Men's height

[Jenna333]

I know this is a shallow question but having looked at some OLD profiles, I got wondering about mens height. I know ultimately it comes down to many factors but I was wondering how other women feel about shorter men e.g 5'4" ish?

I may have reaponded with 'my tall what?'

As a mother of a ds who is short and not likely to exceed 5'6" this is a horrible thread to read. Probably because the overwhelming majority of posters seem to find it so unattractive. I worry for him and his self esteem as he gets older.

thestoic i love a Princess Bride reference

strawberrymojito dont. Just because some women prefer tall men, it doesnt mean all do. Did you honestly believe before reading this that everyone your son met would be attracted to him? That's a bit big-headed of you dont you think?!

As a mother of a ds who is short and not likely to exceed 5'6" this is a horrible thread to read. Probably because the overwhelming majority of posters seem to find it so unattractive

Most of those people just prefer someone who is taller than they are. There are plenty of short women.

Some people find pale people unattractive.
Some people find dark hair unattractive.
Some people find X Y or Z unattractive.
Some people find a lack of intelligence unattractive.

Height is just one thing.

Being tall is the essence of masculinity surely?

I really wouldn't worry about it Strawberrymojito. I am short, and when I was doing OLD, I took it as a personal challenge to seduce women that said they didn't like short guys. I reckon I had a better than 70% strike rate.

i have dated someone about 5 ft 6 I think he was - for me when I met him it was more about his personality (but he was good looking etc). The size didn't bother me then.

Now I have to say I prefer taller men. 5 ft 10 is minimum.

My brother is 5 ft 6 or 7 and his wife is 5 ft 9 or 10 I think never bothered them in the slightest!

I'm attracted to short sporty men. I married a tall unsporty man. He has an amazing brain though which sort of swung the balance.

StrawberryMo there is hope for your son after all, as back in the day I was a pretty good 'catch' . Plenty of women like me think short is cute.

As an aside when I worked on a trading floor a surprising number of the traders were very short. They all had very beautiful partners. Either their partners were being even more shallow and looking only at the bank statements, or charisma and personality won out. Who's to say. Either way those particular short men were doing all right in life.

I find most of the abuse about being tall is from short unattractive men who even if they were tall and gorgeous, would still be knobs.

"I don't judge men for their preferences. I reckon we have little control over who or what we find attactive."

Absolutely. It's not "shallow" to have preferences, it's natural. I've had sex with men of all shapes, sizes, ages, attractiveness, etc, and I now know what I like and what I don't like. My preference is for men over 5'10", because I'm 5'6" and don't like being taller than the man when I'm wearing high heels. I did date a man who was shorter than me but I just felt uncomfortable. I like my sexual partners to be taller, hairier, broader, not overweight can't stand it when men have bigger boobs than me or I can see and feel fat wobbling about when they're fucking me! and more muscley than me, whereas looks don't factor at all in platonic relationships.

I'd rather be alone than be with someone I didn't fancy physically; I've done my share of dating men who I didn't lust after just because they had nice personalities and I thought I'd give them a chance. No more. My BF is 6'1" and apart from the bit round the middle has a physique like a footballer. It was mutual lust at first sight and those feelings haven't diminished after 2 years. I find him incredibly sexy, and thankfully we get on really well too.

Thanks for those reassuring comments, good to hear. Obviously I didn't expect every person he encounters to find him attractive (there's always someone ready to attack on MN isn't there?) but I was alarmed that such a majority would possibly write him off at first glance. I hope he is as confident as you ShortandSweeter, thanks.

On he subject of being shallow, although not related to height, a friend of mine is a male teacher. he bonce went on a dating sire and posted his details and after two months got 0 responses. He changed one word in his profile and was inundated.

Any guesses?

strawberry my dd is/will be like me. Tall, skinny, narrow hips, no bum etc. And it's absolutely fine for some people to say 'not my cup of tea'. That's not offensive just personal preference. Yet everyday it's possible to see something saying thin isn't attractive, or a real woman, skeletons, androgynous, men prefer curves etc, not stated as personal taste, but as though it's a general fact. I constantly hear size 10 thrown around as the ideal, but unlike someone overweight I'm never going to achieve that, just like adult height it's just not the way I'm made. I know that's actually bollocks, same as it would be if anyone said 'short men aren't attractive to women'. Saying a physical trait isn't attractive to you personally isn't the same thing at all.
Plus I've found if you're outside the average, most people aren't fussed either way, and for every person that says 'sorry not for me' there'll be another who actually finds that difference a massive turn on.

It doesn't bother me. I've dated one guy shorter than me, two guys the same height, and two significantly taller.

I also agree with Wally that I would definitely Do the Dink

Sexist because it buys into stereotyping- ideal men are like this, ideal women are like that. Men have to be bigger and protective, women smaller and nurturing etc etc. Of course we all have preferences, the tall thing I find unkind and unreasonable. That's just my opinion. Like who the hell you want but prejudices might lurk under some of it, for all of us. Me included

I find the idea that tall men = masculine/protective totally nauseating and slightly bonkers.

Protective in what way? Able to use their height advantage to duff someone up if they try and challenge your womanly honour .

My Dad is 5'4" and my Mum is 5'7" and they are honestly one of the happiest couples I know

Sexist because it buys into stereotyping- ideal men are like this...

No, it's personal preference. My ideal man might be like this, yours might be like that.

There is no one ideal that fits everyone. What a strange idea.

It's interesting how a lot of the really short women on here only date or who are with really tall men (6ft+)

I'm 5ft10 and love shorter men. A fair few of my significant partners have been men shorter than me. DP is 5ft6.

He ADORES tall women though. I wonder if it has something to do subconsciously with wanting what we ourselves haven't. Or not particularly valuing what we have ourselves so not putting great value on others having it.

E.g if you're short, it might bother you a bit so you value height in others.

Probably a crap theory...

It is only sexist if the slight is directed at women.

What was the word AICM? Am intrigued...

Sexist because it buys into stereotyping- ideal men are like this, ideal women are like that.

That's still not sexism. Sexism is discrimination based on someone's gender. Not their height...

He changed the word teacher to doctor.