Hi, just got away to catch up with you. This has got to have been one of the worst days of my life. Thank for all your words of support and for thinking of me and also your prayers sadwidow and your post Breadandwine. More proof that there are good men out there!
This morning I heard OH on phone to his dad and couldn't hear what he was saying but his voice was raised and heard him say she's not going anywhere.
Short while later I asked when he was going to pack and he said he wasn't. We talked for ages, I told him it was over and we needed to sort the house out etc but the priority was DS and used some of the suggestions of words posted. Said we needed to do the right thing for ds and was he really going to watch us pack and leave his home, his familiar surroundings, all his things, his own bed and he said if I did that, that would be me who was doing it to our son not him. I told him if there was no DS I would have left on day one and he knows that but he was leaving me with no choice and it was only until house sold etc. But he wasn't budging.
Sister then turned up and I gave her a brief rundown and she practically ran me over whilst she charged upstairs. "Tosspot why the f..k are you still here. Come on get a move on, pack your bags and f..k off I've not got all day". They then had a massive argument and I thought she was going to lynch him. Then friends arrived.
Time went by, loads of arguing, he still wasn't moving so we started to pack our things well me and friends were, I left sister with him and we loaded them into the boot of my car. He then came out and started unloading it and crying and for the first time ever apologised and asked me to forgive him, we can work it out etc. I was crying too for all the hurt he had caused me. He suggested a separation for a while but I said no, it's over, there is no going back.
He has more said that he will leave but will go tomorrow. The first decent act he has done through all this if he does it. He said he wanted to see DS and us both speak with him together which speaking to him together I think is a good idea. Wasnt keen on what he might say to him by himself. He said he didn't want to just leave and DS come home and see him gone. Even though he would see him all the time anyway and OH said he will go and stay with his mum and dad.
I don't know how you all read this but i think this is a good step forward and I hope he follows it through tomorrow and doesn't go back on what he has said. I think I've really got a chance of us staying here and not having to leave until things are sorted. I've asked him to ring his dad and tell him that's what's happening to make it more real. I think this morning his dad was making sure my dc wasn't leaving.
DS will back soon and when he is asleep I am going over to sisters for the evening.