We haven't spoken in 3 days, this is really bad. We never not speak. Have been together 11 years, 2 kids under 4 and Im currently heavily pregnant at 8 months with number 3.
The problem is I find him totally inconsiderate. He was depressed for a while and started exercising which was great, but means I have to cook for him at 9/10 pm at night after he has got home from work and done his training. My 2yr old is getting up 3 times a night for some reason and my bladder is waking me up 7 times a night (no bladder infection checked with doctor) To say Im knackered is an under statement. He also falls asleep on the sofa and doesnt come upstairs until 5am which again wakes me up.
He is still being snappy at me with pressures of work and because Im hormonal I do a bit of silent crying about it. Think Ive started to cry everyday, usually Im not so sensitive, Im quite tough nut but at the moment Im not. I have tried to let it go over my head and not react but he woke me up after I had finally got to sleep and I just totally lost it. Earlier in the day I had tried to nap but because he was tickling our 4year old it was making her scream her head off, which obviously woke me again. Since I lost it, he refused to talk to me and we haven't spoken since Friday. We never not speak EVER.
Its been a slow slow burner of me becoming more and more frustrated. I have approached him many times in different ways telling him how tired I am and how he needs to be more considerate. It goes in one ear and out the other. We also havent had sex in months due to miscarriage worries and i find he never initiates any kind of loving kiss and cuddle to me. Looked on his phone and all I can see is porn sites in his history. Im quite liberal so I dont usually mind but today Ive actually seen him looking at an escort sites for escorts in the area where he comes on his way home via train. Im not sure what to think because he looked last night??
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NotSpeaking · 21/12/2015 10:24
Notspeaking So sorry you're going thru this but you've got a ton of support and info on here, I hope you have even more in real life as you need your mates and family to rally around. Don't be shy, get them all onboard!
How odd, does he not have a door key? Also, he sounds like he's been working on imprisoning you over the years.
Did you confront him yet about the escort site?? I would be curious as to his reaction, but I realise you may not want him knowing you checked his phone.
So glad you've got a plan and are motivated to be proactive in changing your circumstances. What a bastard! 
You're doing great but, as has been suggested, you need to inform yourself of your rights asap and def get some real life support to get thru this. You're gonna need all the practical/emotional support you can get and who knows how he's gonna react when he finds out?
I'm not sure how he'll react when you stop being his skivvy, even, but good on you for eventually putting your foot down. Let us know how it goes...At least on MN you can be sure there's plenty of women well equipped to advise as they've unfortunately gone through similar to you. 
Hello op.
I'm just wondering, do you think he could have started taking steroids? I know it's very common with men who suddenly start going to the gym and take to it in a big way.
He sounds like an arsehole anyway, I'm so pleased to see you're taking steps to change your life, you'll never look back
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The house is in his name, the money I do make goes straight on my daughters school fees and sons nursery costs. He hasn't made any kind of will. I'd be literally out with not a penny to my name.
He won't ever marry you OP, not while he has this massive hold over you that makes you bend to his will, cook his dinner and generally run round after him servicing his needs and wants.
You may need to make your peace with this. Start saving your money and walk. Start afresh on your own (with maintenance, don't forget), I bet your home will be a wonderful, happy place very quickly with just you and the DC there 
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