellow where do you buy the Eisberg?? Thanks x

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