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Men's height

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Jenna333 · 02/08/2015 22:43

I know this is a shallow question but having looked at some OLD profiles, I got wondering about mens height. I know ultimately it comes down to many factors but I was wondering how other women feel about shorter men e.g 5'4" ish?

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helenahandbag · 03/08/2015 14:39

I'm 5' 4" and my DP is 6' 3". My exes are all over 6'. I've always been attracted to tall guys and no, I don't find short men attractive. I once dated a guy who was about the same height as me but I'm a size 16 and he was a 28" waist - I felt like I was going out with a little boy!

Lashalicious · 03/08/2015 14:40

Now that I think about it, our friend is quite a bit taller than me, just not as tall as my husband so my first perception was skewed. I really don't think it matters. Manliness comes from the inside. I worked with a guy who is 6'7"ish, he wasn't any more (or less) of a man than the other guys.

cremejeunesse · 03/08/2015 14:40

gymboywalton: "i went out on a date with a guy who was 5'4" once and he was lovely-really fun and sexy but i just felt stupid and colossal and unattractive. I had to bend down to kiss him and it just felt wrong.

it wasn't about him but about how his height made ME feel. Does that make sense?"

Yes. This. I feel like a great big oaf if I'm with a shorter man, especially if he's slim as well.

I think you short ladies who like much taller men are very selfish! ;) Leaving the short ones for the rest of us! How can 5'6" not be tall enough for you if you're 5'2"?!

I've got myself a 6-footer now though so I'm happy

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 03/08/2015 14:48

"What happened to getting to know someone and falling for their personality?"
Personally the difference between a friend and a partner is that I fancy the partner physically as well as like his personality, but with the friend I only like his personality. I won't apologise for wanting to lust after the man I'm dating/fucking.

Lurkedforever1 · 03/08/2015 14:50

Its not shallow to be physically attracted to certain physical traits. Shallow would be saying screw personality as long as they're tall/ short/ fat/ thin/ fair / dark. But to be attracted to someone I personally need to be physically attracted as well as mentally, not just one or the other. And everybody else has that right too.
Fwiw physically I don't go for the usual heart throb types, beckham, brad Pitt etc, but that doesn't mean I think they are all unmanly, anymore than my preference for tall means I believe short is unmanly. It's just taste.

MysteryMan1 · 03/08/2015 14:55

Indeed. Everyone has physical preferences and to think that it is racist/s exist etc. Is shortsighted.

I for instance like curvy women, however if I met someone who was fantastic in every other way then of course I would see past it.

OLD of course tries to create a perfect world where you can have what you want..

Newrule · 03/08/2015 15:06

For me, I care more about fitness than height. My husband is above the UK average height but if he had a sizeable belly, I would not be happy. I do not find wobbly/overweight people attractive. That includes skinny fat/lacking tone people. I don't like muscle bound people attractive either. All in all height is far down my list of what is attractive in a man.

Have I strayed off topic with my fatist comments?

Newrule · 03/08/2015 15:08

So a 6 foot man who is as wide as he is tall does not scream protector or attractive to me. Would prefer a fit shorter man if that was the choice.

whatsthatcomingoverthehill · 03/08/2015 15:14

"I think the two main standards men have are height and penis size. They can't change either."

And wealth a lot of the time. Though that is more within their control.

whatarethose · 03/08/2015 15:14

It's not shallow it's just your preference. I like tall men but I actually ended up marrying a man same height as me. 5'5.

MysteryMan1 · 03/08/2015 15:16

Yep height and pens size define a man!

MysteryMan1 · 03/08/2015 15:17

Penis even!

EugenesAxe · 03/08/2015 15:22

I am 5' 10" and DH is 5' 7". I don't know why it doesn't bother me. Where he comes from that's quite tall so he's not got a chip on his shoulder about it.

My main criteria are a nice face and intelligence. He has both of those.

gymboywalton · 03/08/2015 15:22

penis size is not a factor
it's not how big is it but what you do with it that counts

Queenbean · 03/08/2015 15:57

penis size is not a factor
it's not how big is it but what you do with it that counts

Huge myth. Sorry to burst your bubble.

Penis size isn't the be all and end all, true. But sometimes you need to scratch an itch that just can't get got with a tiny willy. Bad metaphor?!

MysteryMan1 · 03/08/2015 16:02

The whole 'what you do with it' is all well and good but surely a guy who is well endowed and knows what to do is the best of all?!

MistressDeeCee · 03/08/2015 16:04

But we all know as women, what our preference is already.

What men have to contend with isn't that - its society that hugely promotes the myth that height & penis size = manliness and attractiveness

With that onslaught going on constantly I really doubt a short man with a small penis is thinking "oh well, that doesn't matter". Even if they're confident in self now they must have had some thoughts about it in the past.

Madbengalmum · 03/08/2015 16:05

You have fundamentally got to be attracted to someone, it is a big part of your relationship,obviously along with other things, but you do really need that something.

AnyFucker · 03/08/2015 16:06

I am 5ft 10 and so is DH. Shorter men have always been a bit frightened of me I think, so never really had the opportunity to date one (must be my bitchy resting face and ability to outrun/outplay/outbanter them)

I don't like big cocks though, they hurt.

DrMorbius · 03/08/2015 16:25

Shorter men have always been a bit frightened of me
I think short/medium/tall men would be frightened of you, if you talk like you write

Newrule · 03/08/2015 16:35

What if your son is short? I would be sorry for any son whose mother discounts short men in this way.

AnyFucker · 03/08/2015 16:44

Yep, I'm a proper scary person, ,e

AnyFucker · 03/08/2015 16:44

*me

AnyFucker · 03/08/2015 16:45

or more likely, they didn't fancy me < shrug >

GuyMartinsSideburns · 03/08/2015 16:51

I'm 5.3 and dh and I were pen pals before we met so I already knew I liked his personality etc before I'd clapped eyes on him. When we met what struck me were his amazing blue eyes and he had so much energy - was always off and up to something, which I really liked.

It wasn't until years later when someone made a comment about his height (5.5) that I thought a) wtf? and b) oh okay, I guess he isn't 'tall' but by this point we'd been together for about 5/6 years and I was pregnant with dc2

I may look 'daft' being taller than him if I wear huge heels when out of an evening but frankly I don't care, I can't say I look at other couples and think 'oh s/he's too tall/they look strange/whatever' and I'd hate to have missed out on him because of his height but I realise for some people it would've been a no go. He's got the most beautiful soul and I love him dearly.

My son is already towered over by his peers so I do worry about attitudes towards him as he gets older tbh and that makes me sad. Hopefully he'll just take it in his stride like his dad

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