Men's height

[Jenna333]

I know this is a shallow question but having looked at some OLD profiles, I got wondering about mens height. I know ultimately it comes down to many factors but I was wondering how other women feel about shorter men e.g 5'4" ish?

Generally I wouldn't but there was an exception to that rule and unfortunately I didn't date him. He is 5'4" and if I could go back in time,....

I am not heightist though. I'm looking for a connection. Somebody decent and good company so I wouldn't rule a man out now for being short. BUT I would have done when I was young. I think I just have different priorities now. I realise that being seen with a tall man is worth less than being happy with a shorter one. It's not 'settling' it's just growing up.

At 6ft1 I used to feel "too tall" and "unfeminine" and I passed up a few amazingly fab shorter men...for this reason.

Idiotic! Once I hit my twenties/thirties I started thinking it was very feminine indeed to be an Amazone!

If I were dating, I would not dismiss a man based on height.

Also, some shorter men really have a thing for tall women

My idea on what's feminine has changed over the past 20 years, not sure it is society or me, but I now associate feminity more with strength, physically and mentally. Think the Williams sisters, or any female athlete.

I do no longer desire to be tiny and frail....probably just as well, as that was never going to happen

My DP is 5"6, and I am as well. I used to think it would bother me when I was younger and said things like 'I only date taller guys' but that was quite shallow.

I love my DP and his height is a non-issue.

Merekaffe... Crosspost

If you're not interested in short men, it seems fair enough to filter them out. It does seem ironic though, that there are pages and pages of threads online where women are complaining about men filtering on body shape and size.

I get the impression from friends and from my own experiences that men often add a couple of inches to their height on OLD profiles, whereas women often pretend they're slimmer than they really are.

I suppose you can at least control your weight; growing a few extra inches is probably asking a bit much of most men.

If anyone puts 'short men/heavy women/tall women/redhaired men, need apply' in their online dating profile it's a pretty good indication that they're a bit of a dick. It's fine to have a physical preference as long as you keep an open mind and don't hurt the feelings of wannabe suitors.

Well put Baby !

Yes baby and squoosh, although I could sit here and type that I'd far rather have a short man than an overweight man, the truth is, I'm easily won over by personality.

squoosh, I'd never put no fat men in a profile! Even though I wouldn't really find the larger frame attractive.

Exactly baby. I see so much fat acceptance on my Facebook but no height acceptance

"Yes, how dare you have physical preferences that rule out some men! Bad woman!"

So would it be OK if a man came on here and said "I'll only date women with breasts bigger than a C cup"?

I doubt it

It's threads like these that make shorter men feel so shit about themsleves at times. I know my BF often feels shit about his height. I don't. I love his kindness and SoH and so many other wonderful things about him that I couldn't care less (and I speak as a woman with two 6'4" men in her recent past)

"Yes baby and squoosh, although I could sit here and type that I'd far rather have a short man than an overweight man, the truth is, I'm easily won over by personality."

And that is just as it should be! What would be the point of thinking "Well my BF is unkind / shit in bed / boring whatever - but hey at least he's over 6 foot!"

All the short men I know are coupled up so I don't know why people are feeling so peeved on their behalf. Are short men destined to spend a life alone? No.

I don't do online dating but common sense and courtesy dictates that as I don't go round in public with a list of physical charecteristics of those I deem worthy of getting to know me more, it's a bit twatty to do the same in a dating profile.
However in terms of actually dating someone I don't think there's anything wrong with preferring certain traits. Assuming it's within reasonable healthy limits an overweight man wouldn't bother me at all, but nothing wrong if others prefer slim whether man or woman.

I can't think of any single short men either squoosh. Not one. They all seem to get snapped up. To be honest, if I find a man really attractive, his height wouldn't even be a consideration to me, unless he was ridiculously tall compared to myself.

That said, I don't think theres any harm in excluding physical traits that you are just not attracted to. Not everyone does online dating, but I me and my friends would often make it known that we wouldn't go out with an overweight man, for example. Physical attraction is more important to some people than others, and I don't see why those people should keep their preferences secret, or waste other people's time by not making them known if they are dating online. Its not offensive, you can't expect everyone on earth to be attracted to you, so surely if you read "prefers slim built men" or "no older than 39" or "prefer light coloured eyes", you just read it, know that persons' not for you, and move on?

People have certain physical preferences. Certainly this does not come as shock to adults in the dating world. I accept that not every man is going to want to date a woman who is less than five feet tall. I accept that my generous bum and breasts are not pleasing to every male. You work with what you have.

ElkeDagMeisje (I am so pleased that I knew what that meant! and I suspect that, where you come from, there aren't too many short men!!) I think physical attraction isimportant to everyone. But, with only one exception in my life, I have always fallen for people - and fancied people - that I like, make me laugh, are nice to me. The physical attraction comes after the "Oh, I rather like you" moment because I could not just fancy someone subjectively without getting to know and like them first. Only once have I ever thought "Phwoar! I'm going to have you regardless because I fancy you so much!" (he was 6'4")

I feel I've explained that badly but I know what I mean!

I find it odd when people say they have a type, I have had three serious relationship, all men different heights, one very dark, Mediterranean looking, one stocky and short , dh blonde, skinny and about average height. One thing they have in common all really decent blokes, kind, gentle and loving. I must of inherited this most important preference from the example my lovely tall dad showed me.

You're right bitoutofpractice, we'd all be up in arms if a man said he wouldn't date a woman over 35 with a cup less than a C.

BUT I believe, and some will argue with me, that men aren't so easily won over by personality. It makes me feel a bit sad, but I sit in nearly every night, with my great personality! I go out, but with groups of women! Which is fine, I have a good time. People tell me I'm great, why don't I have a bf? And I think the truth is that even though a man of 5'5" could win me over with his wit, intelligence, good humour etc.... would my personality ever be able to compensate for the fact that I'm in my forties and only averagely attractive. Sorry for posting a downer. I'll get my coat now.

It works for men of course too-i am quite slim so not really attracted to larger women. Not a problem if other guys want them but not for me.

*BitOutOfPractice

ElkeDagMeisje (I am so pleased that I knew what that meant! grin and I suspect that, where you come from, there aren't too many short men!!)

You'd be surprised. There are some exceptionally tall ones, but also quite some really rather short ones. Theres just far more variation in height. So much so, that actually I think people pay far less attention to it than in this country.

Although I actually don't think theres anything wrong with some men preferring larger chested women. But its seems a bit strange to come out and say that, because its a secondary sexual characteristic.

I'm with bike and run- I don't really have a physical type and look back over my bfs - all different shapes/sizes/races with glee.
One Ds will be short I think and I genuinely have no worries that he will have problems getting women. I don't think it's a big(!) issue.
I have two friends with short stocky dhs. The men make the women look tall and slender - gorgeous!

I'm 5'7". I prefer men who are very slightly taller than me. However I've been out with someone who was barely 5ft tall and someone over 6ft tall. For me it's a bit of a preference, not a dealbreaker.

However, I've never been attracted to anyone obese. A bit overweight, perhaps, but never obese. True, you can keep an open mind but in the end, there may just be some physical characteristics which for you are dealbreakers.

I am 5,1.

I like men to be much taller than me. DH is 6 foot which is lovely, but anything over 5,8 is fine by me.

Now that's not to say that if I was single I would not date someone who was short if they were really lovely, but I probably would be instantly attracted to someone who was short.

I met a man last week who was short, he constantly made short jokes about himself. I found it quite sad that he had to keep pointing it out over and over again, even in humour.

I am sure many men wouldn't be attracted to me because I have small boobs, short hair, petite and not curvy etc.. that's fine, I am not offended that people have types they prefer and would rule me out on certain physical traits.

DS is in his late teens and is about 5'5" about an inch taller than his DF). I doubt he'll grow much taller. It does sadden me that women in future will pass him over because of his height, he's always been a sensitive soul too, but I suppose he'll just have to try and toughen up over time.