Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Go Nora will be good!

Mr 5 hrs mentioned meeting up so I think he may man up and do it soon.

A rl guy I have known for years asked me out and said may do something on Thursday!

The older guy has left the scene but feel relieved as he was ott

And someone I know told me yesterday that his friend told him he thinks I am gorgeous (short sighted obvs!) and asked if I am single. I cant recall seeing him though so don't know what he is like

After being married over 30 yrs I don't want a full on relationship just some good company (and maybe a shag!) Is it ok to date several men or do you get a rep?

I am soooooo nervous about today, never felt like this. Meeting Mr young at 3pm, walk and pub, it sounds will buy I'm worried that he will be really nice, I'm a bit scared of it actually going well ( does that sound silly? ), it turns out that my mum and step dad know this man, apparently he is lovely and we have a lot in common, I guess I can stop worrying about introducing a new man to my parents if it works out . I have no idea what to wear, he knows I'm not girly and that I rarely wear make up, he said that I am pretty and I don't need make up anyway. I'm more of a shorts and vest type person and I only own one dress. Will it be ok for me to wear shorts?

I think I will have to pre warn him that I am shy and nervous as I have a feeling he will be too.

I'm still messaging Mr Ginger too, still getting mixed messages from him, one minute he seems to just want sex and the next he wants some kind of relationship. He has his children this week so won't be talking to him as much ( though he still keeps sending me the odd message throughout the day ). I like him but he lives a lot further away than Mr Young ( who lives just up the road ) and I'm not sure how we will ever be able to see each other though we are trying to arrange something when we are both child free.

Pug, that exactly what I am looking for, I have been out with a few men who just want sex but it's hard work not to get too involved ( choose someone that you know your not going to like much ). Now I'm looking for someone who I can spend time with when I have spare time but nothing too serious, maybe just someone to meet up with once a week for a day out and sex , the whole 'relationship' thing scares me a little right now, I do want to fall in love but I want it to happen very slowly.

Thanks everyone!!

Tbh I don't think I'm ready at all!! Got alot of work to do on myself so I don't go rushing in and making the same mistake of falling for a total prat again!!

But I'm looking forward to living vicariously through your datig tales!!!

Xxx

Hi all. I've been away for a while. Nowhere exciting, just not been very well so not been on any dates. Chatted to a few people but that's about it. However, one thing has happened that I'm not sure how to feel about. I'm 32 now but when I was 16 I went out with a lovely guy for 2 years and probably made one of the worst mistakes of my life when I finished with him. Anyhow, life moves on. I got married, had DS, then I got divorced. He got married and had 2 kids. We always remained friends and I have just found out that he's single again. We had a very long chat today over FB and he doesn't live near me at the moment but said he would consider moving! I mean imagine that, after all this time if that were to happen and I ended up getting back with my first ever BF!!

I doubt it will happen but it got me reminicining about the old times. We did have some good times. The only reason we split up was because I felt we were too young and I was off to uni. I didn't want a long term relationship even though he was happy to continue things. Will have to see. Would be happy to just be friends.

Be honest here, I'm size 14-16, but in the right places, and I'm tall. Is that too big, is it going to put some men off?

I think I need to join this thread. Have been On pof for a month. Lots of 'hey you up for some fun' but nothing biting in terms of any hint of a date.

TheGinger, I find POF hard work, I get a lot of messages but a lot are just men looking for a one nighter, i have been on a couple of dates but not had much luck, the date I'm going on today I found in a local dating sight ( even though he is on POF too ) and there has been no dirty texting or asking for photos.

Firenze I am interested in the answers you'll get, I'm taller than a lot of guys here and feel like Brienne of Tarth a lot of the time!

I dont think so at all Firenze
I think you are lots of mens type tall and curvaceous. Not all men like petite

Hi daters,

So I had my first date for ages on Friday, we had been speaking for ages and he seemed really sweet, we met up got on well and I got drunk and we slept together, I really wanted some action but was going to try not to sleep with him as I want someone that respects me etc, anyway he still seems very interested and is talking about next time we meet etc!

He is really nice and has a nice face and lovely eyes but he is very very skinny and I generally like big muscly guys.

Anyway my problem is that as soon as he left in the morning I called my ex/ on and off guy I've been seeing for over 4 years, I hadn't spoke to him for about 2 months as I was annoyed with him (this isn't unusual for us). We spoke on the phone for about 3 hours then he came over we had food and a nap (as I was very hung over) I really liked being with him. I also told him what I did the night before!

It's such a weird and messed up situation, I think I called him as I felt guilty for sleeping with someone else as I still want to be with him and love him and I know he loves me! But it doesn't work it's very dysfunctional and he is a commitment fobe, I used to be but now I would like to be with someone, but not just anyone, it has to be someone I want to be with.

Anyway now I am feeling like such a mess, I don't want to mess this new guy around, he is very nice and sweet but I don't know if I would really want anything with him long term! And I'm clearly not over the ex who can never give me what I want.

Not sure what response I will get on this but please be gentle as I feel bad enough ready

Ps sorry it's so long

Don't worry Pole, it's not the end of the world. What would you like to happen with your 'on/off guy'? At the end of the day, he's been quite off for not contacting you, did he give a reason?

Well if I am completely honest I would like us to be together, but as I know what he's like I feel like I would never be satisfied with him so it's pointless.

He didn't contact me as he knew I was annoyed with him and he normally just leaves me alone until I calm down! In the meantime I blocked him on my phone so I don't know if he tried to call me or not but I doubt it.

We are in the same field of work and I called his office once to speak to his colleague and he pick up the phone all jokingly and I told him I wasn't speaking to him so he just didn't contact me from then. But it has already been 3 weeks since we spoke

My date went quite well ( I think ), Mr young was lovely, we went for a lovely walk, stopped at the pub for a drink, talked loads and then walked back. We seem to have a lot in common and have similar views. The only bad bit ( for me anyway, others might not see it as a problem ), he hasn't been single long and split with his wife when she was pregnant, so he has a 5 week old baby ( I'm not sure how I really feel about this, how would you feel? ). Anyway, I kind of agreed to meeting up again even though I am unsure, we both enjoyed each other's company but I think he might be looking for more than I am.

Never, mr young sounds promising. That is a v young baby. So at most he has been separated for 10 months? I think I would want to know a bit more about the circumstances of his.split. Who instigated it and why? And would want to be v sure things were.totally over and that both parties see the relationship as.totally finished

We did speak about his ex, he said he thought he would be with her forever but things just were not right so he ended it. I can't really comment on the situation as I have only been single for a few months so he could have the same concerns about me ( there's no way I would go back to dh ). He did say that he is much happier now he isn't with her and he has seen someone else since ( nothing serious ).

The age thing worries me a little as I have never dated a younger man, I'm worried that he may be immature and that he finished with his ex because he didn't like the idea of growing up and life not being as exciting.

Yet again I am looking at all the bad points, he does seem really lovely and I enjoyed his company but then again I am quite easy going and enjoy most people's company, I'm not sure if there's a spark, maybe a little spark but not that 'wow' feeling.

scrambled that would be so nice, getting back with your first bf. It might feel like getting to know him all over again after so long apart?

Pug and never that was exactly what I wanted - def nothing too serious. I don't know how to explain this to Mr First date though. I can tell that he doesn't know what a shitty relationship is like and why it might make you cautious forever after.

Mr young sounds nice, do you know why he split up with his wife? That would be the main point for me I think.

sorry x post never

I lost the thread?
Date with lead smith on Thursday but rejoined pof and some promising types on there so eggs not yet lol in a basket

pug - totally fine to date more than one man at a time. I'd just date each one and compare their good/bad points.

never with mr Young surely if you want something casual then 'wow' isn't essential? a 5 week old baby would flag warning signs to me - but maybe he wasn't ready to be a dad or she a mum etc… Mr Ginger - no he seems a game player. ignore.

wotsits is lead smith still on the cards??

me - I am seeing Mr Picnic on Tuesday night, he said he'd like to go for casual dinner locally and for a chat - it's a nice relaxed place so that seems a good option. Mr IT is back in touch very flirty and not sure if I am up for him really. Mr Accountant at work i'll flirt but taking it very slowly. Festival on Saturday had a couple of guys approach me but 1 was a 'trendy beard type' - not me… and the other was a music geezer…. again not me… said he was a guitarist.

scrambled - the rl blast from the past sounds nice to chat to if nothing else… and flattering too.

pole to be honest you're not over your ex hence why you texted him, he's a commitment phobe but it can be hard to get over these sorts. To be fair I'd leave the man you just met 'unless' you know you won't contact your ex, as that is only fair to this new man.

firenze your size is fine - I know a woman a similar size if not bigger and she has no trouble getting dates.

theginger POF I absolutely hated lots of messages, sex stuff and hardly any genuine men… there are other sites!

min - how did Mr Twinkly Eyes date go?

Lady hope your phone call went well and no it sounds fine he calls/texts at lunch because sometimes that's when people are free. if you got more serious and it was only ever then I'd maybe ask him why but for now, no don't worry!

nora yes yes yes to short break with Mr First Date! Mr Picnic mentioned the other day when I said I hadn't been away, how about we go away for a long weekend and I was a bit as it was our first date!

wee good plan to follow the rules, I agree it's nice for someone to be keen but you do need to be not on guard but not get carried away sometimes. what have you got planned with Marathon Man?

leo sometimes it takes time sometimes not, sometimes a few casual dates where you say at the outset you're just dipping your toe in, are good for self esteem.

whats - any replies?!

britney I think you replied but yes i'd ignore Mr Clooney - for all the reasons whats says, he sounds like too much hard work.

At the festival yesterday my friend and I were trying to talk or not talk with friend who had miscarriage after 7 year relationship (he dumped her when he found out she was pregnant and wanted to 'stay friends' and be a dad that way. also lots of abusive texts). She still doesn't hate him and I think is in love with him but been broken up 3 weeks. She has stuff to keep her busy but week after next she is 'not busy' with people and I think he could bite then. she knows he's bad news but they have good 'chemistry' yet he likes the good times but isn't around for the bad times - and won't commit! I need to email her the CBT website link I found… any advice there for my friend? me and my other friend were tearing our hair out torn between letting our mutual friend talk and then not mentioning the dreaded ex's name!

"I'm size 14-16, but in the right places, and I'm tall. Is that too big, is it going to put some men off?"

It might put some men off, but all you can do is put yourself on the dating websites and then see what happens.

mademan - "all the right junk in all the right places" - hmmm Megan Trainor?!