Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

You are right Jolly. Think it is a scam too, this on the other hand is not......who would be tempted by these two? What did they expect 'sure hop on, I'm so desperate, the more the merrier'. This kind of thing annoys the shit out of me, why do they think they can be so disrespectful to women because we are on a dating site?

Haha Prizey those must be 13..!!!

Also found that today and thought I'd share: www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/unwanted-dicks#.kf4gY6yXA

Jolly love this!! Will be saving some of those pictures for future use!

Waving I know! I'm really wondering if Dave and Steve are my destiny, such catches.

Definitely consider some of the newer apps.

If you like Tinder but could do with less douches then Bumble all the way. It's follows exactly same concept. Men seem more 'young at heart' there's a lot of media focused, (couple of slebs on there) but definitely different to the Tinder crowd, I'm swiping right 8 out of 10. The major difference is that your matches cannot contact you first, the woman has to make the first move.

Bagel meets Coffee is very slow paced, each day you get one (apparently carefully selected) 'bagel' who you can pass or like on, with the aim being to mutually like each other. Having just one a day makes you really consider the person and their profile far more, which is a bonus in my opinion, again men seem to have more depth to them, rather than having hook ups in mind. You also each day get bunch of about 5 (not so carefully selected) to consider a like or pass on, if you like someone enough you can like at a cost of some of your coffee beans ( you get a set number a day for free, but can buy extra beans if you like)

Let us know how you get on!

Someone wants to be my slave, said he'll do the housework and leave, no sexual or financial exchange. Seems too good to be true? (Couldn't get my ex to lift a finger around the house even when I offered sexual favours.) What do they get out of this set up, I'm intrigued! Anyone any experience I this? I'm not going to lie I could do with a free cleaner.....

Ha I had a guy come round and do my cleaning once whilst wearing some of my clothes. He was a City boy too! Subs can be hard work but hey if you want some cleaning done go for it!

Came on here today to say I'm pissed off as my ex who contacted me last week to say he wanted to try again has now disappeared. I said I'd meet him for a drink to discuss it and he said that would be lovely but hasn't suggested a date! I don't know what to do now, I need to have a face to face discussion about why he ended it and why it might work now before I can decide whether it's worth trying again. I don't want to suggest a date as that's not exactly playing it cool, but why suggest getting back together and do nothing about it? I don't like being in this limbo!

Destiny why would you go back there? If it didn't work our last time? If you sincerely do feel it could work I would suggest you do nothing...let him do every little bit of running regarding setting up any dates, let him work for it to show you he cares enough. In the meantime distract yourself with some OLD dates set up to take your mind off this ex.

I know, thanks. He's self employed and had some massive projects on so just didn't have time in the end. However he's now working for a company so his work schedule shouldn't be so crazy now. I really just want to see what he has to say for himself, see if he's remorseful and genuine about getting back together and making it work. I can only ascertain this if we meet. He doesn't live nearby either ( and is a p t dad), so it's not easy to just pop over. And I won't know how I feel about it until we meet. Have mixed feelings about if at the moment but am already obsessing in my head!

Ah Potato if it's any consolation I think I would laugh at your jokes!

I neeeeed funny. Can't wait to meet Mr Daisy even though he's living with the ex My date is not til Fri. Hurry up Fri, stop taking so long! I have many questions lined up!!

Oh Waving how annoying re Mr Soho but hey have a great date with Mr Writer tomorrow, that's a nice distraction.

Destiny are you sure you want to consider trying again with an ex?

Love those pics although to date have not received a cock shot. Should probably not speak too soon though.

Destiny I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but could your ex be feeling a little maudlin because of the time of year? Just a thought.

Yes that was my first thought actually! We ended in July and this is the first time I've heard from him
( tho did block him on my phone), he contacted me on the site we met on, I've put up some nice new photos on them and he said how nice I looked. Feels like it could well have been a whim.

Think I need to just focus on my own life. Why do these men pop up just when you've got over them and stir everything up again..??

Agree destiny you sound like you are in a good place right now. This could set you right back. He may be curious, he may be wanting to feed his ego 'I could have her back anytime', then do one, I'd be very cautious.

I know! He was a bit flakey and lazy at times. But.. I really liked him. He was attractive, intelligent, funny, warm, interesting and at least at first was really into me. He'd say things like he needed me and thought the world of me. And then dumped me by text!

Hmmm, be wary Destiny. If nothing else, then maybe don't agree to see him until after the festive season and then reassess it ?

Lacoba66 its not i suppose unusual to have some feelings for the ex although, she betrayed me i still remember the good times and forget the bad ones, and the big bad affair one.

Suppose thats what becomes of being an eternal optimist.

But i wouldn't have her back.

Justaboy No of course it's not unusual to have some feelings for an ex.

But it's putting those feelings in to an order that makes sense, and remembering why they became an ex.

Rose tinted glasses and all that... Reality a different matter!

Thanks for the advice all... have created a Tinder and a coffee meets bagel profile - I guess I just wait and see now!

Sorry to hijack this thread ( should prob start one of my own) but am starting to feel v angry about this and feel like sending the wanker ex this message, please tell me why I shouldn't?!

I'm feeling quite annoyed now as you suddenly contact me out of the blue asking me if we can try again. I agree to meet you for a drink as I would need to have a discussion with you about why you ended it the way you did and why you think it would be different this time. It's not the sort of thing you can do by text and I know you don't like talking on the phone. So after having agreed to meet you, I would have expected you to have arranged something but no. I don't really know what you are playing at and you're not exactly trying hard to win me back, despite saying you miss me. It's making me feel you just contacted me on a whim, to test the waters, to see if I might see you again. I can't know if I want to see you until I've spent some time with you and heard what you've got to say for yourself and how I feel when I see you again. I really don't understand why you contacted me?

Destinysdaughter Nope no separate thread needed as far as i can see.

Sounds about right. You I think must have some "desire" if thats the appropriate word to consider meeting him again but he does sound a bit woolly in his actions.

If it were me and I was in his position I think I'd write you a carefully worded letter explaining why and what had changed to warrant you being back together again and await your reply, not dick around with feeble texts!.

I wouldn't send it tbh. I think you would be better off blocking or deleting his number. I know that sounds harsh but look how he has you tying yourself in knots? And he is your ex because: it didn't work. Take back the power and delete his number Hun.

Thanks I did delete his number for those exact reasons but he's contacted me on the dating site we met on.

Blimey!, didn't he know where you lived to write or phone you even, but to meet you on a dating site did he think "shes available" again or similar?.

Dunno most tangled and odd.

Just block him on the site, if he wants to get in touch that bad there's email, post, etc. He's seen you.on the site and does not like the thought of you being happy with someone else and he wants to put a spanner in the works,to boost his ego. Don't let him and don't bother with explanations. Block.