Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Hi hiding hes sounds nice and normal compared to some of the strange men of pof! I love a man who can make me laugh too. Good luck

Thanks puga. We have arranged a breakfast date, he has really given the details some thought today which is nice. I have shared with him that I am a little self conscious (I'm on the larger side) bit he keeps telling me not to worry. The nerves are kicking in.

when is it hiding

Mr 5 hrs has given me the brush off, just stopped talking to me after all this time and ignored a text so I guess he never wants to meet anyone and backs off when it looks like he has to

The older guy sent me more flowers yesterday - 4th bouquet in 10 days I wish he wasnt so much older!!

What should I do? My son's best friend has a Dad who I quite fancy. He was divorced years ago and as far as I and my son's friend knows, there's no one else around. Do I ask him out, or will it just be mortally embarrassing for ever after if he declined? If so, how do I do it? Strategies please?

Pug, how much older is he? I tend to date older men, it doesn't have to be a problem.

My young is confusing me, 2 days ago he messaged me about cooking me a meal and watching a dad together, I wrote back saying 'sounds good to me, your welcome to come over to mine one evening........' And I have not heard anything since , I'm not overly bothered but seems a bit odd as he seemed very keen.

Mr Ginger is still messaging me, he is desperate to meet me but due to both of us being busy with kids this week and me going on holiday next week we can not meet until I get back , I really like him and I think he feels the same as me ( would like some kind of relationship but both of us are a bit scared ), I'm going to try and arrange to meet for a short time before I go away or it's going to drive me nuts when I'm away ( though we will still message each other ).

POF is dead, only had a few messages this week and all from men that are not my type.

Mr Machanic has vanished again, I'm talking to 2 others but finding them quite boring compared to Mr Ginger.

I think I'm going to forget dating until I get back from my holiday and have met up with Mr Ginger.

well that was interesting with Mr Picnic last night. we went to a satay bar which has an outside area and inside. we had a meal, drinks and it went 'ok' but talk sort of dried up half way through and then restarted again. He gave me a kiss (proper one) when we departed and said 'lets meet again' but I'm not sure...

I've also been exchanging the odd texts with Mr IT mostly about my sick cat (yes really not an euphenism!)

never why don't you just meet Mr Ginger and be done with it?!

Turtletea with your son's best friend's dad can you arrange a chat with him (maybe after a playdate or think up an excuse to speak to him)? That's what I'd do first so you 'test the waters'. if you just jump in with a date request that may scare him off especially if he's been single for a long time. it may also look a bit out of the blue.

hiding that's a good start, I wonder why more people don't do that, meet sooner?

pug bloody men with their mucking around... I think the older man is trying to break you down. if you're really not interested I'd say so no matter how flattering the flowers are!

I had quite a long chat with him at a school event the other night, it was just the 2 of us sitting there, and he could have gone and talked to someone else. My son is going round there on Saturday and I am dropping him off...

Turtletea that's the way to do it a few short chats, then maybe ask him over or ask eg coffee out etc. maybe a pub lunch one weekend? with or without your respective DCs.

never 17 years. So a lot older!

Super I have kind of told him but dont want to be harsh as his wife died last year. I think he is an absolutely lovely bloke but just old in the way he dresses etc which I know is superficial but I can't fancy him although I am attracted to him in a funny kind of way

Turtle I wouldnt ask him out but would flirt and see what he does

An unexpected but welcome date no 6 with Mr Twinkly Eyes last night. He came to mine in the afternoon and left this morning. A fab afternoon, evening and night . We didn't run out of things to talk about, he's funny, intelligent and perhaps just the best kisser! Early days still but it's lovely and we both seem to be enjoying each other's company. Both on holiday now so won't see him for a little while.

pug from my experience if you can't fancy someone then you won't even though the attraction may be there... trust me it almost always ends in tears!

Minmooch - that sounds lovely re Mr Twinkly Eyes and spontaneous is good, very good when welcome! the added bonus is the holiday so you miss each other and anticipate!

me: got a new contender - well met him in a bar a few years ago, had a date after, not really my type but a nice enough man... very 'London' and he emailed me on Linkedin. normally these kinds of emails lead to a request for a date.

Pug I agree with the above there has to be some initial attraction for it to go any further otherwise there will be heartache. It's what worries me about my date, he has complimented me in terms of photos but I fully realise it's about the real deal. He is reassuring me saying not to worry but it's difficult. The date is this weekend.

I need advice ASAP.

I suddenly seem to have got really popular in the dating world. Not that I'm boasting or anything.

I have a date with my first love from 16 years ago arranged for the 9th August. Another guy keeps WhatsApping me who I was interested in but I'm now not so interested in.

The question is that, about 10 mins ago, my former FWB, from about 3 months ago started messaging me and has sent me 3 messages so far. The third one was 'seeing anyone'

What do you reckon I should say? I mean I'm not seeing anyone. I'm free to answer him but he is a bit of a numpty. If I don't reply then I can retain an air of mystery. Any ideas??!!

Stay well clear in my opinion and look forward to meeting someone who values you. I have just ditched a numpty too who made it clear he only wanted sex. get rid

I too have all of a sudden got popular in rl but most just want sex I am sick of it at the moment. The old guy is now looking good lol

Thanks pugalicios. I was just so gobsmacked that he WhatsAppe me after roughly 3 months when initially I was the one who would have loved the contact. By now, I had practically forgotten what he looked like!! Funny how the world works isn't it?!!

Scrambled, from my experience men do this when they are desperate for sex 'oh, I haven't had any action for a while, let's give xxxxxx a call/text', I would stay clear unless you want the same as him of course.

I haven't met many men on POF who are not just after sex, to begin with I was ok with this as I wasn't looking for much more but now it's beginning to annoy me as most of these men think they are God gift and can just click their fingers and we will come running. Mr Machanic does this, he won't message me for a week or so and then suddenly shows interest and asks to meet up.

Never, I know what you mean about POF. If the message usually has anything but Hi in it is usually sexual. I have been lucky with MrG that he hasnt mentioned sex once our conversation has been purely getting to know each other and general conversation. I am however trying to be really careful to take it one step at a time, I have no idea how the weekend will go but at least its a starting point for me after being out of the dating game so long. I just hope if he doesnt fancy the real deal, he isnt cruel but polite about it. I can only hope.

Can I join you? I think I'm about to smash my bloody tablet if I don't find somewhere to rant. Been online dating for maybe 8 months now and i just don't get it. I was warned not to get into exchanges with men you're not interested in but they don't get the hint. If i messaged someone and they ignored it i wouldn't keep doing it and winking. I've even started saying thanks but no thanks and it still continues. Please tell me there's a way to get rid of these slime balls

Crazy daisy, if they persist, just block them. Some people can't take the hint...

You should be able to block people

I got excited as I had 2 messages on POF today ( hadn't had any for a while ), went to have a look and one was a message about a local event and the other was from a man who can't even speak English, so I was slightly disappointed . I think I may need to update my profile to get a bit more action as things seem to be a bit quiet at the moment.

I'm on match so I can't block without paying for it. Honestly in the last hour I've had to tell someone I'm not interested - his response? A wink. What's wrong with them? I'll just keep on harrassing until they go out with me? One man messaged me 9 times. I never responded. I know this sounds silly but it's dragging me down. In RL if someone exposed themselves to you or pestered you, you can report them but online it's ok? I'm and at the same time.

Afternoon all!

Crazy

If you're able to message then I assume you all ready have a paid membership meaning you can block people. At the end of the persons profile bothering you there is a block function.

Fake profiles are notiorus on Match! Match themselves set up fake profiles whilst you have fakes from scammers, you can block.

I recall, profiles viewing me endlessly, Id block, the profile would be banned, the next day, the exact same profile would have registered again....In fact, I recall this one women from NZ who viewed me 10 times per day! Nuts.

Its not you ,its a part and parcel of online dating. Don't let it get you down.

Ill update on my own slow shenanigans shortly:)

I have been hassled this week by someone I went on a date with, I told him I didn't want a relationship with him but wanted to be friends, he didn't take it well and wrote me a really nasty message on fb calling me all the names under the sun, it wasn't very nice but I managed to report him and block him. I ignore quote a few people on POF, I don't reply if I'm not interested, I have had someone in rl pestering me too, texting me, fb messaging me and just pissing me off, I have been ignoring for over a week but he still keeps trying.

Aw thanks. I'm happy its not just me. God that sounds awful lol. The mad thing is the 2 guys i met were nice guys but there was just nothing there. Have been speaking to another guy who seems nice, just not sure if he's actually that keen to meet up.