just found out his friend isn't just a friend # 2

[binders1]

Binder army, please find me.

In summary found out 10 days ago OH has been having an affair for the 14 years we have been together and we have one DS 8 yrs. OW is someone he has been sleeping with since college. She is married with 2 dc' s and who knows OH could be biological father of child(re n). She is also someone we have been to lunches and dinners twice yearly where she has acted inappropriately. When questioned OH years ago he said I was mad and denied a relationship except friendship. Found porno photos of them over the decades in the loft.

I don't know what else to say as so much info was in thread 1. I have relied on the support of the old thread. I call them my binder army. Tomorrow is d day, he leaves the house or we do.

A live stream may not be possible, but HellKitty can draw us some pictures.

Stay strong Binders, we're all behind you.

Binders, another lurker delurking, wanting to let you know that I hope it pans out smoothly today. Hopefully he will be making plans to be out with somewhere sorted to stay. Where has he been sleeping this week?
Do you have any mutual friends you could get on side to get him out?

Private Dancer reporting for duty. Sorry I'm late, was listening to any old music.

Hope it goes as well as it can today. We're all behind you x

Binders, I am delurking to wish you strength for today and the days to come.

You have been given some great advice on this thread and you have already shown yourself to be a strong woman!

I wish I had had a similar army when my cockwomble pulled a series of similar stunts many years ago. And I probably would have, had I known of the existence of MN!!

I am proud to have now enlisted in Binders Army. Right behind you Ma'am.

Go binders. Hoping the cheating fucker fucks off. We are all behind you.

You're a strong woman Binders

Good luck today and White with Lemonade for later!

I've read both threads - you are AMAZING Binders! Be strong - we're all with you...

Delurking to add my support and to and agree you are amazing

Never ceases to amaze me what jinx some people can get up to!.

Do you know why he didn't just shack up with this "friend" from all those years ago and avoid you having to bear all this grief?.

If the pratt had any decency he would just not come back anyway!.

Delurking...

is what I thought of when he prissied himself up to go out.

Encourage him to go out more, Binders, the sooner he can hookup with someone else-the sooner he'll fuck off for good.

Best wishes for you and your ds.

Damn it! wrong video jumped on there....

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Very early AM where I am, just got up and having coffee.

Good luck. Prayers and positive thoughts being sent your way. Be strong and stand tall.

Hey there. Just wanted to stop lurking and say Good Luck for this afternoon. I ve been following your thread and find the way you ve handle this nightmare truly inspiring. Go kick his arse......

Also de-lurking to say a couple of things:

To show it is definitely NOT just a case of the "Sisterhood" supporting you either - I’m a bloke in my late 70s, who is ashamed to be of the same sex as your XP.

More power to your elbow, binder. I hope this afternoon turns out to just as you’d like it to. Every good wish for your future – and that of your DS, of course.

I predict you will come out of this in a far better position than cockwomble (? - where do these wonderful descriptives come from? ).

You have behaved impeccably throughout this whole episode. You have your dignity and self-respect to draw on. He is devoid of dignity, has no self-respect - and never will have!

I just need to add - the outpouring of support that you have received on these threads is phenomenal! Mumsnet at its best!

Very very early morning here, too.... just having my first coffee.

Wishing you the very strongest focus and sending you a virtual new recruit. He has to be the one to go! He did the crime, so he pays the fine.

You rock Breadandwine. Stay strong Binders1

Supplies for the troops - x a squillion

Hope it's going ok.

Have been checking in and out today (have now bribed silence from DS in the form of a small bun and Mike the Knight).

Hope you're okay Binders. If it gets too much and you feel like caving in, remember, we're here. Don't let the dickhead xp who thinks with his purple headed womb ferret get the better of you.

Tea anyone?

Purple headed womb ferret MrsP, I think I luffs you!

Wish I could send a over to help.

Lovely post BreadandWine. Real men wouldn't behave like this would they? But there are a few real losers around.

Another one enlisting in Binder's Army.
Good luck Binder's & remember you rock & we are all rooting for you x

He's got 15 minutes to get out. Hope those suitcases are out.

I found you! Yay I'm not awol, I'm here for you, binders!

Hope he's packing his suitcases and getting out of your home.

Just got the end of the thread so far.

I hope, no matter what, that you are feeling ok and sounds like you have some great support there.