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CheesyNachos · 2015-07-24T11:22:42+00:00

Hello! This is our 8th! thread for those who are abstaining from alcohol and for those who want to abstain. :) We love newbies and lurkers. We have people who have been DRY for years, for months, for weeks, days, and hours. :) ALL are welcome. We have heaps of tips and we offer support at any stage. DRY 7 the previous thread is here... [[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2347295-DRY-7?]]

mollyonthemove · 07/08/2015 09:09

I haven't been here for sooooo long. I think I dropped off the last thread due to life being a bit mad! Still sober plodding along and beginning to feel like it is completely normal. It'll be two years in October and I'm daily astounded by it!

Will catch up and stay around x

Twinky2 · 08/08/2015 11:56

Hi been reading your threads,l been uemployed off and on for the past 15 months after working 25yrs and my wine drinking is now2 bottles....daily.
lm engaged in an alcohol recovery service,reducing is impossible for me..so preparing for a sept home detox when my daughter can be around.
I just finding the waiting hard.....had a liver test 3 weeks ago came back normal though that can change at any time..crikey..l been advise not to stop completely, usual wake up promise and fail not to drink..
..Filling my time is a problem as drinking takes up so much of it.1
.Do swim and read a lot but that doesn.t fill the void..done AA feeling apathetic.soo well good to read this as we are all at different stages of the battle different..its important not to give up hope.guess this will be the hardest thing I have ever done..

mollyonthemove · 08/08/2015 19:01

Hi twinky. It is going to be hard abut at least you know that you must do it. I have been sober since October 2013 and it was really tricky to start with, I guess you get to a point when you just HAVE to not drink and each day takes you a step away. I too had tried AA a few years back and I won't repeat what I thought of them Suffice to stay I went back to drinking and this time have managed on my own, with this thread and with other online support. You will feel so much better. How are you preparing for September?

PinkPopPony · 08/08/2015 19:16

Why are you not keen on AA molly?
I have to say I wasn't keen either .

tsonlyme · 08/08/2015 19:51

Me neither, and I did it at least twice a week for 18 months haha

mollyonthemove · 08/08/2015 19:59

I don't really want to go into it too much but the groups I went to were just awful, no compassion, no leeway and generally just a fairly unpleasant bunch I may just have been unlucky but it was really not nice!

PinkPopPony · 08/08/2015 21:13

Oh I think I know what you mean.
Looking up the expression "Dry drunk" the other day I realise now that's what most of the group I met consisted of : bitter ,angry at being sober people(men) .

ResidentNevil · 08/08/2015 21:29

Hi guys, can I join? :-) I'm 34 year old mum to two teens. I currently drink every Friday and Saturday night and most Thursday and Sunday night. On average around 10 units per night.
As a result I've put on a stone in weight, spend my weekends groggy, tired and hungover, have almost given up on my hobby/passion and have even missed work on rare occasions. I decided today that I need to go tee-total as I cannot control myself once I start so "cutting back" Is not an option.

Would love to hear of the positives people have experienced since they made the change? especially weightloss

PourMyselfACupOfAmbition · 08/08/2015 23:36

I posted on the last thread. I'm on the count down to giving up (always a bloody count down isn't it?)

Birthday weekend so Monday will be it. But it won't be it, I'll have to sneak a bit for a week.

I listened to the first part of Rachel's story that Lucy linked to in thread 7. I sobbed.

I howled because she sounded broken. I feel like she sounded but I'm still hanging on. I think I'm.a high functioning alcoholic.
I howled because she was so brave
I howled because I was scared for her
I howled because her husband understood
I howled the loudest when she got her Guinness poured for her. Because I bloody wanted it!

I'm going to wait until the later part of next week to watch part 2.

LastGleaming · 09/08/2015 01:06

Hi and welcome twinky and Resident. Another one who has tried AA but not really my cup of tea. Purely because I can think of other things to do on that one day I get to myself eow. Works for some but I'd rather go clothes shopping

I wouldn't think so much about the weight loss and pressurizing yourself about that at the start Resident, especially if you crave sugary things which seems to be common. The plus is you will have tonnes more energy on down the line to burn it off again. Positives, umm.. I sleep better, no hangovers and feeling like shit while drinking copious amount of coffee all day, no anxiety, calmer and more even tempered, I exercise, have loads more money to spend on lovely things for myself/dc, more time and I'm becoming far more interested in activism in subjects close to my heart. Oh and I'm bloody proud of myself :)

Can't believe it's almost two years since the first thread molly!

Pink cloud left.. boo :( Instead last night when I was out running I was re-living through my head all my past mistakes, people I've hurt and felt guilty and shit about myself. Sometimes I hate that about running - gives you too much time to think and all those things you can push out of your head during a normal busy day can inundate you.

Was very touching PourMyself. Think what struck me in the first one was her dc was the same age as mine.

SoberAsMyJudgeypants · 09/08/2015 02:40

I've been very awol and very unsupportive. Sorry!

So, I have a question. I've now been sober since May and I've lost more than 3 stone. Is that normal or should I be worried? I feel perfectly healthy but I have hang ups generally about doctors. Mainly as I was always worried that they would "know" if you get what I mean.

Lucy2610 · 09/08/2015 09:53

Morning all and welcome twinky and Resident :)
Sober congrats on 3 stone - that's amazing!! You've lost it in 5 months so although a lot I wouldn't worry. If you continue to lose more at this lick then I'd be paying a visit to the GP just to get it checked out. Depends on how much you were drinking but a bottle of wine is 550 calories so your calorie intake will drop considerably to allow this kind of quick loss.
Pourmyself it is heartbreaking isn't it? Her story keeps me on the straight and narrow. Maybe for you it can be the catalyst for change?
Resident I agree with Last and fwiw I lost 12lbs in weight but it took a few months for it to start to come off.
Last I went for a run yesterday, and do the same thing, except on mine I outed myself as I'd been flirting with my old life again what with all the stressors of moving and needed to give myself a good talking too!! The end of the boxes is insight - thank God!!

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .

Twinky2 · 09/08/2015 10:40

I trying to reduce with measures of success in that area,.
The detox at home is med to help stop the cravings Acamprosate something to help sleep mainly the psychology of support is the strongest pill,. back tomorrow to chat to my councillor my daughter will be at home with me as safeguarding requires an adult with me .
,incase I fall over, worse fit!!!that bit is scary..hopefully i dont drink soo much that will occur.... Nurse comes in for the first 3 days.
Off to chat with my councillor tomorrow haven't reduced as much as l had aimed to do..trying not to beat my self up too much on that score.
Sober GPs have to be non-judgemental and offer support they have seen and heard most things.So I always think that fear is all in the head ,bite the bullet and go see your GP at least to put your mind at rest! xx
Haven't managed to work out how to use the smilies erh .