Men's height

[Jenna333]

I know this is a shallow question but having looked at some OLD profiles, I got wondering about mens height. I know ultimately it comes down to many factors but I was wondering how other women feel about shorter men e.g 5'4" ish?

I'm not offended by types I'm just surprised by how fixed some people are in them I think.
Dh is the same as me and will think nothing of lusting after a leggy redhead, a dumpy brunette and a petite blonde in the same hour.

Everyone is drawn to different things! Tall or small.

I dated personalities not "heights" tbh.

But I guess each to their own.

My DH is an inch taller than means thus in heels I'm taller.

Bothers either of us not a jot - apart from when I moan about my feet hurting when he's already said "you going To be ok in those all day?"

Sorry not to read the whole thread. I have dated a couple of men shorter than me (I am average height for a woman) and it never lasted long. It felt somehow like the last taboo - it was easier to feel good about dating a younger man, or a man with less/ no money, than a shorter man. However I should say that there was always something other than the "shortness" that encouraged me to end it (e.g. inappropriate behaviour when drunk).

I am quite hefty so I need a taller man to make me look less elephantine. Funny though, I don't go for chubby men! [shallow all round]

I'm 5'10 and if I ruled out men shorter than me I would be ruling out a lot of amazing guys. I've dated men from 5'4 to 6'5 and the common factor was a great personality and sex appeal. I would be lying if I said that I didn't notice the looks I got from people when dating someone 6 inches shorter than me, but he was far more bothered than me, he felt people were judging his height far more than if he was with someone closer to his height. I also weighed a third more than he did, it didn't matter since we both thought the other one was gorgeous.

I do find it bizarre how ingrained it is though. When I got married my DF asked how high my shoes were as my DH is only 2 inches taller than me and he thought it would look weird if I were the taller one in the wedding photos! Hadn't occurred to either me or DH.

I thought my type was dark haired, blue eyed and slender build. My DH is ginger and fairly stocky. I've often found attraction to a personality leads to physical attraction to someone. Do not despair ladies with less than average height sons!

I think what we find attractive is partly down to the way we've evolved and partly down to cultural norms. While aspects such as symmetry have remained fairly constant through time and geography, other elements of attractiveness have changed - not so long ago very thin was considered very unattractive and a suntan was an absolute horror!

I don't think we can do much to control those factors TBH, other than try to raise children who question a lot of our cultural norms and notions of what is success and attractiveness (I don't want my DD thinking ultra slim and flashing as much flesh as possible in order to attract male attention is the best route to personal happiness).

I don't have a type, personally. None of my Xs or current DP have anything in common other than their gender. I can't imagine finding a man unattractive purely because of his height if he ticked all my boxes in other ways.

Elke I wouldn't be surprised being as I live there 50% of the time!

somebody upthread said that in the movies the male lead is always taller than the female lead, but he's always decades older too so I'm not going to be told what's normal by hollywood. I can't remember ever seeing a couple with more than a couple of inches height difference but occasionally i notice it and I think they come across as confident in themselves without even saying anything.

The movies lie anyway. I remember in the days when I cared about that sort of thing checking out the heights of the leading men. Most were (to me anyway) relatively short, few over six foot. Which makes me think that taller women probably struggle to get romantic roles.

I do think that there is a sexist notion at play in that we are given so many images of bigger men and smaller women as the ideal, the man as stronger and more dominant vs the woman as weaker and more submissive that's it's not too surprising if we internalise them at least a bit.

Interesting that there are more mothers of shorter boys worrying on this thread than mothers of taller girls. Assuming that men generally prefer their romantic partners to be shorter than them as much as women like taller men it's likely that both men and women at the extremes will have fewer people finding them attractive. I know that my dh was very self conscious about being tall, and still gets quite unhappy when it's called out. Do very petite women also struggle?

Selfie I don't think anyone is saying Hollywood is "normal". More that it's part of the many ways we are conditioned to believe that the man must be taller than the woman.

I'm 5'9 and am attracted to men of all heights including a guy who is 5'4.
I think it's ridiculous to discount someone based on height and find and it weird that women want to be small in comparison to men. It seems to be about wanting to appear submissive and weaker. Nothing wrong with tall men, I like them too! Height shouldn't matter.

I am 6'1 and always wanted to find someone taller although over the years had several times been attracted to shorter guys. Eventually married DH who is 6'7" but the knock on effect of this is that I have a 12 year old daughter who is 5'11" already with size 9 feet. Hoping she stops fairly soon.

I've only once struggled romantically as a petite woman: Fella on dating site ticked he wanted women over 5 feet 3 only, on his profile.
He later explained this was coz his last ex was mad. And v short.
I married him.

I'm 5ft10 and my husband is 5ft5. It surprised me at the beginning of our relationship as it never bothered me and I actually don't even really notice it. I think it helps, like a previous poster said, that he's very masculine, quite stocky and strong so I don't feel like I'm bigger than him. I do wear heels sometimes but mostly flats but I don't think I'd wear heels more if he were taller I just prefer to be comfortable

Johnfarley, I was about to type 'he sounds an asshole' and then I read on! Well, I presume he didn't sell himself well on his profile!

I'm 5'3", and DP is 5'7" or 5'8" (ish), so not a great difference. Lightish hair and grey eyes (relevant).

Oddly enough, I've lately come to realise that if I have a type, it's dark hair/eyes... and tall, really tall. Like 6'5" plus. As I'm now 46, this has either taken a loooooong time for me to realise, or my tastes have changed in some way.

I have to say that the celebs I've fancied recently have all been seriously tall.