DRY 9!!!!!

[CheesyNachos]

The DRY 8 thread suddenly came to an end! 1000 messages before we knew it.

THis is the thread for those who are abstaining and who want to abstain from alcohol. :)

All are welcome.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2432985-DRY-8?

Whoops meant Dd not Ds!

Well done ginger, I'm sure your dp understands you're stressed. Hope your ds is ok

It is a positive thing though no Cheesy? Another hell no to that little trickster voice that says you can be a 'normal drinker' again. It's great that it took a little lick of the rim (sorry that's making me smile too, easily amused on a Monday morning) to acknowledge again that you can't control it, rather than a couple of bottles down. Don't be scared, feel empowered.

Very impressed with all of you who made it out around drunk people and stayed sober Would your negativity maybe have stemmed from tiredness 3phase? I find my mood really dips when I'm shattered. Look after yourself the next couple of days and I hope today is a better day for you.

tsonly you are a superstar, congrats on doing so well. Hope you recover from your bug quickly.

You are all making me a bit nervous about my concert soon. I've made it clear I won't be drinking or partaking in any other substances, used my upcoming ENT appointment as an excuse. Thinking I might treat myself and get my make-up professionally done before it, take my mind off the booze for a while.

Good morning all. Well done cheesy on the .. ahem.. rim. You did stop. You knew.
I'm feeling happy but exhausted. I am taking over the counter sleeping tablets (addiction problems.. moi? ) in the week and I feel so foggy in the mornings that I automatically assume I have a hangover. I'm so used to starting my day in a fog.
I'm still happy about not drinking. The evenings are getting easier. Happy Monday everyone

Poor Cheesy, her "rim-licking" making us snigger. Hope you're not feeling so scared now - you did fantastically well to stop there and should give yourself credit for doing so

3phase You must feel fab after your 7 hours sleep! Hope you don't feel like running away today

tsonlyme I had a stint on Antabuse (didn't work) I'm so pleased they worked for you - massive congrats on your several months!

Ginger well done on getting through the weekend with your bad news

Brig What concert? Are you a singer? Professional make-over sounds great

And dona yes to the evenings getting easier! Here's to a new week

Sorry cheesy, was just my filthy mind

Lord no Jam I sound like a strangled cat trying to sing. Should have worded that 'the concert I am going to'.

I am glad it made you laugh. :)

ginger hope you are okay and your DS is okay.

3phase how are you today? What you described about builders mess and lots of children and being designated driver made MY blood pressure go haywire, so it must have been pretty horrid for you.

tsonly so good to read your posts.

I have been a bit wobbly all day after my weirdness last night. I was craving sherry this morning, but that passed and I have been fine since lunchtime. I told myself that things are no different physically since yesterday, but now I can be under no illusions about my drinking. I guess I just hoped that I was 'just' a committed problem drinker.... nup. I reckon that episode proves it is more dangerous than that. So a bit of a day. But I am trying to feel empowered. At least I know what sobriety feels like - and how much I love it.

Am in bed as I am shattered and desperate for a good sleep. So I will sign out for now and see you all tomorrow. :)

Hope everyone has a great night. :)

Better day today thanks Cheesy

Sleep well....x

Good morning! Two weeks sober for me today

To mark the occasion, I thought I'd make a note of all the things I DON'T miss about a hangover.....

Feeling dizzy, nauseous, headache, inflamed joints, palpitations, pins and needles in my hands, zero energy, diarrhoea, brain fog, wine sweats, red face and blurred vision. Plus intrusive thoughts, guilt, shame, panic, fear, regret and feelings of utter uselessness.

I'm noting all this so that next time the craving hits I can back to this post and remember how truly dreadful I used to feel.

Hope everyone is ok this morning

Morning!

Great post Jam I may copy that paragraph onto a Post It note and stick it on the fridge.

Day 9 for me. DD2 seems to have croup and won't let me out of her sight so it's going to be an unproductive one I fear. At least I'm not hungover.... Don't even want to think about adding 'poorly baby' onto Jam's list

Morning all.

But Jam, enough of the good bits, what about the 'cons'? Seriously, when you write it all down, it's hard to argue with.

Cheesy - I think you did brilliantly in the face of those unexpected cravings. Have you ever listened to Ellie from the Bubble Hour talk about her relapse? She went from necking a bottle of vanilla essence to being arrested with a DUI in something like 2 days, having been sober for 5 years. She said the obsessive thinking came back in a nanosecond and it was as though she'd never been sober at all. There is a great episode where she talks about it all here. Sorry if I've linked to it before but I found it very moving. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed, it's the nature of this disease/'affliction'.

Thanks for posting that Teapot. :) I will listen to it today.

Morning all. 3phase hope your dd is better soon.

Morning all thanks for good wishes re Ds she has to have some quite strong meds for a chronic condition and me and dp bit worried re side effects but few other options
I love the hangover tick list I will refer to that next time I am tempted
I am pre menopause so booze for me makes my symptoms worse in terms of flushes and sleeplessness
I am new to mn and still learning to name check so apologies if I don't get to everyone

Just checking in. Will catch up with the thread properly later, but I just have to say that Cheesy's rim-licking has made me snort

Hi all. Love the list too.
I just wanted to add something that I really really enjoyed last night... falling asleep. Naturally. I was soon tired I couldn't even get up to turn the heating off. The reason I enjoyed it so much is that when you are wining it up you don't get to fall asleep do you? It's passing out.
I do have the 'little voice' in my head today. I've been dealing with 'wine o'clock' by going out early evening to the gym or the pool but the weather forecast here is so bad (70 -80mph winds ) that I plan to do the school run and batten down the hatches. This time last year in weather like this I was drinking at 4.30pm

Afternoon all - tis a bit blowy here!!
Cheesy agreed with all that has been said and particularly Teapot. That voice appeared in my head quick as a flash egging me on when I accidentally drank recently and it is hard to resist - so well done! Like you it was a really good reminder to me that I do have a problem and nope - won't ever be a moderate drinker or a moderate anything else it would seem as she notices the emoticon
Off to lash everything down as it is very grey overhead.

Very blowy here too.

JUst a quick visit from me because I got recent blood tests results back and they were all normal including LFT . I've had 'borderline' LFTs before and ones that have been described as a 'possible blip, we'll redo that one in a few weeks' (and then I never went back because I was too scared).

HURRAH!

Hope you're feeling a bit better today Cheesy

tsonly that's fabulous news! The last LFT I had was borderline. Never went back...
I am very bored tonight and the urge to drink has been overtaken by the urge to overeat. .
I'm in my pj's already.

I am 7 days sober though

Hi all, hope everyone who is unwell or has ill dc's, get better soon.
The thought of alcohol and coffee is turning my stomache at the minute. I am a bit nauseous and I have lost my appetite , though wouldn't say no to some pancakes

Well done dona !

jam you said that Antabuse didn't work for you, do you mind if i ask why? I mean, you absolutely can't drink if you've taken it within the last week so was it a case of being unable to continue taking it? Bear in mind I've been taking it on and off for about two years and I will again if I find myself back in the bad place. It gave my brain a rest because I didn't have to battle with my head every bloody day with 'shall I, shan't I?' Because the option to drink wasn't there. I didn't like the full dose because it gave me some funny tummy issues (and a high akin to speed! ) so I halved the dose and had no side effects.

dona Well done, a whole week! I found that was a real milestone for me. I'm finding it hard to fall asleep, it's like I'm having to re-train my brain as I'm so used to just passing out.

Sea, you're not pregnant are you? Hope you're better soon.

tsonly Hooray for your LFT! Antabuse didn't work for me because somehow I managed to drink at the same time, even though the reactions were quite severe, so I stopped taking them. I'm hardcore, me - I can drink even if I'm ill. Need to re-phrase that ... I used to drink when I was ill. In fact alcohol was better than any painkiller

The sobriety is wreaking havoc with my intestinesister though. I haven't 'been' for about 4 days.
I've just had a Christmas style dinner. Sprouts galore.Fingers crossed! Has anyone else had this trouble (obvs only if you want to share your finer workings!)

Intestines! Stupid autocorrect!

Oh yes, but your innards should settle down. It takes about ten days for me but so long as I stay sober things in that department are very much easier and regular.