MOST AFFAIRS ARE WOMENS OWN FAULT!? WOULD YOU AGREE?

[kittylette]

I think that most men have affairs because something is missing at home,

if a womans a great cook in the kitchen, a shoulder to cry on, a whore in the bedroom, then there shouldnt be too much of a problem!

i really do think this is the case, and will probably get slated for thinking so,

but this morning on 'loose women' they were all laughing about how they all faked headaches and say they're too tired to avoid sex, and how they only do it once a month and think of england!!
well no wonder men go looking for sex if its being denied it at home??

i always try my best to look good for my DP, and cook nice meals, and we have sex most nights (and i have 2 babies under 2)

just a thought!

kitty

Oh, the folly of youth....

(I'm young myself, but I have been around the block more than once, and it takes more than being a submissive thingumyjig to make a relationship work)

i dont want to keep reliving my posts again and again,

i hope i didnt offend anyone, and i hope you will all read all my posts not just the first, as i was very blunt at first and didnt fully explain,

thanks for the interesting night,

i dont really post much on the message boards, but id really like to chat to you all again, but with a more pleasant topic

and once again im sorry for any offence

xxx kitty xxx

VVV - its not the ize of his wallet

KAMA - oh i am so glad that someone else feels liek that. I get so irritated at the constant "i would leave the first time he even shouted at me" lines. no they wouldn't because serial abusers don't work like that. by the time you realise its a problem your already way way way down the line.

life is not all black and white, things are not like they are in the movies and one day Kitty you will grow up and realise that there are no certainties in life.
I have a friend who has been with her partner since they were 16. they have 2 children and adore each other. they literally have the relationship we all dream of. 2 years ago she told me he had admited to an affair, it was only a one night stand but still it devestated her.

She always looked amazing, i KNOW that she was always happy to oblige in the bedroom (she would tell me all about it) and she loved him early.
Thankfully they are still together and have put it behind them but i doubt the relationship is or ever will be the same again.

if one more person tells me to grow up!!!

FFS id say im a damn site more 'grown up' than most 22 year olds,

ive a 6 year relationship behind me, i have 2 children, i run a family home!!

its not as im 22 no kids living at home, and out on the piss everynight?

what constitutes grown up??

23

27??

will a magical bell ring one morning and that means im grown up??

you lot dont half talk a load of shit!!!

you say 'when your grown up' but you mean 'when your older than you want to be, your dpressed, and the funs gone out of your relationship!'

kama, so im supposed to live in fear and be totally pessemistic??

i DONT think he would cheat,

so im not gonna sit here and say 'yes i can see him cheating in the future' because i cant

he MAY, but i dont think he will,

so why would i chose to live my life chosing to think negatively about my wonderful partner?!

you shouldn't think negativly of your partner, you should enjoy every blissfull minute of a fantastic relationship.

but don't make sweeping generalisations and down right rude and offensive remarks about a subject you know nothing about.

you have made a statement thatis blaming every woman for her husbands infidelity. i would say thats a pretty negative and depressing viewpoint.
its very easy to sit in judgment of others when your on the up.
After this thread i really wouldn't post here if you ever have a problem in your own relationship, after all..you do have all teh answers.

Oh, and age has nothing to do with maturity.

I haven't say you should grow up, I'm only 25 myself so not much older. I've been with my husband for nearly seven years, married for nearly three.

Your opening post makes a terrible sweeping generalisation of a very complex subject, blaming women if their husbands cheat. That is what annoyed me. And even though you have apologised, many people wont have read that before they have responded to your OP.

yes fattymumma

but i wont have any problems and if i did id talk to my friends, i wouldnt be so pathetic as to post about my very personal problems to strangers,

then may i make a suggestion?

if we are so sad and pathetic and your life is so wonderfull what the flying fuck are you doing her on a friday night?

please allow me to open the door you sad moronic troll.

kitty...that last comment about being pathetic is uncalled for IMHO and i have stood up for you earlier

a lot of women don't have friends or family to confide in or are too embarrased about their issues.

where would you go if you had no-one...and needed some help quickly.......how dare you denigrate the women who have bravely posted their problems on here and needed help

i suggest you look at a thread in 'feeling depressed ', simply called 'help'. and tell me that woman is pathetic,

you are sadly starting to prove the point that you are being naive and smug. plus saying people don;t half talk a load of sh*t doesn't help.

Is it freak week?

im looking at the sky right now...can't see a full moon.

People are saying 'grow up' because your understanding of the world is still quite limited. Which is kind of excusable in someone of your age - although there are plenty of 22 year olds who realise that their own life isn't the be all and end all. If a 30 year old made the same points in the same manner, they'd be told to grow up too. If you read some of the relationship threads you'll find out a bit more about lives that are very different from your own.

this has got to be awind up surely

I think there is a poster with multiple personality syndrome

but Edam they are all sad and pathetic for sharing their stories with strangers doncha know,

Kitty, your relationship with your DF sounds wonderful, It's nice to hear someone happy in their relationship on here, it sounds like you have found the right balance and are putting effort into life as a couple - not just as young parents. I think, as you have already said, that the title of your post was quite contraversial and looking for a lively debate - which it has provoked!

It's horrible listening to everyone tell you to not be smug though - fuck it, you are happy, it's been 6 years and 2 children and it's working so well done, enjoy it!!!

No.

Most people who have affairs, however, are selfish and immature.