For those of you who do online dating, what tips do you have and what have you learned

[bodenbiscuit]

From experience?

What are the signs a man is actually going to be worth your time?

Do you think a decent man should want to go out for dinner? I am in two minds about this. If it's a distaster you don't want to be stuck for hours. OTOH I think if someone suggests dinner it shows that they are more willing to make an effort to spend time talking, not getting drunk and increasing their chances of getting laid!

I would say avoid men with shirtless photos. I had one guy message me that he had been sleeping with his best friend's girlfriend while the friend was on holiday - how to make a good impression!

niceup that's appalling behaviour! Are you sure you're ready to be dating right now after that?

OLD is such a minefield, seems to be full of liars, time wasters and fakes!

Oh yeah, I had suspicions for a while, something always came up so we couldn't meet (although he was happy to sext and chat). His mums Facebook page came up on people you may know so I had a look and she had written about her son, X, who had a girlfriend - well that wasn't me as he said he wanted to keep things about us private. No fucking wonder!

Tonight's date has already lied about his age and I think he just wants a leg over - I'm just going along for a night out really.

nice how rude of him!! But ... if you found out yesterday and are having a second date today, you can't have been exclusive?

I thought that as well Coco...

If you are having a second date today then you were also seeing other people.

Personally I'd think it better form to drop the datees down to just one BEFORE I told my mum anything about them though.

No we were just dating, would have preferred he told me he had an actual girlfriend though, I mean I don't want to be sexting someone who is in a relationship! Anyway fuck him, he took up a lot of my headspace over the summer, now he can move out!

He moved in?

Oh.

I met my OH on match, we've been together 5 years.
It was the dick pics that bugged me about OLD. I used to share them with my work colleagues...
My OH said he would send me a saucy picture, I was upset about that because I thought he was different to the others. He sent me a picture of a bottle of ketchup! Keeper!

ha ha!! That'd make me laugh.

Agree ask that handsome guy for a selfie, cos the photos could well be from a catalogue. As a pp said, you'd turn up and he'd be 55 if he was a day, bald overweight and then he'd call you shallow as you walked away. (It wouldn't occur to him to date 55 year old women though)

I don't actually find that "handsome guy" very attractive.

I would not message him.

He looks like he thinks a lot of himself.

I imagine he has always had lots of attention without having to try to be kind or interesting or funny.

I know what you mean...............

I've just messaged a man my own age. He looks like a right character. He has no kids and wants them (opposite of me) has 35-44 as his settings. I can see the incompatibilities in our circumstances, but he's handsome and looks eccentric in a way that I get. I'd go out with him once as he looks really good company. It'll be interesting to see if I have any more luck messaging somebody my own age, than I do messaging men who are about 2-6 years older who don't want more kids. I'm trying to do what would seem to make sense but it aint working..

"Bastien" looks young enough to be my son
What about his TV list though?
TV: Revenge, Suits, New Girl, Once Upon a Time, Hemlock Grove, Orange is the New Black, Bate Motel, Project Runway.
Sorry to be stereotypical but that's like the gayest list ever.

SubUrbane, if you're not getting messages it's because you don't have a photo. People will assume you're married or you're a sex worker trolling for clients

Just get a nice photo up there!

I do have a photo!! It's not as sharp focused as some other peoples but I do have one, and I'm smiling. I look happy. I will try and get a better one. I'll get my dd to take pictures of me the next time I go out. I hope she doesn't know why :-p

I agree with what you say about Pocketsaviour's TV list. or, Is he just listing off what he believes women's favourite tv programmes are !?

I mean, Pocketsaviour, I agree with what you say about bastien's tv list.

I actually love Hemlock Grove and OITNB but Hemlock is camp as fuck LOL

I told Bastien I had doubts about his photos and he's offered to Skype,/cam with me...!

Skypeing sounds like a hassle, and like it won't add much to your information on "do I want to meet this person or not", because video calls are a bit odd and stilted.

I'd just organise to meet up somewhere not-too-inconvenient, and accept that at worst I'd wasted a couple of hours.

I agree. A quick selfie would verify. And then save the chat for real life. You'd both be starting sentences at the same time and then saying, no, sorry after you! oh, no, it wasn't important

Take a selfie with a bottle of condiment (ketchup or similar) - as inspired by the "saucy picture" above.

If he's getting the pics from the internet, he probably won't find one.

If it's really his face, it's easy.

I reverse deep searched two of his profile pics and didn't get any hits. If he's offered to skype then the photos must be real, unless he's so thick he thinks holding up a photo in front of his phone is going to work