Would you have a night of steamy hot passionate sex if you knew your dh/dp would never find out?

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& they'd be no repercussions whatsoever.

That's fine purple.

But I have cheated on a partner, and let me tell you, I won't be doing that to DH. He deserves better.

Believe whatever you want about people.

I'd do it. And I know DP would too.

Sexual ownership is not the crux of all relationships.

No, I'm pretty much over sex these days.

No. I already have steamy hot passionate sex with DP

I did last night. With Brax from Home and Away. Although it might just have been a dream.......

Actually even in the dream I remember the closeness and cuddles rather than actual sex! Woke up feeling happy anyway.

Haven't told DH. Think I'd get

Yes but I'd have to be 20 years younger with an amazing body and it would have to be with Aidan Turner or Dave Grohl. So no in any realistic sense.

No, not with dp. Not sure I even would have with knob exh either

No. If I want hot steamy sex I have it with my OH. She knows what and how to do it the best as she knows me the best.

One night stands are shit, much nicer knowing exactly how tonturn your partner on.

The problem is, if it were that good, that steamy, is once going to be enough?

No to your first post, I adore my dh and wouldn't want to spend my life knowing I'd disrespected our marriage like that, regardless of consequences.

But... I think if there were a million pounds on the table...no, still wouldn't.

But clearly if the were a royal decree, I wouldn't want to go losing my head over not having an affair with a hot guy of my own choice

No, unless it was for a million pounds or with Ian Somerhalder

Even if OH never found out, you'd always know (I assume, otherwise it is pointless isn't it?) and that knowledge would negatively affect you henceforth IMO.

Your feelings for the integrity of the relationship would be broken. Your level of self regard would be reduced significantly (you are a cheat!). And I suspect, your ability to fully trust your OH (and potential future OH's) hadn't done the same, would be smashed (if you did it, how can you not wonder if they have done it too, maybe even more than once).

I don't believe in religion or woo but I think karma is real in that there are almost always natural repercussions to good and bad behaviour which play out in the longer term. Even if you do get away with it.

I cheated on a friend in my youth (with his gf - I was in a very dark place mental health-wise, which is how I vaguely justify it to myself) and I've honestly regretted nothing more in my life. It was decades ago but I still have some trust issues which cause R no end of annoyance. I think it stems from my own behaviour in the past.

Nope.

No I would know and it would eat me up. My partner is a good man, not always the best partner but a good man and I could never do that to him.

No it's one thing thinking about it on a hypothetical thread, but in RL, I respect my DP too much and even if he never knew, I'd know.

Plus he's the best I've ever had, so no point. He makes me melt just by looking at me! If that weren't the case then I can see why some people might be tempted.

But tbh if you don't love someone enough to be faithful and fancy them enough to want sex with them, why would you stick around?

As for the hypothetical fidelity rate, I think we'd all like to think we have high morals standards and that we wouldn't compromise those. Whether this is fact when confronted with the reality, who knows.

If the question was "would you steal a new car if nobody ever found out?" would we all say no?

What if the stakes were upped to £1 million. Does the fact that it's morally wrong stop us from doing that too?

I know on those threads where someone has accidentally ended up with something they didn't pay for, the majority of posters are horrified at the suggestion they keep it. Personally I think this isn't as big a deal as actually stealing with intent.

I think it's the lack of intent that makes a difference. On here we all have no intention to cheat. If it ever happened it wouldn't be because we've gone looking for it.

I have no intention to cheat - but it doesn't stop me looking !!! Lol !!!

Nope, would much prefer the house to myself and a good book/glass of wine.

If the question was "would you steal a new car if nobody ever found out?" would we all say no?

My answer to that one is yes! 100% guaranteed no repercussions for me or anyone else, hell yeah - free car.

The difference between that question and the one the OP is asking is one of emotional betrayal. I'm not betraying (however unknowingly) someone I really really love and respect by pinching a Nissan.

My morals are wide ranging and flexible (I'd keep accidentally stolen goods from Tesco too, shhhhh)

No, but mainly because I'm not that into sex, so I'm not really bothered!

The problem is, if it were that good, that steamy, is once going to be enough?

I think this is the reason most people wouldn't do it. What would be the point for one night? It would just end in heartache even if your partner never found out.

No, DH is the only one for me.

No I couldn't, because every time I looked into his trusting eyes I'd know what I'd done to him.
Anyway, we already have steamy sex

Jesus.
Really?
No. Way.

Faithful or not. Up to you.

And be able to live with yourself after?

Nope. It's not me.

I actually can't imagine it.