What would you think if OW text this?

[lilybutton]

Just found 4 years worth of messages between DH and his colleague.

Very flirty on both sides both way out of line but impossible to tell if anything ever happened but they both obviously wanted it to.

I have just messaged her to tell her what I have seen and she replied that she takes 100% responsibility and that he loves me.

He is denying everything.

Feel so sick he is coming home from work now to talk about it.

She's either realised what they were doing is wrong or she thinks he'll like her more if she doesn't shit on your further.

She's irrelevant though.

He's a shit.

Because it only went on for about a month and he wasn't away during that time. I also read every single message between them both, including the one where he said that he didn't want to meet up with her. (Small comfort I know)

Thanks Dreaming. It sounds like things are slowly getting better for you

Does it Millii? I do wonder sometimes... We have good days and bad days, having a few bad ones at the moment so I'm feeling a bit despondent.

Anyway, back to you OP. I hope that he has come home and is telling the truth. Wishing you strength.

Thinking of you Milli x

Why Princess?

Milllii I'm also thinking of you too.

But I think maybe the comment might have been intended for dreaming

Erm Millii it was just a message to say thinking of you after what you posted. Nothing sinister intended ???

Been there myself, not nice at all.

I hope he has come back for a chat x

Hugs to dreamingofblueskies too x

Princess I think you have me mixed up with someone else

Inthebox awww....thinking of you too

Whoops so I have, I meant the OP gosh I am so sorry lol

I am swopping between a few threads so think I must have got confused.

Really sorry blush I am such a numpty - best be careful now x

lol

:)

there is another thread on here posted from an OW about being in a relationship for 4 years. It's a bit spooky given this post blush

he's deliberately deceived you for 4 years. As soon as you found out and confronted him he denied it even though you have seen the evidence.....and you're still looking for excuses to justify his behaviour and minimise it. he's fooled you once - don't let yourself be fooled by him again. he has no respect for you or consideration for your feelings. Next time he will make sure to leave NO TRACE of evidence for you to find by accident.

I'm getting confused too. Who is Blush Princess?

I can't seem to type the blush face Millii so I put blush in bold - bloody keyboard (i think i missed typing face off end)

I think I need to have a break lol x

O, sorry Princess I was a bit dim there

If the messages were all innocent then there would be nothing for the OW to take responsibility for

What I mean is if one of my colleague's wives called me because they had read some texts between us, my first instinct would be to reassure her there was nothing untoward in the texts not to say 'I take responsibility for everything' because there would be nothing to take responsibility for iyswim. Her text would make me think there was something between them. Sorry OP

No worries Milllii I think I might have figured it out now [hmm) yaay !

I do hope lilybutton is ok x

Hope you're ok lilybutton.

Emotional affair at the very (unlikely) least. Still a betrayal.

OK we have been talking all night not slept at all.

Basically she really pursued him and from her messages now I have re read them she made it very clear.

I had even asked him a few months ago if something was going on but he denied it.

He admitted he has met her socially a few times because she begged him to because she was having a lot of problems.

He said his messages to her were just to make her feel better because she was really down and he was just trying to give her an ego boost to make her feel better.

He has messaged her for giving her the wrong impression.

I feel so ill that they have betrayed me though.

She was obviously crazy about him though and she would definitely have slept with him if he hadn't been so strong.

What do you think?

I think he is lying to you, I'm sorry.

I think he's lying. Sorry.