What do you think about men in their 40's?

[WhiteSwan1]

I'm just asking myself, what is it with men in their 40's or is it just me? I've just come back from my BF's (I'm 39, he's mid 40's) and really have a feeling of him not being sure of what he wants in the future (apart from seeing me as someone fairly interesting and attractive to spend some time with) after seeing me for 18 months.

I recently had a message from ExH (mid 40's) reminding me of how long ago we met and I wonderfully came in to his life (he is now seeing someone else from 5 months after we split up and is still with her).
I have another friend (mid 40's) who has admitted he is cheating on his DW.
I have another male friend (mid 40's) who can't commit to a relationship with any woman and is acting like he's 20 going out with multiple women.
I guess it's just my age and who I know but I just wondered if some men in their 40's go through a stage when they just don't know what they're doing? Any male responses are also appreciated.

voyage he wears Lycra ALL THE TIME. Including when he picked DD up from school.

I only averted my eyes from the mamil because his lycra was TOO small! and his exposed arse was right in front of my windscreen. I squirted the windscreen for the laff. :-p

My x is still wearing his PE gear from school to go out on his bike I reckon.

I don't get the ridicule on here towards men having hobbies like cycling or skateboarding. Nothing wrong with it.

skateboarding? at 42? really?
cringe
some sports do not suit middle age.
skateboarding is one of those.

The only MAMIL I know is a right knobber with it - out all day Saturday cycling whilst wife is left with the kids and too tired Sunday to do anything round the house.

Mind you, that's probably because he's a prat more than because he's a cyclist but it doesn't seem to be uncommon

That's true. Cycling doesn't make me bat an eyelid, but on my way to work everyday, I walk most days, a man of about 52 tuts me as he tries to skateboard past me on the path. He has a pony tail too I do think oh dude where do you work.........

Cabrinha just seen your post telling me to fuck off! wow. FOr one thing, I think you've misunderstood which end of the cyclist was in our faces. It wasn't the front end. It was basically builder's bum on a bike, with not enough material (that happened to be lycra) covering it. It was a big gap.. It wasn't pretty but I wasn't mocking him for cycling. I only heard the term mamil for the first time tonight. There were loads of other cyclists too and their gear fitted. So if you don't mind, I'm going to take your fuck off and reject it.

I don't know, if they used to skateboard when younger and stopped when they started to get bogged down with working and raising a family then what is wrong with them taking it up again when they are older. I know some men who have taken it up with their sons but will go and have a skate at the skate park on their own too.

sounds like he followed The Script Waving.
sorry you were put through this.
he may never admit or apologise for his behaviour.

be sure to have plenty popcorn and beer in, once the girlfriend gets knocked up. and enjoy the show.
because by then, you'll have a new lease of life while he's elbow deep in nappies with his new family. he'll have more baggage than heathrow airport.

always I found out that he'd taken up skateboarding when I saw him in the distance with my 5 yr old DD. He'd just picked her up from a play date. She was running as fast as she could to try and keep up with him.

Jesus Christ Waving if you saw that story line played out on a tv drama you'd think it was too much of a cliché. These men don't seem to have a shred of self awareness.
It does scare me how frequently you hear stories of mlc men having the ability to completely alter their attitude to their own children. My son's dad (split years ago) has a much younger girlfriend. I do wonder how long before she wants kids, and how that will pan out for my son. Not that he is exactly father of the year as it is.

"She was running as fast as she could to try and keep up with him."

Yeah good luck keeping up with a 42 year old skateboarder grinding his way to the Just For Men aisle in Asda's.

Yes waving but he will be the sad character skulking at the back at your dcs weddings/ kids christenings. My bfs father did this - left the family for sexy younger women. He lives alone now - a sad character facing a lonely old age. His youngest daughter won't speak to him she witnessed the mothers devastation. his other dd invites him to her family events out of pity. He is an embarrassment to them.

Compared with my own father same age, much adored, long marriage, travels with wife and still has fun, centre of the lives of his dc and grandchildren. I sometimes wonder if these men realise what they are throwing away..

I visited a friend recently. Her dad remarried about 15 years ago and out of the four sibkings she is the only one still communicating with him .
He cheated over and over and their mother began to drink.
HOW can a new wife be worth losing the respect of and contact with your children..