should i tell my daughter the truth about marriage?

[Lilipops]

I am new to this and wanted to find somewhere to ask a question anonymously.
I have been married nearly 11 years and have two children aged 7 & 9. My 7 year old is a girl and i am worried about the future for her.
My husband gives me the general impression that he doesn't like me very much. He's not abusive or even nasty and we never argue but he just doesn't talk to me or really have anything to do with me. We live practically separate lives and he knows very little about my life. I ran my own money and he has a well paid job and pays our mortgage and bills etc.
However, he seems to like to have sex with me still. This is something he does generally without my consent, (i say i don't want to but I'm perhaps I'm not forceful enough). This is in no way a love making exercise, it's just him fulfilling his 'need' and using me in order to do this (or at least that's how i feel). I dread going to bed as in not sure if he'll want to do it or not. There is no kissing or touching etc involved. I can't remember the last time we kissed and if we accidentally touch in day to day life it feels really awkward. I'm sure he thinks it's his way of showing me how much he does love me, but i don't feel like that. I struggle to talk to him about it as he flies off the handle very easily and says that on being really horrible to him saying such awful things.
I spoke to my mum a bit about this and she said to me that that's what marriage is like. All women have to put up with that, it's part of what is involved in being married. Why did she not tell me this a long time ago? I feel like i want to tell my daughter that is what will happen to her to allow her to make the decision whether she wants to get married or not. I know she's only 7 but i don't want her to go through this. What should i do? Put her off getting married this early or let her believe the fairytale until she's older?

[TesticleOfObjectivity]

Op I've noticed you seem to put yourself down a lot in your posts. You've blamed yourself for being naive, called yourself unattractive and stuff. I worry that your husband has made you have a low opinion of yourself. I've seen that happen before and it's sad to see. I hope you realise that you are worth something and none of this is your fault.

[IonaNE]

OP, how about you don't tell the "truth about marriage" to your daughter, since it is not the truth and your mum is wrong. (I am rather surprised that you are English, I was sure you were from a different culture, btw.) TBH this situation is not only worrying for your daughter but also your son: what does your husband tell/show him about what marriage is like? Your husband is raping you - you want to get away from him and take your children from the vicinity of someone whose ideas about what marriage is include rape.

[VestalVirgin]

I am rather surprised that you are English, I was sure you were from a different culture, btw.

People who speak the same language and belong to the same ethnic group can have vastly different cultures. I have had this sort of culture shock a couple of times.

With things that happen inside marriages, you often don't know because it doesn't come up in conversation.

The disagreements about whether or not it is a sign that a marriage is ruined if a couple has separate bedrooms, for example. I was shocked to hear from a friend that she hadn't thought it possible (or likely) to move in with a man and retain her own bedroom.

[pinkyredrose]

How are you doing today OP? I'm been thinking about this thread, hope it's given you a new perspective on your marriage and food for thought. This time of year is good for revaluating ones life, you deserve to be happy and hopefully you'll take the steps needed to get yourself to a happy place so that by tome next Xmas comes around you won't be feeling the way you do now.