Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

I find it really hard to tell someone 'there's nothing there', some people don't take rejection very well ( as I found out this week ), I'm now being more careful who I meet up with, chat for a bit online first and try to get some idea what they are like before considering a date. It is hard work.

After moaning that no one has messaged me I have had a message from a very nice guy who I clicked 'want to meet' on POF and he said he wants to meet me too, I have messaged back explaining that I am going away in a couple days but maybe we could chat and maybe meet up when I'm back. Usually when I click 'want to meet' on anyone ( which is very rare anyway ) I never get a match so I'm quite pleased he likes my profile and I like his.

"Fake profiles are notiorus on Match! Match themselves set up fake profiles."

With hindsight, I reckon a fair amount of the female profiles were fake, or didn't really exist when I used the Match website. You used to be able to tell if somebody had viewed your profile (don't know if this is still the case) and quite often I'd write something out and send it to someone, but they wouldn't even look at my profile to check me out; I'd get no kind of response at all sometimes.

I found Match.com to be more akin to a missing persons website at times.

Oh yes, Match has loads of fake profiles, all very similar when you know how to spot them. I'd get a bunch of messages off very similar looking/sounding women, often in scotland (I'm in the south of the UK). I had much entertainment exchanging messages in terribly broken english with one of them, having run it through google translate multiple times, as this woman said she was local, and british but was obviously fake and her english was abysmal. It was probably some bloke in a cybercafe in nigeria or something.

If you get a message from someone you don't want to meet, just ignore it. And ignore the next one, and the next one. I think you can report abuse even when you're a free member, you just have to pay to 'hide' profiles.

Remember that rule - 'it's all bullshit till it happens' - well until you've actually met the person more than once, it's easier to think of it as a hobby than as a search for a life partner. There are many weirdos online, some find it easy to take offence and be offensive when sitting behind a keyboard.

People are always funnier and more intelligent behind a keyboard. Always trust the worst photo, not the best one. These are random people off the internet, most of whom you'll never meet in person. Some of them aren't even real people.

There are a few good ones though, finding them is the tough bit.

This is an old post from thread 30 or something...

It's easy to tell the scammers. Apart from the fact they describe their appearance as 'perfect', which even while untrue is also a little bit egotistical, they all have the same professions (cooks or police officers or medical workers), all have no profile text written, and in my early days of online dating - oooh 5 months ago now, I made the mistake of giving my email address to one, and was then bemused by the increasingly weird nature of the emails, which I was replying to with 'uhuh'. and 'really?' They're on a work placement in Africa, they've been thrown out of their hotel, they need money for a visa to get over to the UK again so they can marry me.. Yech.

So now I bait them instead. I know I shouldn't but as their emails are so obviously translated by a machine, I send them a nice email which I've run through several different language translators. English to Welsh to Japanese to Tagalog to Urdu to English again. That kind of thing. And what comes out is sometimes poetry:

Her email to me, after I'd replied to her first message to say she was very attractive and all, but she lived miles away and was obviously not real:

"Thanks, you also look handsome. You can tell me about your person and what is your aim. I will be happy to know that.
, My name is Emily, I work as the dentist in Grays, I live with parents, I love walks in the open air, I am engaged in gymnastics, on this site I want to meet the reliable, true, kind man with which wanted to divide the loneliness if to you is interesting write me your mail box and I there will write to you."

and my response in the original English:

"Top of the morning to you.

It was lovely to receive your mail, I'm very excited about the possibility of meeting a gymnastic dentist who lives with her parents. Oh the possibilities!

I've been thinking about the perfect woman for me. I have very very bad teeth and yet feel uncomfortable sitting in one of those reclining chairs you find in dentists offices, so need someone who can fix them while pinning me to the chair with her ankles to make sure I don't wriggle too much while you drill. You look perfect for that!

And yes, I like long walks in the open air too. Sometimes I can go for whole weeks without setting foot indoors.

Also, your idea of dividing the loneliness sounds very poetic. It is lovely! Far better than multiplication.

Anyway. if you would like to contact me, send slowly more revealing photos of yourself before telling me you need just a small amount of money to help you out of a difficult situation, then you can get in touch on [email protected]

I look forward to receiving your requests for visa funding.

yours with boundless enthusiasm and a credit card,

Bant"

But it's much better after I'd converted it to Arabic, Gallician, Japanese and Welsh and back into English. Not in that order

"Upper of the daybreak.

It was good to get your e-mail, I'm very excited at the prospect of finding a dentist and parents living in the gym. Oh possibilities!

I've been thinking about the perfect woman for me. When I have a bad tooth very highly, after becoming one of the reclining chair seen in the dentist's office the session, so feel comfortable they are, ankles while you are connected to the I I should need someone to be able to fix it in a chair and please do not run a lot of time digging. It is ideal for you!

And, yes, I not only long, I love walking outdoors. Sometimes I can go a week without specifying the inside of the foot.

In addition, the unit will have an idea to split looks very poetic. She is beautiful! It is much better than the beatings.

Anyway. Before you tell me that you need a small amount of money that you will contact me to help you get out of a difficult situation, if you want to send the image to reveal themselves slowly, to [email protected] you can contact

We are looking forward to applications for funding that I have seen.

Infinite passion and your credit card,

Bant"

I didn't hear back from her, which was somewhat of a disappointment as I just loved the way Uber-translation works. The fact that 'Better than multiplication' in English, when translated to Arabic, becomes 'Better than the beatings'. I was having fun trying to work out the psychology of that.

Hello I am back, bant that was freaking hilarious post, Cheered up the my dismal Friday. So back on the dating scene after the Devon disaster, despite claiming un dying love, wanting me to marry him and live with me, he seems he does not have time in his life for a relationship. So find myself on Zoosk and POF. Waves to all. Will and try and catch up

Blossom hope you have better luck this time around. I'm finding POF a mixed bag really luckily met MrG on there within the first day but so nervous for meeting him tomorrow. I wish I wasn't so self concious about my weight (I am doing something about it), he has tried to reassure me but I think as I am new to the dating scene I'm a bit out of practice. I'm going to try my best to put it to the back of my mind.

hiding I am fine back on the dating scene already, me ex laughed said I did not waste anytime. Don't be nervous about the date, just be yourself, I have been on tons and you do get used to it, dare say it can even be fun.

Can I join you? Have been on GSM for ages, only been on one ate, he wad awful. Am too scared and hardly get any messages anyway!

Welcome Brixton try some different sites, do you have pics up?

Welcome back Blossom How's it all going?

bant that was hilarious!

Welcome Hiding and Brixton and hugs to all the regulars.

Not read the thread for a few days and hope you are all okay. I gently dumped MrClooney and explained that the reason was lack of contact, inconsistency and him not making an effort to see me as well as how odd I found it that he had gone exlusive with me and continued to go on POF and even updated a photo.

Was suprised by a very lovely and honest reply that said I was absolutely right, and he'd been inconsistent. He said the reason was genuinely an increase in work, holidays booked with kids and he'd bought a new house and was doing work on it and he said he was sorry it had been interpreted negatively. He said it was really habit to put these tings before "love" because he had found relationships unsatifsying and challenging and that he was going to get through the summer with his kids / house etc. and he'd put dating on hold as he felt I was absolutely right and if he did not have time to devote to someone he should not be dating anyone. He apologised for making me feel bad.

A bit later he sent another text letting me know his words had been earnest and as such he had deleted his profiles on POF, Match and Tinder (I checked all deleted) and that he hoped once he'd had summer out of the way he could take me out and do it properly as he should have done the first time. I said to contact me and we would see.

Have been chatting with a few more, not hanging around again for someone who can't commit -and one I quite like and have a date with Friday. Quite a few others messaging me and I am deciding whether to meet them all or just focus on one.

Still finding it tiring, but not going to throw the towel in.

Mr Clooney was a let down, but at leats I think a genine and solid man rather than a total dick like some of them.

I have three pics up, blossom but there are hardly any men in my area on GSM, most seem to be Londoners. Which sites are good? Have head bad stuff about Tinder and POF?

POF is best for me Brixton. I found GSM had no one I fancied and Tinder tends to lead to texting and not much else.

You will get more attention on POF but you will also get a lot of messages from people just looking for sex ( just ignore these ). I find it hard to find local people on the other sites.

Thanks everyone, I will have a look at POF right now!

Hey all hope your all doing ok...I'm still seeing my guy, a month now woo hop!! We see each other most nights now. I've never once doubted his feelings for me, never worried why he hasn't text just all been soooooo easy!!

Only problem I have is that he uses far too much tongue when snogging, feel like biting it at times!

Small price to pay tho cos he really is a lovely, kind, caring, genuine person and I feel quite lucky to have him but at same time I don't put him high on a pedestal either (he adores me too!)

Omg, have just looked at POF, it certainly is different in tone to GSM. Have read a profile of a married man saying that all best men are already married and it is a cattle Market, so ladies will have to settle for brisket, not beef. Bloody hell, I really do despair

Pinklady, glad you gave found someone, he sounds lovely xx

Brixton, POF is a cattle market , yesterday I clicked on a mans profile and he had written that he was looking for a woman who wasn't scared of his big as women often run a mile when they see it , he then realised that I had looked at his profile and he messaged me, I was too scared to reply.

lol never!!!!

Funny though Pinklady

Hello everyone,
Bant - your post made me lol - definitely the way to handle it!
Never - glad that you're getting in to the swing of the whole OLD
Britney - think you and Clooney have handled it really well. His reaction certainly speaks volumes about his decency? Hope that he gets his shit together eventually!
Hi to everyone else on here.
Bit of an update from me - had another couple of dates with marathon man this week and have now had the exclusive chat so going to give it a go. He is really sweet and lovely and we have a really good time together and I just feel really relaxed and at ease with him, no game playing. He is also v good in the sack!

Getting frustrated that I can not meet up with Mr Ginger until next weekend, we chat a lot online ( through FB ) about normal things as well as sex, I'm still not sure what he's really looking for or what I'm looking for.

I have stupidly agreed to see Mr Machanic tomorrow ( I know, I know ), is it wrong to have a online fuck buddy? I think that's all he is, he has a very busy life as do I so I don't think we could ever have a serious relationship. Is it wrong to meet up with him when Mr Ginger is so keen, I guess not .

Well I have had my date with MrG. We were both nervous but after five minutes managed to relax and had some good conversation. We did have a peck at the end and I do really fancy him. I will wait to see how he feels now but would like to see him again.

just wanted to update me…

Mr IT after flirting this week I am decided if he texts again to ignore… no substance.

Mr Picnic I am seeing later on today for drinks and a friend of his birthday party. drinks are before with tapas just me and him. it will be first time meeting his friends afterwards but he seems fine with this and the couple I met him through will be there and I know them a bit. I thought one more chance could not hurt. Plus he's been texting me this week and seems keen since the satay bar night.

There is another person on the scene not sure if I mentioned Mr Marketing - he is someone I met in a bar and kissed him nothing else he suddenly emails me on Linkedin asking me to meet up etc. I've told him the score no casual stuff etc. We are probably going to meet next week.

Next Tuesday is Mr Accountants birthday drinks… he is the favourite right now despite being 14 years younger. He is just too adorable the other week I had an IT problem he's an IT whizz and was straight up to solve it… and I met him on the way to work the other day and had a brief chat. I need to fix a lunch date with him though.

Blossom - sorry to hear about your relationship going wrong - honestly why can't they be upfront about this?

Britney must be a relief to get a straight answer for Mr Clooney but I'd just move on, if he wants to get back in touch in future it'll go well, que sera sera as Doris Day would say.

Pink 1 month - woo too! congratulations.

Never if you want an online Fuck buddy and Mr Mechanic fits the bill fine but ensure that he knows it is what it is! otherwise you get the head wreck stuff.

Hiding well done on your date with Mr G I'm sure he will see you again.

wee mr Marathon sounds great good luck with that, the sex being great and exclusive it is great you feel relaxed with him too!

everyone else enjoy your weekend.

Super, I'm pleased I'm not the only one that has several men interested at the same time, do you find it hard work? I find it tiring at times and hard to keep track of what's what. Most the man I chat too live quite far and I have not been able to meet up with them. I am really interested in Mr Ginger as possible relationship material, I do like Mr Machanic but due to him messing me around and being a bit of a head fuck I feel that it can never be more than sex ( unless he suddenly decides he wants something serious, I don't think it will happen ). I'm still talking to Mr Tubby who texts me every day, he wants to meet up but I can't squeeze him in at the moment. My young has vanished but I'm quite pleased as the fact he has a 5 week old baby puts me off a little. I'm going to see how things go tomorrow with Mr Machanic but really I think it will just be sex ( no strings attached ) which suits me right now.

I'm back!

I went on the 'date' with the younger guy last weekend. And we had a great time! Only problem is communication. He can't just text lots because of his job so it leaves me wondering if he's actually seeing someone else or if he's even interested. We were meant to go out again last night but he 'forgot. I was all set to just ditch him but he came back saying he does really really want to see me and his explanation was plausible. So I don't know! He's even started flirting now and being super nice.

But then I don't want things to be difficult and I told him this. He agreed and just kept apologising. The reason was filling in an application form for a new job and he just lost track of time. So yeah, I'm a quandary now. I need an easy life, but I am attracted to him and we did get on very well when we met!