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Men's height

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Jenna333 · 02/08/2015 22:43

I know this is a shallow question but having looked at some OLD profiles, I got wondering about mens height. I know ultimately it comes down to many factors but I was wondering how other women feel about shorter men e.g 5'4" ish?

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GraysAnalogy · 03/08/2015 13:44

I think it actually falls harder on men.

I think the two main standards men have are height and penis size. They can't change either.

Women, we've got an awful lot at our disposal to achieve whatever standards we're aiming for.

Newrule · 03/08/2015 13:51

The strangest think about this is that British people aren't particularly tall by world standards. British women on average a rather short. I think 5ft 4 inches and British men about 5ft 8 inches. So this preference for tall men must be causing a heck of a lot of problem. No wonder so many women and men remain single.

By British standards I am above average height. Where I come front my family always referred to me as short. Ha!

AICM · 03/08/2015 13:54

I hadn't thought about that Grays. I suppose baldness could come into that too

TheStoic · 03/08/2015 13:54

I think it actually falls harder on men.

You think society's physical standards are harder on men?

GraysAnalogy · 03/08/2015 13:55

You think society's physical standards are harder on men?

I don't think men have more standards to achieve, I just think women's are easier to achieve.

Yes AICM I didn't think about that.

TheStoic · 03/08/2015 13:59

I don't think men have more standards to achieve, I just think women's are easier to achieve.

If they were, wouldn't most women be size 10 beauties?

GraysAnalogy · 03/08/2015 14:05

What do you think is easier, losing weight or gaining 3 inches in height? Or penis length?

GraysAnalogy · 03/08/2015 14:06

And please take note I didn't say it was easy I said easier.

We have many tools at our disposal to aid us in achieving these beauty standards.

BestIsWest · 03/08/2015 14:07

I am 5'10 and dated someone of 5'5" for a year or so. He was lovely.

DH is half an inch shorter than me, never bothered either of us.

DrMorbius · 03/08/2015 14:10

What do you think is easier, losing weight or gaining 3 inches in height? Or penis length?
Wow I would sell my soul to get an extra 3 inches on my penis Grin.

AICM · 03/08/2015 14:11

If man is written off because he is 3 inches too short (as happens a lot - read the thread) what can he do other than feel miserable about himself?

If women is written off because she is 3 pounds overweight (as happens a lot) what can she do?

I think that's the point Grays is making.

TheStoic · 03/08/2015 14:12

We have many tools at our disposal to aid us in achieving these beauty standards

And that's why society's standards are easier on women? Because we can meet them more easily?

Backforthis · 03/08/2015 14:19

How about age? Is it easier for women to lose 10 years? From what I've read about internet dating most men of 35-40 aren't looking for women who are 35-40.

SaltySeaBird · 03/08/2015 14:22

I'm 5"4 and I've never really worried about height - although my DH is 6"1 I always thought my ideal height for a man was about 5"10. However I didn't not date DH because he was too tall for my ideal, equally I wouldn't have not dated him if he had been too short for my ideal!

AICM · 03/08/2015 14:22

Any single man shorter than 5 5 reading this thread (after he stops crying) would be fully justified in agreeing with Grays. I'm still not sure I agree but within the context of this thread it's a valid point to make.

MorrisZapp · 03/08/2015 14:26

Once he's wiped his tears maybe he can check that his dating profile doesn't specify women younger than he is, or slimmer than him.

GraysAnalogy · 03/08/2015 14:26

If you have a standard that you have absolutely no way in hells chance of achieving then I think this is worse than having more that you can achieve.

There's also far more support for women, men are seen as soft if they complain about such things. I think some feminists call this toxic masculinity.

Lashalicious · 03/08/2015 14:29

My husband is 6'1" and I am 5' 4" but I dated a guy before who was not much taller than me. It was not a problem at all. He was very manly, to be honest his height never crossed my mind. He turned out to be a ladies man ha! so it didn't last. His height was never a liability in finding girlfriends.

We have a dear friend who also is around my height or just a little taller. He is a great guy, happily married to a wonderful woman, and he is a manly, in charge type of guy as well. I think it is a matter of the individual man having that confidence and being happy within himself.

virgospirit · 03/08/2015 14:29

I'm a guy, 5'4" and for what it's worth weigh between 58-60kg. I actually like being short, I'm really happy with my body and the way I look, I'm in great physical shape because I choose to live a very active lifestyle and I wouldn't want to be any taller for the world. I love being me :)

GraysAnalogy · 03/08/2015 14:31

I'm glad virgo. I wish everyone could feel the same. Including myself but that's my own fault Blush

AICM · 03/08/2015 14:33

Morris
I think women like you are another reason men have it tough.

MistressDeeCee · 03/08/2015 14:35

Im 5ft 6 and only like men slightly shorter than me, or a couple of inches taller. Im not and never have been attracted to taller men. Never even thought about why, some things just "are". But with height, you know your own preference surely don't you, OP? Just go for what you like and bypass what you don't

Madbengalmum · 03/08/2015 14:38

I am 5'4 and my OH is 6'7, massive height difference but i am just not attracted to small men, i have usually found them to be aggressive too.

JRShotMe · 03/08/2015 14:39

I'm 5'7 so on the tallish side, and especially if I wear heels - admittedly which has always been once in a blue moon, being much more of a trainers/hiking boots kind of person. I always swore that I would never go out with a short man, in fact all my relationships were with men over 6' and height was probably my main physical criteria. I signed up to match.com last year and when searching for blokes put in a minimum height of 5'10, but thought that even that wasn't really tall enough for my liking (yes, shallowness, thy name is JRShotMe Blush).

So anyway, early February I get a message from a guy on Match; great profile photo of a good looking, outdoorsy guy, perfect age for me, great message, into travel, climbing and biking and all the stuff that I like, no text speak blah blah blah so immediately I click on his profile... and he's 5'8 Hmm. Long story short (no pun intended), after exchanging quite a few messages I met up with him that weekend as he seemed great, although I was a bit 'dammit!' about his height... annnnnd, we met up 7 times in the following 10 days, 3 weeks after that we went skiing in France and 6 months later (this Friday!) we are very happily together and hopefully will be planning a future Grin I think he's absolutely gorgeous and his height really couldn't matter less; I have had to eat all my previous words about never being with a 'short' man, much to the amusement of my friends!

squoosh · 03/08/2015 14:39

But isn't Morris right that it's many womens' experience that in the world of OLD many 40 something men often don't want to date 40 something women? They are looking for someone ten years younger.

It's as difficult for a woman to wind back the clock as it is for a man to grow a foot taller.

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