DRY 9!!!!!

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The DRY 8 thread suddenly came to an end! 1000 messages before we knew it.

THis is the thread for those who are abstaining and who want to abstain from alcohol. :)

All are welcome.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2432985-DRY-8?

Love food network. Also always on at home. Last week I caught myself thinking; 'That Ina's a bit boozy, isn't she?'

So says she who used to start drinking in the morning when cooking Sunday lunch......

Sorry to hear about all the stumbles but good to see people back and at it...

Sea - don't forget you can always just say NO to any night out that seems risky. The world will not stop turning if you don't go to something, no matter what it is...

Bam - were you really stern with him?!

A song that always makes me cry with happiness for some reason is Elbow's One Day Like This. Many's the time during a dark moment I've danced around the kitchen with my DC, secretly shedding a tear or two while they boing around....

Oh I love Ina cheesy! I want to live in her world - it all looks so fabulous and sophisticated!

Teapot I was stern, but it was a mutual chat about the whole thing, and how we are actually so much happier and chilled out when we are sober, so we have to be much tougher together.

Custard I could never run in a million years, but I like walking and find anything by AC/DC is at just the right pace!

Thanks for the welcome all

Horrible, restless night's sleep again last night, but feel OK this morning.

Lucy I was the OP of the last two Dry January threads if that helps you to recognise me, but I'll just drop you a quick PM .

Welcome Armada - I recognise you :)

Right, I'm off to Try To Get Things Done.. :)

Custard I am going to add Sober and my favourite Pink song "Like A Pill" to my list.

Actually it is a good idea BamBam, I may do myself a list of feisty tunes .

Thanks Teapot, I think for now I will have to say no, and formulate a plan for those occasions when I can't say no.

Oh good, Teapot, I'm glad. I didn't want to be totally incognito, just a bit different to who I am elsewhere on MN so my boozy habits don't follow me around

The name change doesn't work for me Armada as I keep forgetting. I don't post much anyway, thankfully.

Sleep will get better, but it may take a few weeks.

Day 5 here and another tail between legs. I got to over 70 days, had even stopped counting, and then one glass of wine led to a couple of weeks of and-on-off drinking, bargaining with myself, pretending everything was ok really bad old ways. I graduated from secret wine to secret vodka in record time and that way lies hell. Completely fell for the addicts confidence trick that I was at a stage where I could just have one or two. But I can't can I.

Feeling a bit down at the moment but just have to get on with getting on.

Welcome Armada I recognise you (love a good anagram). I was on Dry January and have name changed since too. Didn't post much then and haven't here either but think I may need to more to keep myself honest from here on!

And hello to everyone else old, new, sober, struggling and in between. We can crack this!

Bam my anthem of the moment is 'spit it out' by The Maccabees

Lucy

I am struggling a bit today. We've just had some good news (obviously that's good) but that means I want to celebrate. Will have to find another way.

On a slight tangent, but related, I was thinking about songs and actually can't imagine a song to help me through this. I think it is because being happy and celebrating is a trigger of mine. It would actually make me want to drink (does that sound crazy??) In a weird way, I get through by imagining that boring but wonderful moment when you get into bed with a clear head and your face perfectly cleansed. I think I am having to celebrate really boring moments.

Hope this all makes sense. Only an hour until DC bedtime so a bit frazzled by now

Hi Rainybow, Congrats on your good news.

I get what you are saying about the songs, which is why I prefer feisty songs.
I also understand what you mean about being happy and celebrating.

Is there anything that you like/want that you could treat yourself to instead. Clothes, book, cd, takeaway etc etc.

Lucy! How about Poison by Alice Cooper?

Just popped by to say I am still here but bloody hell it's been hard tonight. I feel really rough too so once the boys are in bed we will have a baked tattie and an early night.

Hope you are all well.

Newbie here - mind if I join you?

I've been drinking 70+ units a weeks for the past 13 years. I drink when I'm happy, sad, angry. frustrated, bored and for every other emotion/feeling imaginable.

But the over-riding feeling is just unhappiness, and I don't want to feel like this anymore.

Thanks Sea, I like the idea of having permission to shop I am currently completely stuffed with chocolate in an attempt to distract myself and it has worked as I now feel sick!

Welcome Jam This is a great thread to help you along. Well done on taking the first step.

Have a good night Bam

Ha ha rainy I also feel sick from eating rubbish all day! Think I have a cold coming on though as my throat is getting sore.

Welcome jam.

Bathtime for DS1 now. I'm on the home straight!

I have yet again opened the After Eights yhat are meant for Christmas

Hi JamDani, good to have you with us :) Have you stopped/in the process of stopping or just contemplating at the mo?

Congrats on your news RainyBow.

I kinda get you on the music thing. Way back I used to take a lot of drugs and spent every weekend clubbing, wasted on god knows what. I stopped and for a long time I couldn't listen to any sort of dance music as I associated it with being off my face and it made me long for that high. I'm fine now but it took years to break that association.

My teenage self loved that song BamBam

Struggling here a bit too but still clinging on. Must be this time of year :(

Hi Jam, I too have an underlying unhappiness. But I am starting to identify why and hopefully address it. Welcome to the group.

custard ex raver here too and am just listing many of my old dance CD's on ebay as we speak! Get what you mean completely. Hang on in there - surf the urge and it'll pass in 10-15 minutes.
Welcome jam :)
Like it bam

I have not had a drink in 3 years but have been really wanting to get ripped drunk. The thing that stops me is the agony that is a hangover. I found myself in the drinks aisle staring at the white wine and just wondering if just a teeny one would hurt that much.
We have had a shit year. are living abroad. I know I am bored, lonely and having a heavy dose of homesick. Isn't it horrible how my default setting is "have a fucking drink and tits to it". I abused alcohol for many many years and it caused no end of trouble, some of which still rumbles on. It is hard to organize a night out without having to say no and then EXPLAIN why I don't want to drink.
My husband drinks. Too much I think. Sometimes I wonder if it was the only thing we had in common?! There. Said it.

Glad to see some other new people here as well. It's been hard to take the first step & sign up. I've lurked on & off since the very first DRY thread, which just goes to show how long I've been struggling.

Bollocks bollocks bollocks. I'd almost made it to a whole month - the longest I've gone for a few years now. For some reason, I couldn't stop myself from buying wine along with the shopping tonight, and if it's in the house, I'll drink it.

What's really stupid is that I coped just fine through a potentially difficult weekend, had fun and was proud of myself. Then today I just had the kind of shitstop day where DD wouldn't nap so was growing horns by 5pm and I still had to do the weekly shop. I have a book that needs finishing sooner rather than later, and without wine, I've been trying to get it done when - if - DD naps. I know that stuff stressing me out is a crappy excuse. Back to square one I guess...

I get it Fartemis - sometimes I can't stop myself from buying it & if it's in the house I'll drink it. It all depends on my stress levels. You've done great getting to a whole month, so don't beat yourself up too much. It's not back to square one, just a small step back.