DRY 8!!!!!!

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Hello! This is our 8th! thread for those who are abstaining from alcohol and for those who want to abstain. :) We love newbies and lurkers. We have people who have been DRY for years, for months, for weeks, days, and hours. :) ALL are welcome. We have heaps of tips and we offer support at any stage.

DRY 7 the previous thread is here...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2347295-DRY-7?

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Morning all. Re. AA, I've been to a couple of meetings and am unsure it's for me - although I spent the first few AF months thinking I'd never go and it definitely wouldn't be for me... so I say 'never say never'. As time goes on I identify more with their 'message', but do feel enormously glad that there are other options available now, with the online sober community, for people wanting to stop drinking. I think 10 or more years ago, it must have been a very daunting prospect as someone wanting to stop to think that AA was the only option available. It certainly isn't for everyone, and although I didn't find any bitterness or 'dry drunk' mentality at the meetings I attended, I did find it all very dogmatic and overwhelming. It's easy to sit there at a meeting and feel alienated by all the recovery language, etc.

Sober - have you been trying to lose weight? If so, that is a fantastic achievement - well done! I have lost 3.5 stone in the year since I've stopped drinking, although most of that has been in the past 9 months when I felt able to address my weight - for the first 3-4 months I was too focused on not drinking to want to also restrict food in any way. I still consider myself to have 'problems' around food, and unless I am concertedly eating healthily can find myself binge eating. Something I need to look at because it's no doubt all related to the drinking issues too.

Last - sorry to hear about the (temporary!) loss of the pink cloud. It's hard to be kind to ourselves about past actions/behaviours, but try to forgive yourself - it's the only answer! If I'm really stuck in a self-berating loop I try to actively say out loud "I forgive myself!" or something like "I was doing the best I could at the time". I shall be willing your pink cloud to hover back over you... :)

As for me, I'm back from hols and child free for a few days. I need to try hard not to isolate; it's not helped at the moment by having a bad back and struggling to get much done. It's a glorious day out there and I need to get myself out into the sunshine..

Sorry my post was repeated so many times!. Blaming my sensitive laptop .
Isolation is a bum thing,both my children are away their presence keeps me in check, films work for me; takes me out of myself. Cordon set in Antwerp; BBC iplayer has kept me occupied.

Newbie here. I was on a thread a while ago but I found it a bit intimidating. Not great at being online, but if it's okay I'll pop my head in. Reading this thread has kicked my arse. Thanks

I'm also a newbie. I'd wanted to have a go at Dry June, but nobody acknowledged me in that thread, and I just bowed out (I blame this on being way oversensitive, depressed and anxious - I wonder why?!). I know, excuses, excuses.

I think I am ready now. Drinking is not working for me any more, and something has to give. And I don't want it to be my sanity/relationships. I'm getting ill too often because I'm so run down. Work is suffering. My marriage is suffering. My kids are not getting the best of me.

I grew up with an alcoholic father (think: sozzled from 6am type, but who still managed to work in a demanding job). He died 2 years ago due to it and it was such a sad waste. I don't want to have even an eighth of the problems he had.

Help!!

Hello and welcome all, from me
Where did the sun go? Pouring with rain, here :(

Hey Waverley, that's good that you feel ready now. And I can relate with the relationship/kids aspect. Mine is more weight related, and the trap of holidays, sun, did the hoovering, any excuse really. It's creeping into a habit.
I am going for small steps and plan to be AF this week. Friday I have a night planned but I want to go for extreme watered down drinks. I think I will be in bed early every night this week!

Welcome Stellar and Waverley :) Waverley my Dad was an alcoholic too and died 4 years ago and like you it is not something I want for me or my children. Stellar bed early every night is a really good plan!!
Glad overcast here but no rain as yet although it's forecast. Went out for a run earlier and it was still scorcio despite no sun ...

Hi Stellar and Lucy, thanks for the welcome

Will post properly later when I'm not at work, but feeling quite hopeful. Not sure how long that will last!

It is flipping sticky here. I had a grim weekend! dd has chicken pox at the age of 9 and she is not impressed with it :( husband and son played cricket all weekend so I was mummy nurse and a bit fed up to be honest! Welcome to all the new people.

I'm here.

I'm bloody terrified. I shouldn't be, I thought I'd got my head into the right space but now I'm here I'm just so scared. Stupid, I've gone AF before but it seems insurmountable right now. 10 minutes at a time.

Sorry to sound so negative. I will get there.

I can't even work out if I spelt that right. Sorry.

You will get there. 10 minutes at a time if necessary

thank you molly

Pourmyself there is nothing to fear but fear itself. Negative is fine and pretty normal. I was sh*tting myself when I stopped for good but hang in there. If all else fails just go to bed! :)

Welcome Stellar and Waverley

Ha we have barely seen the sun at all this year. Particularly grim on the one year I decide not to go away, the torrential rain streaming down the road today was nothing new ffs.

Hope your dd gets better soon molly poor thing and poor you for having to do nursemaid alone. Neither of mine have had cp yet. I'm actually considering getting ds vaccinated this year purely because I got it at an older age myself in my teens and it hit me really hard.

Yep don't think about that pour, ten minutes at a time. You can do it, I have faith :)

Shattered here, I think as a result of a sugar crash induced by a visit to McDs and the cinema with the dc. Bloody hell the cinema is so flaming expensive these days! Roll on bedtime.

hey owl/waverly
does my head in 10 mins at a time ;that obsession one thing at a time having to get away from what ? we all need some phycotherapy..Very expensive long waiting lists and apparently fucking awful,as you have to be open as well as very defesive catch 22 ...good help for people xx
kisses

Welcome Stella and Waverly. How's the day gone Pour?

I slept for most of the day and I'm in bed now. I'm so tired and sleeping is the easiest thing to do. I won't sleep well for the rest of the week, going AF always screws with my sleeping patterns.

Thank you. I'm sorry my head isn't straight enough to be a bit more polite and ask after others. I'll get there.

Hi everyone...... dropped off thread due to guests both expected and unexpected. That is a major stressor for me. Having a difficult time with one guest...... he is late teens and I have little experience with teens!

anyway, will try and get on more often. Welcome everyone new. :)

Morning everyone.

Today is another day. :)

Hello

Thread has gone a bit quiet!

Am feeling less teary and better now.
Teariness was related to a big change that was long overdue!
Do you remember the presentation that went well?
That lead to a strange series of events and the bottom line is I have a new job!
My dream job,less stress,no travelling or long hours !
I do love my current job and all my colleagues but the stress is how I ended up here
It all happened a bit fast though and I had a huge wobble!( not alcohol related)

So Ive lost count of what day AF Im on but still AF and happy.
Hope everyone is doing ok .

Lots of congrats Pink, sounds fabulous!! Well done!

Bloody glorious here for a change. Had a day out with the dc as trying to fit in a few activity days before the end of the summer hols. Loads of fun and the dc seemed to really enjoy themselves. Only wobble was walking past the beer garden later on in the day but came home and had a becks blue instead :)

You getting on ok pour? Everyone else? Ohh teenager Cheesy the very word strikes fear into my heart purely because I was a godawful difficult teen myself

Teenagers-pah!
They sleep all day and eat all your food.
Use money and taxi services as a bribe!

It's easier than trying to toddler wrangle !

I am so proud of everyone making this journey. It's a very hard one and you need to know you are not doing it alone