Desperately Trying to Move On - My Divorce from Mr WT Part 3 - It's Nearly OVER!

[TheFormidableMrsC]

I am so grateful to all of those who have followed and supported me throughout this bloody ordeal! I hope this will be the last one.one and it will be over very soon! Thread 1 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?
Thread 2 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2137545-Whos-Desperate-and-Awful-Now-Story-of-My-Divorce-from-Mr-WT-Part-2

As an aside, why are most womens fancy dress costumed prefaced by the word "sexy"? You dont get that with mens costumes do you?

Sexy pizza slice anyone?! :o

We can shorten new name to SHA :-)

Ha ha ha Bogey....!! That is SO true....

Even in "most active", they are "peeing over pineapples"....clearly a MN theme!

I thought he was still MrWT but it now stood for Wobbly Tits.

I think that skirt would be fine if it were 6 inches longer, teamed with a severe plain blouse and some killer heels. I am imagining it now...

And bogey that second pineapple costume doesn't look remotely like a pineapple!!!

Be glad I didnt post the banana one pointy :o

Mr WT christmas present is sorted for this year. Will keep him toasty warm.

And for you, Ajaney.

Here a Pineapple cheesecake anyone.

Evening all! This has made me laugh, all this pineapple related frivolity. It's so childish...but so funny! .

Annie...Wobbly Tits snigger!

Ajaney...oh the temptation is overwhelming!! Can you knit?

Bogey...this :

I wouldn't wish him dead. If he was dead then the evil in his heart against you and your son would have died with him, as it is he will now have to live with the consequences which will be so far reaching that he will never have another moment in his life that is not affected by it

That is so bloody true. It won't be long before DS sees him for what he is, before he knows what they did to him and to me and to DD, while plotting and planning together. I hope he is prepared for that eventuality, I really do.

Well we have had a lovely weekend! I quite enjoyed DS not going off on Saturday...we had a lovely fun afternoon and then a neighbours' party outside in the evening...kids ran around until very late and slept in this morning . DD has been off out with her lovely young man, it's good to see her so happy these days. Her stepfather bashed every last ounce of confidence out of her but slowly slowly it's returning.

Today I had to shoot to the police station, nothing to worry about, but decided to cycle there and back, it took me an hour and a half, back was uphill (mostly)...my bum hurts tonight!! I then decided to tackle the triffid hedge outside my house. Mr WT took every last thing out of the garage that I might need to maintain the house kindly left me the hedge cutters. Neighbour comes out and asks if he can help they feel sorry for me bless them and promptly cuts through the cable!! So half the hedge done, better than nothing . We've done all sorts of "jobs" today..DS loves to "help", he's totally in his element, but my God does he hinder!!!

So, this week...meeting tomorrow with new school to discuss DS's diagnostic report and get a plan in place for his start in September. Friday is court. That was totally avoidable..but have done my position statement and hopefully it will be the last time we have to go. Next Sunday I answer bail again. Have taken some legal advice and will only accept a charge if the CPS feel I have harassed them. I really haven't. At least then the whole backstory will be laid bare and I will have a voice. I am quite happy to go down that road. It's a pity I can't stay on bail forever, however, going forward, my conduct will be as if that was the case. I have no intention of having any contact with that twat for as long as I live.

Finally, had some absolutely brilliant news about the house with a new valuation. Mr WT and Pauline's lies in court have cost far more than he thought he was going to get with his 20%. I would say it has cost him nearer £35,000. It means that the kids and I now have a realistic prospect of buying a property mortgage free which is wonderful. I may even squeeze a bit more out of it with the updating works I intend to do. A day at a time, but freedom is within reach

KOKO

DS loves to "help", he's totally in his element, but my God does he hinder!!!

I believe the phrase is "I love you darling, but if things get any worse, I am going have to ask you to stop helping me!" Its been said more than once in this house :o

So happy about the news on the house, and I agree, it should be court or nothing re the harassment allegation. I would not be accepting a caution or any sort as that admits guilt for something you plainly didnt do.

ALso, just a thought.....would it be inappropriate to have a cheer line outside court singing Agadoo?! Push Pinapples, shake the tree...... :o

Bogey now there's an idea! You loon....

(And I think it was you calling us loons... - in my defence, y'honour, I had NO IDEA MrsC took it to court until she started taking photographs...)

But I'm very glad she did. It's my favourite fruit these days.

Ha ha Bogey...that is EXACTLY it....thank you son, but please go back to lining up cars...

Yes, that is the only way with the harassment allegation. I can't and won't accept a caution and have told police that...and those two can fuck off with the whole thing. He just doesn't like being reminded of what an inadequate, abusive, sad twat he is and she doesn't like being reminded that she's a family wrecking whore who ruins children's lives. Especially autistic children. They didn't worry about harassment when they were committing fraud on my bank account, setting up fake Facebook pages or using my personal details to open accounts in my name on various porn sites. Apparently, none of that counts....

Cheer line? Not inappropriate at all...

Actually, you know what? I am thrilled I was named in court, I just wish I could have heard him referring to me as Bogeyface :o:o

Oh, Bogey don't be embarrassed - clearly the Formidable One, and me with my 'powers of persuasion' have just, merely, converted you to our contemptible way of thinking...

The power of the pineapple works in mysterious ways...

PRAISE BE!!!!!!! I embrace the Church of the Pineapple! (said in a very bad fake deep south accent!)

OMG that is one mutant fucking pineapple!

Oops, meant to write more than that, got distracted!

MrsC - very pleased that your house valuation/sale is going well, excellent news! And absolutely you should go to court rather than accept a stupid caution from an incredibly stupid pair of twats who have devoted their extremely inadequate and dull lives to fucking you and your DC's lives up. How very dispiriting that they are so lacking in other interests.

Soon, my lovely - soon. Meantime, KOKO.

MrsC, I well understand you wanting to go to court. Its something we had to get one of our children to do once even though we knew there would be consequences for them. And if you get a smack on the wrist for being human then so be it. You will have defended your honour and that is priceless.

That is the scariest pineapple I have ever seen in my life... It belongs in an episode of Dr Who in which it goes around eating cheating bastard husbands because it likes the angry hormones they secrete or something.

Ha ha THAT PINEAPPLE! My God...

Thanks for lovely message Thumb and Pointy, I agree! [laugh]

Weebirdie, I absolutely maintain that I have not "harassed" anybody. As I have oft repeated, they simply do not appreciate being faced with the consequences of their horrific behaviour and the three lives they have ruined in the process. I will just have to see what happens on Sunday. Also, I PM'd you a little while ago, but think you were on hols. It was about that "other" thread...

I had a really productive meeting with the SEN coordinator at the new school today. She has drawn up a written plan that will be passed round all the staff in order to be able to support DS. I was quite glad to know that a few of the playground assistants have ASD children, so will more than likely recognise his sometimes "quirky" behaviour and manage accordingly. I am hopeful that they will provide the same continuity of care that he received at his nursery.

I had a sad moment today. DD found a box of photos tucked away in a cupboard in her room, taken when she and I went on holiday with my step-mum to Spain. Ex had encouraged me to go, he couldn't because he was working on a large project down in Winchester, ironically for my step-mum's company. He was over generous with spending money. We went, we had a lovely time, but I missed him so much and wished he was there. He was, I later discovered, shagging somebody he later referred to as "Shallow Hal" charming. He did that in front of his nephew, people he was employing, all of whom I have spoken to since. Ex must have thought he was the MAN cheating on his wife in front of everybody...they all thought he was an absolute out and out wanker. Its the total lack of respect for me, not even attempting to hide it. Laughing about it. I had no idea whatsoever at the time. Yet he was all "offended" when I went and had the full scope of STI tests when I discovered the depths of his infidelity. It makes your stomach turn, it really does.

It's funny how many red flags I ignored, well not funny, but really I should have seen it but I didn't. He slept with somebody the night before his wedding to his first wife, I found that out after we were married. It was all the "I love you" after a few days, the "you are everything I ever wanted", "soulmate", blah blah, probably the same old shit he's come out with to OW he's not very original. You don't do that as an adult, I certainly did not "love" him when he was telling me that, that took some time to grow. He is absolutely unable to form an adult relationship, he loves the chase, the "falling in love" but then can't handle the reality of day to day life. Let alone having a baby, that was WAY beyond his scope of capability. He just jumps from one thing to the next, he's never gone and got himself somewhere to live, he's always moved in with the next single mum who could put him up. Picking on the vulnerable and being the "knight in shining armour". I will forever be annoyed with myself for falling for it, I really will. Never again will I trust anybody.

KOKO