Desperately Trying to Move On - My Divorce from Mr WT Part 3 - It's Nearly OVER!

[TheFormidableMrsC]

I am so grateful to all of those who have followed and supported me throughout this bloody ordeal! I hope this will be the last one.one and it will be over very soon! Thread 1 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?
Thread 2 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2137545-Whos-Desperate-and-Awful-Now-Story-of-My-Divorce-from-Mr-WT-Part-2

Thankyou Enrique, I do appreciate that . It's so draining with this all going on for approaching two years. It should have been done and dusted a very long time ago. I just want to get on with my life and he prevents me from doing so at every turn. I don't get it and never will.

Given this is the man who presented me with a divorce petition within a few days of leaving, you'd think he'd feel the same...!

You are more than welcome Mrs C, I hope our paths cross again and if you do namechange please let me know, well, if you want to that is, feel free.

As for your last comment, perhaps he did a foolish thing under duress. I refer you to BF's last comment I know someone that happened to and believe me karma didn't so much bite him on the bum as sink its fangs into it and hang on for the rest of his natural.

Not that it gave me any satisfaction I'm lying I'm not lying

for you.

what on earth is the vile little man thinking?! Or is he not thinking.... People this stupid are incredibly frustrating as you can never make them understand how idiotic their actions are.

Interesting that they rescheduled. Here (normally) if one party in a divorce is a 'no show', they are considered 'in default' and the party who did show gets what they petitioned for. I'm assuming that his solicitor did show up and asked for more time?

It has nothing to do with forgetting, or fear of not getting what he wants. It's 100% to do with jerking you around and making you unhappy. He is a very sad, sad, sad little man.

Just remember that, even if you are still legally married, that in your mind and heart you 'divorced' him long ago!

He and the Pineapple Princess so deserve each other!

Enrique, that did make me laugh, but we will never know! I always think that when somebody makes "ultimatums", it is asking for trouble, eventually....however, what do I know?

Top...equally speechless!

Across...no, he never has had a solicitor with him. He just didn't arrive. The hearing went ahead without him. However, because he wasn't there the matter couldn't be dealt with so we have to go back before the FDR Judge. Unfortunately, this could be three or more months ahead. I hope not, but I have to be prepared for that eventuality. I really had hoped to be divorced by now, it is frustrating but I am not going to waste any more time on it, I will just wait for the Order to come through and the next scheduled hearing. It's all very odd. I have emailed you

He's just trying to mess you up even more, isn't he. Because he knows the divorce will mean you moving on - so he's spinning it out for fun, bastard that he is.

Well I hope he gets his comeuppance from his flippancy, I really do.

Good grief! Those flying lessons are doing him no good at all, he has his head in the clouds even when he's got 2 feet on the ground.

Thumb, the thing is, if that is his game, it is not working. I am not fazed by any of this. It will run its' course. It is just irritating losing a morning, organising DS, waste of court time and money and the only loser is him because he will end up with a costs order. It makes no sense. I am absolutely sure he will say he knew nothing about it.

Anyway, on a brighter note, son covered my ironing board with very many dinky cars. He was very proud when he showed me and I said "son, that is AMAZING" and he said "nooooooooooo, it's a car park"...ha ha!

Ha! Glad to hear it's not fazing you at all, that'll REALLY upset him! Good.

Love the literal mind of the child, eh? Bless him. :)

De-lurking here, I have followed your story all the way through & think you are an amazing brave competent woman & mother. Your last comment about your ds & the cars made me chuckle, only from children can this sort of comment come out so naturally to disarm the moment & make you chuckle & relax.

I hope the pineapples do their job & your despicable ex gets his comeuppance in a truly prickly way.

I expect he didn't come because Pauline chained him in the basement.

I like the idea of a closed FB group too.

But until then, and until the fuckwittery ends, I shall continue to post in support. As long as we don't have too many more of those scary mutant pineapples...

thinking of you MrsC yes some men seemingly just do not want to get divorced. 2 yrs on myself and just starting the court process. There are no words....KOKO

badgerhead, thank you for your lovely message . I am not a competent cook we all have our faults . I know, my DS is so funny bless him. We've had a "sensitive" day today so no clothes all day. He's as happy as anything. We're all a bit traumatised!

Pointy..we'll do it! You can blame Bogey for the mutant pineapple!!

Bobs, but this isn't the case for me. He couldn't bloody wait to get divorced, was so desperate he was willing to have papers served on me and indeed make up a whole load of lies in order for me to be the blamed party, within days of leaving, despite the fact I was beside myself with grief. I imagine there is some sort of agenda behind this. It'll come out eventually. It always does. He's just vile and I was deluded to think this would have been done and dusted today...!

I'm a lurker who's been quietly cheering you on from afar. Saw this utterly hideous ornament in town yesterday... koko xxxx

Thank you Every...I LOVE THAT...:-D

Another delurker, have followed you here and in the Bar (not the legal one) for ages - wishing you well. KOKO, you are fab

Regardless of whether you let this thread turn zombie, can I just say:

You have been amazing all the way through. Now I have not been the one to offer advice, but I do remember calling you formidable sometime in thread 2, and you took it and became TheFormidableMrsC. Ever since you have gone from strength to strength, and I am not sure if I should despite or thanks to all the fuckwittery you have had to deal with.

I don't know you, I don't have children, nor am I married. Safe to say I have no idea of your life. However, I am in absolute awe of your strength, which shines through in your threads. You have clearly made some wonderful friends, and you have a wonderful life ahead of you.

I kind of hope you'll continue posting, because I would love to know the final outcome. However, don't you ever feel obliged to keep it on MN for the sake of us readers. If it is better for you and your family to name change and stop the updates, then you absolutely should.

KOKO, & for you.

Another from me, MrsC. I think acatcalledJohn has summed up what I want to say. I was a latecomer to your thread, but just want to say, you are a Trojan and deserve only good things.

Wishing you and your children everything good, and every happiness from here on.

Wish l had seen that lovely ornament--l would have bought it and gifted it to you...engraved of course

and I went out of my way to say I wasn't going to be there.

Ho hum.

There's just no pleasing some idiots, is there?

MrsC you was going to 'park this thread'...were you not? Given he has three cars at his disposal, where the fuck did he lose them all?

(And the rest...).

Happy, thank you my lovely!

acat...indeed it was you who gave me a new name and I will be keeping it . I promise that whatever happens I will make sure everybody knows the final outcome. I didn't ever intend to deprive you of that, I just didn't want to give any oxygen to those who have hurt me so much. However, after today's fuckwittery, I shall hang around a bit longer!

Agatha, thank you darling

andthen...we need to find one..I think that when I write my will which I will be doing shortly, I shall expressly wish that my ashes are interred in a pineapple urn!

WWK...love you. That is all!

Right, I am off to bed...I have a very lovely day planned for tomorrow and after a couple of nights of intense crying, I have horrible bags that I need to get rid of! KOKO everybody, and thank you from the bottom of my heart, once again

No more crying Mrsc thoses pieces of shit are so not worth it!! Smile ????

Holy fuck Kerry....:-D. Pointy, you'll like this one... ha ha!

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