DRY 9!!!!!

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The DRY 8 thread suddenly came to an end! 1000 messages before we knew it.

THis is the thread for those who are abstaining and who want to abstain from alcohol. :)

All are welcome.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2432985-DRY-8?

Checking in, still here and dry. Hard work tonight though ( no reason apart from the usual, just is) Off to bed with clean sheets and pjs

Your advent calendar is fab lucy! What a great idea.

Good morning all. I've decided to tell the truth if anyone asks. Why I am not drinking.
Alcohol makes me so unwell that I have decided not to drink any more
I'm sure I will get oh won't you have one and I will truthfully reply that for me one is 'no fun' and at least I can drive home.
I've been over thinking it and stressing about it and I thought if I tell the truth that is all they need to know. They don't need to know how much my drinking had crept up.
About the blackouts. The arguments
I'm going to keep it simple.
My function was ok.. I enjoyed it ok but left early and hit the gym by 9am. I think I am going to rethink my socialising though.
Happy Thursday all!

Happy Thursday to you dona!

Hi marry its funny how we can easily question whether we have a problem with alcohol or not by looking at others. My friend would have given her right arm to keep her drinking to one bottle per night like me. Always saying I was 'lucky' .
One thing I did take away from AA was not to look at the differences but to look at the similarities.
You had a very overwhelming day yesterday and it takes guts and determination to admit that you have a problem. Stay here. Its such a great group.
I know I wouldn't be sober if it wasn't for this thread.

Morning all. Loving the calender Lucy. No idea who todays sober hero is, but my he has a fine physique

Tonight is my first social event without drinking. Feeling quite positive so far. I think the craving will come, when I am getting ready and sorting out DS. I know it will pass, if I don't dwell on it and feel sorry for myself. I just have to figure out a strategy to get me through that.

And the doubts have started to creep in. I have a devil and an angel battling it out. My heart says devil, my head says angel

Are you driving? I had to drive or I wouldn't have been able to do it. If you are not driving can you make an exit plan?

Thanks Bam and Sea :) Today's fine piece of male eye-candy is the most famous and successful WWE professional wrestler

I did it! I had a lovely time. I was more quiet than usual, but I am really proud of myself. for me

Yay!

Good on you Sea.

Oh goody! Just think how good you will feel this morning!

Well done Seabiscotti! How do you feel now you've done it?

Day 3 here. Slept fine, still feeling jittery and emotional. I've read that the DTs etc might not kick in for a few more days yet. Yikes!

marry don't worry you might not get a physical withdrawal especially if you are not a daily drinker. I didn't and I was a daily drinker. I am no medic so if someone needs to correct me please do but I think withdrawal is more likely if you are a drinker who is always topped up. Stopping suddenly isn't recommended in these cases whereas I didn't drink for 21 hours out of 24 just rammed it in 6-9 pm

Thanks everyone. I feel like I can do it and it was nice not having a hangover or missing bits of the night.

After our meal we went and had a drink in a bar and I was happy. I also would have been happy to have stayed longer and not drink.

I am glad that I drive, as if I am honest, I don't think I could have done it otherwise.

marry.

Well done Sea massive achievement there!

I had a bit of a wobble yesterday - just questioning whether I really need to completely give up, maybe I could still have a couple of glasses here and there yada yada yada. But then that opened up discussions (in my brain!) about how often, how much etc would be acceptable. It's frankly exhausting. I didn't drink though, and will carry on. I can do the 1 day thing, it's just thinking longer-term that causes questions.

I'm feeling quite grotty - have been having headaches and an upset stomach all week - I suspect it's a bug, surely it's nothing to do with no booze? I slept quite a bit better last night (I'm at 2 weeks today).

DH is going out tonight, and previously that would have meant I sat at home and drank a few glasses of wine without worrying he might think I was having a bit too much. Might crack open my AF wine tonight and enjoy having control of the tele to myself.

Happy Friday everyone

I've just finished reading Sober Is The New Black - a really good, inspiring and enjoyable read. Can anyone recommend any others which are similar? Thanks.

Sober is the new Black is really good isn't it? If you go on the Soberistas site, they have a whole 'Books' section and if you buy through the website, some of them are discounted.

Day 26 here and according to the 'I'm Done Drinking' app on my phone, sobriety has saved me $314 and 16,000 calories.....

Hi everyone!

Memoirs I have enjoyed are;

www.amazon.co.uk/Bottled-Moms-Guide-Early-Recovery/dp/193761297X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1449227347&sr=8-1&keywords=bottled+dana+bowman

I really enjoyed this one. Bowman is very funny, has a lovely blog also. Her Christian faith is a big part of her recovery, but I did not find that too off-putting, although some may.

www.amazon.co.uk/Blackout-Remembering-things-drank-forget/dp/1473616085/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1449227377&sr=1-1&keywords=blackout+sarah+hepola

Sarah hepola is also a very good writer. She is pretty honest about some of the really awful situations she got herself in- i admire her courage so much.

I have also read Tanya Glyde but I found it a bit depressing.

www.amazon.co.uk/Cleaning-Up-Gave-Drinking-Lived/dp/1846686555/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1449227450&sr=1-1&keywords=tania+glyde

Hello, I am a long time lurker, posting for the first time here. I am struggling with alcohol too, and I've just started a blog about it (only two posts so far). Does anyone have a couple of minutes to look at it and maybe leave a comment? I want to stick with it and I think if I know someone is reading it I will keep me going!
Thanks in advance.

callinglastorders.blogspot.co.uk/

Bitter, when we have to constantly analyse our drinking, it is a sign we have a problem. I have tried moderation and it is very hit and miss more miss.

Last night, I had a few moments when I really wanted to have an alcoholic drink, but they passed. What was great, was that I didn't have drinking anxiety. You know when rather than enjoying the moment, you are busy watching how slowly others are drinking, willing them to hurry up etc etc

Hi Caramel, welcome. I will take a look at your blog.

I had a read of your blog Caramel and I can relate to all you have said. I haven't posted a comment as I don't know how to do it, while keeping my identity secret. I will follow it though.

Thanks for the book suggestions - I'll check them out.

caramel I really enjoyed your posts
In the first one I think you hit the nail on the head re the smokeaholic! Thats why I personally didn't take to AA
I don't want to beat myself up daily about drinking (or not) I would far rather be dona who doesn't drink any more.
However if someone who may be reading this thread looks at what I have just written please don't be put off AA
At least try it. You might love it. My good friend does. She thinks her way is better than mine. I think my way is better. At the end of the day we are both sober. Different strokes...