For those of you who do online dating, what tips do you have and what have you learned

[bodenbiscuit]

From experience?

What are the signs a man is actually going to be worth your time?

Do you think a decent man should want to go out for dinner? I am in two minds about this. If it's a distaster you don't want to be stuck for hours. OTOH I think if someone suggests dinner it shows that they are more willing to make an effort to spend time talking, not getting drunk and increasing their chances of getting laid!

I would say avoid men with shirtless photos. I had one guy message me that he had been sleeping with his best friend's girlfriend while the friend was on holiday - how to make a good impression!

pm me the user name and postcode!!

Having a laugh reading all your comments! I'm currently toying with the idea of OD having recently separated from my husband of 14 years. Never done anything like this and not looking for anything remotely serious, just feel like I want to have some fun as there's not been much of it in my life for a while. What's the best website to use as there are too many to choose from???

Green flags
Saying they'd like to meet up (within 3 to 4 weeks of first contact approx)

Interested about you, but not intrusive. Willing to share things about themselves but not over sharing too soon.

authentic and natural, not forced - Sending nice texts which aren't too gushy or OTT, just how are you, how's it going.

Consistent - not starting out mega keen then leaving it a week with zero contact

After first date, saying let's get our diaries out and work out when to get together again - then asking again the next time.

Telling you how long they have been doing OLD - not necessarily a list of all the people they dated, but just being honest about their OLD why they decided to try it etc.

Give everyone a chance but when your gut's screaming at you listen. Met so many negative people- I looked for positive and now wake up to a happy dh every morning. Online he stood out- I could just tell from the way he wrote that he was no fool.

Here's a tip. Stay away from the absolute catch who left me this message on pof yesterday;

Absolutely throbbing looking at you xx

Blocked!

I call Bastien a fake on the grounds that he is interested in women between 25-60!! I agree he is probably totally gay.
Fake profile to make site seem more women friendly?

samlamb wow, what a charmer. On pof there is a man with the screen name waxdownthere and it has a few numbers after it too, can't remember exactly but it was like waxdownthere315 or something so that screen name was already taken! Have also spotted a h0rny

Urgh!! Vom

I know! there's also one called liptherapy. I wonder does he want it, or is he offering to provide it.

Hi just wondering if anyone recognises the user theonethatgotaway1 Adam from pof? Screams married to me, wont talk in the evening but desperate and pushy to meet....

just had a look. he says he's looking for a relationship and he has a very clear photo up.

Yes but there is something seeming not right with him, declaring how right we are for each other and pushing to meet, but can't talk in the evening.... I don't know, think I'll just call him in the evening and see what happens! Lol

This was Bastien's selfie!

Is he in 1989?

Haha. He's a New Yorker and isn't retro back in fashion?

There is no excuse for that 'tache

At least he doesn't have a huge hipster beard and a man bun..!

Ha good point. Easier to do away with a moustache.

I feel a bit mean taking the piddle. Bastien, if you're reading this, I'm only jesting because you're cute!

Here is todays little nugget of joy..

Briannn0107
9/22/2015 6:16:11 P

Hey :)
I know this is really weird but would you let me pay you, to let me get on my knees and clean your shoes/trainers or whatever your wearing with my tongue?Sorry! Xx

Just wow.

"This was Bastien's selfie!"

Nice, he even managed a pack of JPS king size black in the shot.

*No topless photos, no gym shots, no photos posing in/on fancy cars. No photos with children.
*Message for a day or two to see what you talk about etc. If someone is a sex pest, they can let it slip pretty easily. Reverse image search their photos and see what you find- if it's a fake profile, a lot of the time you can find the real profile on Facebook, twitter etc.
*Skype before arranging to meet. I'd want proof someone was who they said they were before even thinking about a date regardless of meeting in a public place.
*I also do a google search of their name and if I have it number and see what pops up.

Of course always agree to meet in a public place and let someone know where you are going and if possible have them waiting nearby.

Here is how to reverse image search:

Save a photo to your desktop.
Go to google reverse
Upload the photo- and if it's on a public page, the picture will come up and you can match it to the information you have.

Why do men out on fuzzy photos of themselves or photos where they're not looking at the camera and it's a funny angle??

Put on *