Dh has been secretly recording me help

[Daisycloud66]

Shit, total shock here.
I've just been onto a hard drive my DH bought a while ago for us to share as last pc crashed and I lost all my spreadsheets I use for tax return,

I created a new folder for each of us and dragged all his stuff into his folder. He had loads of MP3 files and assumed it was music so I've opened one up to play as if it is current music I was going to delete it as its on iTunes. But the MP3 recordings weren't music they were recordings of me. The first one I opened was of Big Bang theory from last night and had me talking to my dog. The next one was the tv I was watching again last night.
WTF is he playing at, I just don't understand it. 22 mp3 recordings lasting about 5 mins each.

How is he doing this? Can anyone tell me if its the ps4 that's recording me?

He's gone to work so I can't have this out until late tonight.

My ex starting recording me and spying on me when he started having an affair. He was sure I was having one too (not true) and wanted to prove it so that he could justify his affair. He turned out to be very mentally unbalanced and did a lot of truly evil things in the last few years of our 15 year marriage. I really wished I had run like hell as soon as I started noticing the odd behavior and wish I had not stayed trying to save the marriage "for the sake of the kids" for many more years than I should have. Irreparable damage has been done to my children as a result of his evil crazy behavior.

Hope uour ok.

Crikey op just read the fun thread. Agree he sounds unwell but right now your priority needs to be you.

I hope you are ok, your friend seems to be very sensible I hope she can support you.

*full thread obviously

God that's chilling. Good luck op.

Hope you're ok. I honestly don't know how I would cope with that.

Hope you are ok op. Any chance he has aspergers? He sounds like my husband. He collects random stuff, doesn't,t listen to me or see em interested, yet can occasionally be controlling. My Dh would see this as being thorough. Not creepy.

Quick update. I am safe, have confronted and he has admitted it. Full spyware on my mobile and tracks texts, whatsapp ever pic I ever take, Internet, he can listen to ever callade and received and it automatically records at half hour intervals. Been doing it for 2 years plus and paying he thinks £150 a year for the privilege. He's owned up to everything and has answered everything and is currently crying. I need a breather and a ciggie. Started off bugging the house on a old iPod and has escalated.
I will pop in in the morning and will explain things better.

Good lord. Good luck op.

Oh my god. So glad you're safe, that's the only thing to worry about right now.

BLoody hell. I hope when you say you are safe that you are not there.

There's probably more. Tech moves so fast:( it's scary tbh, what is available.

What do you want to do? Police and log it, would be my idea, distasteful as it may seem. The police will help ensure your house is free of his stuff, and I guess he's out the door?

Op are you really safe? Please be careful x

Christ alive

Blimey. Regardless of if he is crying and seeming passive at the moment I think if it were me I'd find a friend and take your kid/s with you for tonight. Or tell him to stay elsewhere. Just in case he turns once the reality sinks in if he is that controlling. So sorry you are going through this

Good grief - that is such a huge thing for you to discover and him to confess to. I'm sure you are asking a LOT of questions and hopefully he is contrite enough to be up front with you now, for what that's worth after this massive betrayal. for you - I have no idea what else to say...

Bloody hell! Glad you're safe OP.

Jesus wept!

Do you think he might be projecting as pp said?

Wow, this is mad, hope u ok OP.

Wow . Stay safe

Daisy I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I was going to offer some advice but it sounds like you've already spoken to him and got him to admit to things. As a couple of other people have said though, I'd make sure you're actually safe (ideally by staying somewhere else, or at least remaining awake/alert/recording what's happening around you).

I'm a digital forensic investigator and I see this sort of thing fairly often, it's astounding the lengths people will go to.

One other thing I'd mention is that if you can, make sure the email address associated with your Mumsnet account is one that you have access to (e.g. not a fake/temporary email) in case this ever needs to go through law enforcement/courts etc. and you have to prove when/where you found the evidence.

Good luck, and if you feel afraid or need anything then get in touch with someone who can help - your friend, or the police ideally.

Why. On. Earth???

Someone I know had an ex do similar. Bugs in plug sockets and light fittings. Police said there was nothing they can do. But he was a controlling abusive ex in a custody battle.

op please don't believe that he has told you everything. There is almost certainly more, and the fact that you now know will just make him more determined to track your every move.

Bear in mind that the reason he has been able to tell you everything so calmly is because he has your house bugged and he already knows that you know because he will have already heard the conversations between you and your friend earlier.

At the very least you need to go out tomorrow and buy a new phone, new laptop, none of which he should ever be given access to, and charge it to his credit card.

If there are voice recorders there are probably cameras as well. Does he leave his pc switched on? does it have a webcam?

I know that going from happy to ltb in one step is a huge leap, but the reality is that you will always be under the watchful eye of your h unless you leave. And so will your children - assuming you have any.