Men's height

[Jenna333]

I know this is a shallow question but having looked at some OLD profiles, I got wondering about mens height. I know ultimately it comes down to many factors but I was wondering how other women feel about shorter men e.g 5'4" ish?

I'm not sure it comes down to being shallow. I think height/lack of it is something people are attracted to just as much as blonde hair or blue eyes.

I'm 5ft3 and just do not find short men attractive. That's not to say they are not great people and if I got talking to a short guy and found he was awesome, it wouldn't put me off dating him. For me, that's in the same category as saying I am generally attracted to black men (and to be honest, I only usually get attraction from black men), but that's not to say I'd only exclusively date black men. I'm quite aware that there are wonderful men who are white, black, mixed race, Asian, Eastern European, etc. and if I got to know them and they were a match for me, I'd consider myself blessed; the same with somebody who is short.

I'm 5'4" and used to always go for tall men who were at least four inches taller. Then I met and fell in love with dp who is the same height as me and it honestly does not make any difference. I love him so much and am attracted to him, he's the best guy I've ever met. Give shorter guys a chaNce, you're potentially writing off vast swathes of otherwise fantastic guys.

I haven't taken it personally, I'm not a short man and I'm quite happy for my dp to be less attractive to other women

I'm not to fussed about height. I think I go for total overall volume than anything else LOL!

Tall men I find attractive are generally thin and beanpole like...I don't like tall broad/big guys (I find them a bit physically overwhelming.) But short guys I like are generally on the chubby side, I don't like short thin guys (I would feel like I was overwhelming them.)

DH is tall and thin.

Argh...this is a difficult one. I have a thing about tall men, always have had. I have a FWB, he is around 6ft 4, and his height is a huge turn on for me. I have, however, been hotly pursued by an absolutely lovely lovely man for the past year who is around 5ft 5. I am about 5ft 6 ish. He is gorgeous to look at, absolutely lovely personality etc, but I can't get past the height thing. I do realise how shallow that makes me sound . My cousin, on the other hand is a very tall and willowy 6ft, her partner is 5ft 6. She doesn't mind wearing heels either which in my eyes, looks just a bit too weird. However, look at Jamie Cullum and his wife Sophie, huge height difference. I guess it's just down to preference...which is v tall for me.

One of my exes was 5'5"/5'6" and I'm 5'2"/5'3". Never bothered me but then there aren't that many men shorter than me out there. In fact, the tallest guy I've ever been out with was 5'8"/5'9" - I tend to be more attracted to shorter men, I don't like the thought of having someone towering over me and only coming up to someone's armpit. On paper, 5'10" would be my limit - anything taller than that feels too tall. That said, I'm just as shallow - again, on paper I'm only attracted to slim men - I'm not into uber macho rugby types or anyone who's on the heavier side.

That said, I have been very attracted to a few men in real life who didn't fit my on paper requirements. For example, I had a crush on a guy who was probably around 6ft and had a full beard (can't normally stand lots of facial hair) but I thought he was beautiful. I've also fancied a guy who was quite stocky and had a shaved head (again, not my kind of thing). This is part of the reason why I'm not a huge fan of OLD - it's very easy to filter lots of people out based on one physical characteristic but doesn't account for the kind of chemistry you can get in person where you think, "wow, this person really isn't my type but my god, I want him."

Never really thought about it, but DH is 6'1", and previous partners all been around 6' - maybe height is a thing? I hadn't realised. I'm 5'5" and don't think I've ever even had a drunken snog with anyone around my own height, though I have been quite drunk!

I am nearly 5'8", in fact I am the runt in a family of giants, but my husband is 5'6" and height was never a factor for me. I love being eye to eye with him. He is very masculine, though, and that has always been more important to me than height.

I'm more attracted to personalities than height. Dp is same height as me 5'7. Ex was 6ft. Nice to have eye contact during missionary rather than staring at a chest. And does not correlate to size I'm happy to report.

Meh people like what they like, you can't force attraction plus your doing them a favour better they find someone who really wants to be with them. Although i kind of think it's odd that men who say "nothing above a size 12" are considered to be dicks. Especially since a persons weight can vary but a persons height is beyond their control.

I'm 5'3" and I've never been bothered about height, I've dated men who were probably considered quite short but always taller than me. But since reading on MN how much taller men are sought after I can't help feeling quite pleased that I nabbed a DH who is 6'3". It is a bit awkward when he has to bend down to kiss me though

I don't judge men for their preferences. I reckon we have little control over who or what we find attactive.

I'm a size 14 and therefore 80% of men would probaby find me too fat to date.

I'm also a brunette and some men prefer blondes. I also wear a ot of makeup and some men don't like that. I'm 37 so might be too old or too young for a lot of men.

So be it.

We all have what we are attracted to.

Generally speaking for women there's a tendency to prefer a man taller than they are who is relatively financially solvent. For men there's a tendency to want a slimmer woman with longer hair or some other arbitrary things.

I am not saying that's right to judge peope's worth, I just think it's imprited biologically on us to find certain things attracive.

For me no matter how much I liked a guy if he'd been unemployed for 10 years and lived with his Mum I'd not fancy him, nor would I if he was shorter than me.

I am sure plenty of men would most definitely not fancy me because I am a size 14 rather than a 10. For other men I'd be too skinny.

I don't think it's shallow really. Just biology.

I'm 5ft5 dh is 5ft8. doesn't bother me in the slightest, I actually love the fact that it's no effort to reach to kiss him.

(BIL is 5ft4 and FIL 5ft2 . MIL is 4ft9 and 2 of his sisters are around 5ft3, the other 3 are under 5ft)

Sounds like dp and his family, he is the tallest at 5ft6

His mum is teeny tiny and makes me feel like a heffalump. She offered me a more 'sturdy' chair last Christmas

I'm 5'5 and a guy would have to be at least 5'8, preferably taller. Shallow eh?

I'm 5'10" and I have felt a little hurt on occaison when a man decides I'm "too tall"! I don't mind shorter men at all, really makes no difference to me. I have a theory that the tall women and short men should get together...we know it doesn't matter :)

I'm not attracted to short men. But I'm only 5' 2" so most men are still taller than me anyway.

He must be 3" taller than me - non negotiable. Not fussed about looks or weight though.

Yes I would. I'm 5-4 and one of the most interesting, most humorous, most amazing men I know is 5-2. However I'd be less keen on dating a very blonde man or a very fat man or a smoker or an unfit man.

I've never met a man shorter than me so I don't know if i would find them attractive. My ex was 5'5' dp is 6 foot. But I'm in Scandinavia 6' is quite short.

I'm quite tall (5'10') and my first boyfriend was a bit shorter than me and it made me feel very self conscious about my height. So when I went to university I decided to only date men who were 6ft+. I think in my hall there were four possibilities, out of which I picked now dh! Possibly my criteria was a bit too narrowing

Now I am all grown up I am much less self conscious about my height, and so I might well date shorter guys without it being an issue.

My dd is coming up 6' (she is 14) height doesn't seem to be an issue for her, she likes 'pretty' boys (and girls too).

I think it's pretty normal for women to be attracted to men who are taller than them, I'm 6ft7 and DP is 5ft3.
A couple I went to school with are now married and are possibly the nicest couple I have ever known, she is about 6ft and he is 5ft5.
I suppose it doesn't really matter.

Take a
Look at all the romantic leads we ate bombarded with, the man is always taller than the woman.

It's rammed down our throats from an early age .

Not saying it's right or wrong.

I'm 6ft tall, i do feel quite put out when a man won't date me because of my height! (i'm OLD)
As i have got older, I'm 42 now, I have become more comfortable with my height & wear high heels regularly!
I have dated someone 5ft8 and it was great. I don't have any hang ups about it.