Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

Blimey, see what somebody upthread means about men feeling lonely at christmas! she said it'd be a shame not to ride the wave! I think I'm riding it too now. Have about five men messaging me at the moment. I'm sure it'll all die down. Two want to meet. I've just arranged a meeting with one next Tuesday. I get a bit panicky if I've too much arranged though. I start losing track. Who've i TOLD what.... not that I lie. But I don't want to repeat myself..

handywisewoman that reminds me of a man I dated last year. I didn't meet him through a site but by date 2 I'd found out that the separation was so amicable, he'd basically just taken his book and his slippers in to the spare bedroom. I didn't see him again because it seemed ridiculous to me.

Not a loo update but a slightly pissed at home update .....my date was lovely

Stayed til we got chucked out and just talked about anything and everything. Even got a snog at the end (go me - I feel 12 again!!).

Few issues that prob mean he isn't my Mr Right ....but def could be Mr Right-now for a while.

Which is what I need!

Even if he disappears I had a great night out which was my aim just not looking forward to the hangover

Ooh Start that's a good update!

I am feeling generally hungover (Xmas work drinks part III), tired and a bit burnt out from dating after MrLivesWithEx saga... Taking time out for 48hrs haha!

What do you make of this.

You get a message from somebody and the questions they ask - it just seems easy and the conversation flows. But they can see clearly that you're looking for a relationship and I can see clearly that their profile says they're not looking for anything serious. Do they not believe you? I raise it now. I say "you seem easy to get along with but i can see we're looking for something differnt, so good luck!''. But they keep messaging. I don't get it. I've had about seven messages in the last few days and at least five of them, the men have ''not looking for anything serious''. I have prioritised the ones who have ''open to a relationship'' of course. I'm just wondering, do they think that you'll show up, fancy them so much you'll sleep with them anyway? Or am I being too hard on these guys? have they no idea what they think will happen..... just wanting company.

Hmmm that's tricky Mince I would continue messaging, if it's flowing. And then if the issue of meeting comes up then I would confront the issue head on. I think. But then that might be asking for trouble as per my recent escapades.

Start hope you feeling better have you heard from him?

Ah, Start, that's great!

Mince, I think that just sometimes people just don't even know what they want. If you have a connection with them, keep it going and see what happens, as long as you are clear that you're not looking for a fling / one night stand, then it won't happen. But maybe you will click with one of them enough that something more substantial will happen.

Ahahah, I hate photos of me. I am also slightly wary of the cocky-bollocks men who list themselves as attractive or very attractive...

Lol at farming quotas!

It is such a fecking minefield.

I haven't been on this thread for a few months now got a bit disillusioned with OLD to be honest.

Last time I was on OKC I was chatting to a Greek/London man whom I'll call Mr Never - he was nice enough bits of chat never long but when i suggested meeting up after messaging since the summer he went quiet and swerved that question yet he still messages me.

Then there was Mr Lad who at my age 44 never married a bit of a lad works but also seemed to drink a bit (and cock shots!) he's nice but really not my type apart from a fling and even then....

Then we had Mr Orange who I met for a few dates, DTD about 2 months ago and he'd been wanting to see me on and off but he's an Orangeman, shoots rabbits and quite aggressive and showy which isn't me... Works in the City good finance package but not my type personality wise.

Mr Tigger was the final one a banker (uh-oh), divorced, no kids etc.... But since last month have been messaging and then what-sapping and we planned to meet before Xmas but he had flu, then had a work deadline and then I couldn't make it due a family function. So we are meeting next week. He seems to like me a lot, says so but not too much, was joking about getting engaged when I made a joke about him Xmas shopping, and we get on so well via whatsapp. Hope it pans out well in real life. As far as I know he wants a relationship. And he's even come off OKC now.

Strangely enough in past 2 weeks I had my close friend's brother come onto me at a wake and my ex fiancé from 20 years ago find me on FB and he got divorced this year!

Congratulations Waving on your divorce .

Just a small update from me. I had a date with Mr Forest last night. It went well, in fact he was very easy to get along with and the time flew!

I wouldn't say that I didn't find him attractive, but I wasn't blown away (does that sound fickle?).

We have kept emailing each other today, so we will see.

My two small concerns are that;

1. He's 11 years older than me (60yrs)
2. He originally said that he was retired, but then admitted that he is in fact unemployed. He was widowed and spent the past 15 years bringing up his children. He says that at his age, it's virtually impossible to get anyone to give you a job, especially with no recent work history. He does do a lot of voluntary work though.

Anyway, we shall see...

Lacoba66 Poor bloke I expect he's feeling very awkward re that job issue it's a real pain getting work 60 plus. Least he is doing some voluntary stuff so in my book that's a fine thing to do anyway as is bringing up the children after loosing his wife;-)

To the rest of you all!!

Have a great Christmastime and lets hope that 2016 brings all of you the happiness you all deserve!.

Bless you all and nite nite sleep tight:-)

Everyone I just wanted to jump on and wish everyone a very Happy Christmas!

Hopefully Santa has left a nice bloke under my tree!

Here's to a fun filled, date filled, happy 2016!!!!! [santa]

Happy Christmas everyone!!! I hope so too Sassy [santa]

Waving good to hear that Mr Soho appears to be redeeming himself & is possibly a front runner?

Hmmm, there is more to Mr Forest that I can't put on here, but I will just play it by ear for now..

Happy Christmas to all. Now off to put the dinner on and have a glass of . .

I always read this thread with interest as I'm soon to be divorced so plan to join you next year.

Happy 2016 everybody!