Support thread for old

[kateshair]

Hi all I've done old for a year now.
Have experienced highs and lows several lows !!
Had dates with no connection whatsoever regardless of getting on well via the site. Had a date with bang instant chemistry. Had dates that have turned into a relationship (so I thought ) only to have then simply disengage with me...
I'm coming close to pulling the plug on it all. Not sure it helps that I'm the ripe old age of 40.. Last time I was single was 29 and within six months had meet someone ...
Am finding the men on old go for or hope to go for women ten years younger than them..
What do you all think...
Would be nice to have a place to vent and discuss this all. The dating thread seems to be quiet of late..

I've got three dates lined up in the next 3 weeks!

Not sure how I managed that!!!!!

And I told myself I was gonna take a step back from OLD!

Ha!

Good for you handy, let us know how they go!

Daresay I'll get jaded by the whole business sooner or later, but full of hope at the moment.

Going out at weekends didn't do much for my confidence but having over 200 men 'like' is an huge boost, even if most of them aren't my type are punching well above their weight, if I say so myself.

It's really really hard as a disabled guy in a wheelchair to get any form of date. I'm mis-thirties and have a reasonable age range yet it seems any kind of disability scares people away. My profile states that I'm willing to discuss it too. Sigh.

As an aside, when I was 19, I dated a woman in her late thirties/early forties. We definitely had some chemistry and the sex was incredible....until I found out she was married....she always travelled to me and we stayed in hotels a couple of times per month around excursions. Lasted perhaps four months then her husband found out and I never heard from her again. She said having young blood was "exhilarating"!!

I'm so sorry to hear that, Steve.

I'm venturing back onto this thread for some advice.

I took the plunge and downloaded Tinder (FYI loads better than Match!).
I've been talking to a guy for about 2 weeks now, we have loads in common; we like the same music, films etc. We have talked on the phone a few times and the conversation is so easy and we have the same sense of humour.

But, and isn't there always a but?!
He's a good bit younger than me . My common sense side knows that age-gap relationships rarely work out so what the hell am I doing??
He says i shouldn't be bothered, he has been online for a few months and he considers himself lucky he is now talking to someone genuine who he really likes and he knew my age before he swiped right.

I'm just meeting him tomorrow night so I may be a bit ahead of myself as we may not like each other at all in RL!!
But my common sense side says I'm mad to even meet him!

I think he's right...enjoy it for what it is at the moment. Meet him tomorrow night, and see if you still have the connection in RL. If you do, then great..You'll never know unless you meet him anyway .

Go, and have fun

Waving maybe you should hold off dtd? Perhaps you just need to be surer about whether you want to? There can never be any guarantees about what people will do, as we all know.

So, I am seeing the very interesting sounding chap tomorrow, and I'm really looking forward to it. Since our flurry of communication last week we've not really been conversing, other than re practicalities. And I actually prefer it that way. He knows I was away last week and he told me he was away over the weekend song feel there will be enough to talk about. Which makes me look forward to it more. Anyone else like it like this?

So the question is, what to wear although I'll be in a rush so it's bound to end up jeans and nice top

Hi waving I'm in the same boat as you. Have had five dates with mr nice, the deed is done. Date six and seven lined up. All seems well. I haven't had an exclusive conversation with him. I need too and think will do so after a few wines on our next date. I do t think he is the type to double date but I've been stung by a few recent ones so I am aware that you never can be sure ! Think the only was is just to say are we exclusive !

Waving there are no guarantees. He could agree to the terms then bugger off anyway. Only have sex with him if you fancy a good time/hot sex. I've never started the exclusive convo before (not really felt the need) but the guy I've been on 5 dates with did with me at the weekend, before we dtd. He just said "I'm not seeing anyone else, if you're not shall we make it official?"

(Eep!)

Good on you nice that's fab

Thanks Youvebeen I think I will just go along and see what happens!

However I have another 2 dates lined up over the next 2 weeks and i'm feeling a bit guilty. Do you mention to the people you see that you are dating other people? Or do you just stay quiet??

Dating has changed so much! I see a lot of posts mention the "exclusive conversation", that's a new concept to me I usually just dated one bloke at a time but I see times change!

Just got back from date with 'interesting sounding chap'!

He's nice, I did enjoy chatting he has a lovely body and a lovely, easy way about him.

My dc were at fireworks display with their dad at my instigation so I could go out and sadly dd texted when only 5 mins sway so I had to dash back home I hope I didn't put him off...

But there was a kiss-on-the-cheek at the end. And we were going to just drink a pint each. But ended up having 1.5!

Fun! We'll see....

Date 1 with young Tinder guy went very well, the conversation was so easy that 3 hours went past without realising it and we found we have tons in common.
I raised the age difference and he said I hoped I could get over it as he hoped to see me again for hopefully date 2 and beyond. He said he would never have believed I was my age and that I was extremely attractive, mind you I think he was being kind but as compliments have been thin on the ground lately I'll take it in the spirit it was meant!

Date No 2 has been arranged for early next week (he has his kids this weekend) so i'll see how that goes.

I suppose I don't want to be thought of as a "cougar", urgh I even hate the word!!

ellie it all seems very odd to me too. Talking to four people, first date with one tomorrow, and don't really want to talk to the others now

Realise he might be, and can't expect anything else after less than a week of speaking, but to me it just doesn't feel right

Oh well, hoping it goes well tomorrow night. We have texted literally hundreds of time over the past few days, he looks gorgeous to me on his

Posted too soon!

Very hot on his profile picture and we seem to have a connection - can you read much into texts? They vary from practical to flirty

Keeping fingers crossed for a nice evening anyway!

Thank you, definitely agree a drink or 2 is a good idea!

waving good luck to you as well, let us know how you get on!

Any news from your chap Handywoman?

Good luck waving, enjoy it! And everyone else off on adventures this weekend.

Waving, there is a 17 year age gap between us and we bonded over a shared love of sci-fi, Star Trek and Indiana Jones; I'm not sure which of these 2 statements I'm most embarrassed about!

I've talked to friends and they think I should just wait and see how it goes it's just dating just now in any case.
Good luck with your date tonight!

Autumn you too- good luck!