just found out his friend isn't just a friend # 2

[binders1]

Binder army, please find me.

In summary found out 10 days ago OH has been having an affair for the 14 years we have been together and we have one DS 8 yrs. OW is someone he has been sleeping with since college. She is married with 2 dc' s and who knows OH could be biological father of child(re n). She is also someone we have been to lunches and dinners twice yearly where she has acted inappropriately. When questioned OH years ago he said I was mad and denied a relationship except friendship. Found porno photos of them over the decades in the loft.

I don't know what else to say as so much info was in thread 1. I have relied on the support of the old thread. I call them my binder army. Tomorrow is d day, he leaves the house or we do.

Has OH now disposed of the photos ? you should definitely keep a few (for now) as evidence for OWH.

What a walking bitch. So it's your responsibility to now consider her children? It's not. It is her responsibility. She had an affair. She fucked up two families. If her family bear a fallout it is her own doing.

Off to see my gorgeous boy and hear all about his day and give lots of hugs and kisses.

As always, thanks everyone for helping me AGAIN. I think things could have gone drastically different if you hadn't been on hand. You calmed me down, supported me, gave good advice and threw in a few laughs for good measure.

Feeling much better now. Still smiling at visualizing the binder army lined up nodding away at the police and Rotty looking all innocent (if she ever could) but we don't advocate violence of any kind! (Unless she shows up at my door and then I really don't know what I would do).

Thanks again x

Agree, keep everything you found on the pair of them. Screenshot an texts you receive.

I can't see her having the brass neck to turn up on the doorstep.

Get her dhs contacts in your phone, so if she turns up, you can call him and ask him to come and collect his hysterical wife from your doorstep. Then open the door, and inform her that her husband is on his way, and she had better think of reasons why she is shrieking at the door of her lovers ex wife's house. Then calmly close door.

Seriously, if she turns up at your door, you close it. Don't speak to her. If she persists, call the police.

Jesus Christ the cheek of her. Enjoy it Binders. Picture her with her stomach in knots. Unable to put her phone down. Lying awake at night. Have you got her h number? There she is, cacking it in case HIS phone rings. And it's your number on the screen. Laugh at her gamely trying to convince him she's fine. I'm fine, no of course there's nothing wrong, why do you keep asking me what's the matter??? And checking her phone again. And again.

You're right in her head Binders and you hold every single card.

She'll cave way before you do. You're strong. Be strong.

Channel your inner Charlie Brooker for this one (did you ever watch the Black Mirror stories he did?)

Muh haha haha!

Fun as thinking replies is, silence to both your ex and her is the best option.

Your ex with "are you sure this is what you want?"

Easy answer "Of course it's not what I fucking want. I wanted a life with you the man I loved. Not the cheating skanky bastard you turned out to be. Unfortunately you made that impossible, now FOTTFSOF..."

As for her. Poor diddums.

Tell him "If that fucking skanky whore dares to contact me again it will not be pleasant. Tell her to FOTTFSOF when you are next screwing her"

Neither of them has given a shiny shit about you or the fallout for your DS.

Selfish bastards.

Dagger scares me!!!

Maybe reply "How do you know I haven't told him already? Maybe he's just waiting for the right time to confront you." That'll send a swift rush of shit to her heart!

Nah, better to just remain silent.

I did like 'patience, patience, lol'

Had just the right amount of 'I don't give a shit about you' plus casual threat.

Binders, I'm also cheering for you and I think cherry Bakewell suggestion is a good one if OWH contacts you, it doesn't name names, but gives the facts.

He may never do that, but it could happen.

I feel bad for her family and am amazed that she is only now thinking about them.

You are showing so much dignity regarding this hard faced Sofa Slapper...more than I could do. The thing that would stick in my craw more than anything else, is the way she played you whenever you met. She wasn't feeling ill then was she? Oh no, she was playing the old "I know something you don't". Revelling in it, the utter bitch.

Well now, it's payback time. And you hold all the cards Bindy. Keep em close to your chest for now. Remember, revenge is a dish best served cold.

She has brass balls that one.

Shame for her to sweat it, perhaps if she started being less selfish and told her husband then she wouldn't be sweating it would she?

Or if she'd just stayed faithful even.

Be prepared for your ex to raise it on her behalf, no doubt she will text him so have something prepared then.

Definitely keep open and honest about what they've done and why you have split to friends and family.

OW H: why do you keep checking your phone darling

OW: I don't keep checking it. I'm not checking it

OW H: yes you do, you've checked it 50 million times in the last few minutes

OW : er erm it's been playing up a bit today but it's probably nothing.

OW H : let me have a look at it.

OW : NOOO!!!!!! I SAID IT'S FINE it's probably nothing!

OW H : are you SURE you're ok darling, you seem a little distracted. Why don't we pop out for dinner tonight, have a bite to eat?

OW: I'm not hungry

Oh it's delicious. And yes to Daggers - am I a bit evil..?

Don't rely on people telling OWH. Typically in a lot of these situations, the victim never gets told because no-one wants to disclose the information or hopes that someone else will tell them. It is very possible that he will be left in the dark and that is very unfair. He deserves to know. I disagree with the posters saying to send the pictures. What a horrible way to find out! He needs to be told face to face or by a letter. If binders chooses to tell him all she needs to tell him is that her OH admitted it. It's then up to him if he chooses to believe it or do anything about it. If he wants proof he'll have to confront his OH and binders OH.

Thanks Cherry actually yes I see what you mean now. I'm not evil, because I've not been shagging somebody else's husband for the greater part of my adult life while being married to someone else. I can be such a silly Billy sometimes.

I have no words...

Blocking her is best I think.

The calling her husband if she turns up is genius though would be a cruel way for him to find out.

Keep the text as you could show to her h if he asks for proof.

My immediate response to that text was "what the kids who could possibly have been fathered by XP? The husband you have cuckolded and repeatedly humiliated? Hindsight is a wonderful thing or is it just remorseless panic about being caught?"

I knew she'd turn out to be an insecure selfish little woman just like he is an insecure selfish little man.

Cherry let's meet up with Binders and Mr Binders, fucking brilliant, I've just spat beer out and I don't like to waste booze. Let's all picture her trying to respond to that!