DP thinks I should be doing more now I'm on Mat Leave

[Icklepickle101]

Just had a heated discussion about household jobs with DP as I asked him to do the washing up before he goes to bed, he says he will do it tomorrow. This has been going on for months, he leaves it and leaves it until we have no clean plates/cups/pots/cutlery left and will then do some of it until 'the hot water runs out' or I get so fed up of living in a disgusting mess I do it myself.

The only other jobs he has is the bins, his own ironing and he will hoover the stairs for me about once a month

I do everything else.

He has now piped up that as I'm on maternity leave I should be doing the washing up as he is tired from work. The fact I'm on crutches, strong painkillers and 8 months pregnant didn't seem to be an issue as I had all day to 'relax'.

Am I wrong in sticking to my gins and continue nagging on a daily basis for him to wash up? I'm considering leaving him to do his own washing/cooking until he can take responsibility and do it daily as it's really starting to piss me off!!

The telling point is that he won't even pick up his game temporarily. That isn't just laziness, gender stereotyped expectations of housework divisions or learned hopelessness - it's a lack of empathy and love. He's learned from his own Dad that it's easier to get what you want from a woman if you don't actually love her.

InTheProcess has just shot to an upper tier of Wise Women, IMHO. Heed her words.