Would you have a night of steamy hot passionate sex if you knew your dh/dp would never find out?

[SurferJet]

& they'd be no repercussions whatsoever.

Yes... theoretically.

For a million pounds? Oh, well, that's different. DH would be shoving me out the door .

Expat

Ha Pmsl laughing here about taking one for the team!
I would like a hot steamy night but with dh in a nice hotel with a nice big breakfast in the morning! And maybe one extra night to just chill and sleep and another big breakfast before coming back to the chaos at home!

Well, this is easy. No.

No.

I would however jump at the chance of a weekend on my own to sleep, read and have baths in peace

I totally agree with Twinkle.

Compared to DP I don't find any other man attractive enough to want to have sex with.

So I'll have hot steamy sex with DP thanks all the same

No, I have self respect and I want to treat my partner with respect.

No way.

Nothing could be a bigger turn off for me than knowing I'm betraying the person I love, adore and am attracted to more than anyone else in the most horrible way.

The way you phrase it is what interests me, OP - are you suggesting that most people are only faithful for fear of their infidelity being found out by their OH? That their own personal morality, the strictures of religion if they're religious, how they might feel within themselves after an undiscovered infidelity, a worry in case they or the other person might risk emotional attachment etc etc etc play no part?

Wouldn't a more interesting question be 'what would stop you having a NSA ONS, even if you could be 100% sure your partner would never find out?'

No I wouldn't. I would hate the idea and it would be meaningless.

No, absolutely not. I don't want to sleep with anyone else anyway, and that aside, I would know, and I promised in my wedding vows to be faithful.
I just can't imagine looking at DH's loving, trusting face with something like that hanging over me. The mere thought makes me feel sick with horror.

With another person, no, definitely not. I would like a night of hot steamy sex with my DP though.

So the hypothetical fidelity rate on here is nearly 100%.

Even though the real-life one is nothing like that!

I do find that funny.

No

Never in a million years

I have morals and I can't stand dirty rotten cheats..!

Oh I missed the bit about a million pounds. DH would wonder where it had come from. I asked him what he would want me to do if I had to make the decision without him knowing.

He said 'Do it for our pensions so we could retire early and just enjoy ourselves...... no don't do it, we would be living with a big lie between us and you would end up telling me because you always do and then we'd both be upset and it wouldn't be worth it.......but..... we could spend some of the money on counselling.....is this someone you don't fancy who someone else has chosen as a bet or is it someone you want to have sex with.........no don't do it.......unless..........no absolutely don't, it would be awful and anyway we could have nights of wild sex if the youth would sort himself out. Let's plan a night of wild sex, maybe SIL would look after him for a night'

The 'youth' is 10 months old.

I'm also slightly at the hypothetical fidelity rate on here.

I've been married for 20+ years and would never cheat on my dh irl. But if somebody offered me NSA attached high-quality sex with the guarantee that nobody would ever find out, I would be seriously tempted. I defy anybody who has been having sex with the same person for many years to not occasionally wonder what it would be like to have a hot shag with someone else.

Whether I would actually go through with it is another matter, but if there was a guarantee that there would be no repercussions and no one would get hurt, I would give it serious consideration.

No. I'm committed to my DH who I love & respect, and believe he feels the same about me. Being found out has nothing to do with it.

I'm also slightly confused at the hypothetical fidelity rate on here

I've been married for 20+ years and would never cheat on my dh irl. But if somebody offered me NSA attached high-quality sex with the guarantee that nobody would ever find out, I would be seriously tempted. I defy anybody who has been having sex with the same person for many years to not occasionally wonder what it would be like to have a hot shag with someone else

Whether I would actually go through with it is another matter, but if there was a guarantee that there would be no repercussions and no one would get hurt, I would give it serious consideration

^
This.

I've been having sex with the same person for over 7 years. I know what sex with other people is like, I had plenty of that before meeting him.
How I feel about it is, our relationship/marriage is this incredibly important, central thing in my life, and it seems somehow pure and perfect.
Me cheating would damage and sully this perfect thing, and I would have ruined the best thing I've ever had.
What, for some randomer's cock up me?

I don't think there is anything strange about the 'hypothetical fidelity rate' on the thread. Posters who have responded are from a self selected group and are more likely to respond if they feel strongly about it. It's not the basis for a statistical analysis.

No I wouldn't, despite some posters scepticism.

There are very few men I find attractive other than dh in RL. There was one dad of one of DSs friends I thought was quite attractive when I first met him for about a month, once I knew him I didn't fancy him any more. That's it.

I don't even think I'd be tempted by the celebs I quite fancy.

So the hypothetical fidelity rate on here is nearly 100%.

Even though the real-life one is nothing like that!

I do find that funny.

It is much more likely that the people who would are avoiding the thread, rather than lying here.

I don't think so, not necessarily.

If you're decent, you mayn't feel the need to proclaim the fact.

I also know that human beings both delude and justify themselves at every opportunity!

I have never cheated on my husband, though I have been tempted to, FWIW. But I wouldn't rule out a consequence-free fantasy shag IN MY HEAD, which is what this thread is about.