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Desperately Trying to Move On - My Divorce from Mr WT Part 3 - It's Nearly OVER!

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TheFormidableMrsC · 24/06/2015 22:05

I am so grateful to all of those who have followed and supported me throughout this bloody ordeal! I hope this will be the last one.one and it will be over very soon! Thread 1 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?
Thread 2 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2137545-Whos-Desperate-and-Awful-Now-Story-of-My-Divorce-from-Mr-WT-Part-2

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AcrossthePond55 · 17/07/2015 16:39

"Today, DS showed up with a skinned toe. He reports that it was caused when he scraped his foot while on a bike ride with 'her'. I am logging this injury as obviously 'she' is abusing our son!!!! Forcing him on bike rides and picnics!! Exposing him to fresh air and sunshine!!! And CAUSING MAJOR INJURIES!!! I shall report this to CPS and my solicitor right away!!!"

What a bloody idiot!

pointythings · 17/07/2015 16:42

I am Shock at all this. I shouldn't be, I know - but how a father can treat his son this way is something I can't get my head round. Once you move away you really do have to work towards no overnight contact and no unsupervised contact... But I'm sure you know that already.

And bad language is a completely reasonable response, btw!

TheFormidableMrsC · 17/07/2015 23:23

Hi everybody, thank you, as ever, for your lovely posts. I am totally on it, something has got to give. There will be no overnight contact, that is for sure. I have enough problems as it is getting DS into bed...his routine is so precise, things have to be "just so" and even my MIL wouldn't have him without me there knowing how he can be. Because of my husband's total inability to see any of this, let alone his ability to communicate with me as DS's mother, there is no way I would trust either of them with my son. They are also both exceptionally heavy drinkers. It's not going to happen. I would prefer supervised contact and always have. I have no wish to prevent my husband seeing his son but I don't trust him in any way whatsoever. I can only place my faith in CAFCASS and the Court. That is the next step...

On a "lighter" note, I have spent the evening "archiving", I don't really need to write a book, I just need to have all the emails and texts published. Pity they are so thick while claiming innocence...!

I did actually once name OW and ask Mr WT if it was her. I did already know, just hoped he'd be honest with me. He said "Who? I haven't seen her in years, you're nuts" not sure how that was going to work long term. I love the "you're nuts" thing...they all say that...Hmm

Email from Mr WT : "I swear on old secretary. Scandal".

Email from MrWT : Yes I am seeing somebody but my relationship status is none of your business. I didn't leave you for somebody else.

Message to a family friend "I left MrsC for

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TheFormidableMrsC · 17/07/2015 23:34

ScrambledSmegs...the other child...there are no words Sad

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AgathaChristie01 · 18/07/2015 00:01

Wine for you, my dear.

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/07/2015 00:18

Agatha...thank you my lovely, I shall partake...the mind boggles, however, the heart is healing faster...Smile

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WellWhoKnew · 18/07/2015 01:00

Y'know I'm your number one fan MrsC. You're great as a parent as well.

Anyway can I ask everyone to buy a pineapple this week? You too MrsC.

[Don't worry MrC I won't be there] It's just that I've got this cunning plan...

Across - you, in my book, are the most hilariously witty woman on MN!

Bogeyface · 18/07/2015 01:05

WWK

Done. I am happy to do this on trust! Is there a particular day we need to be aiming for?!

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/07/2015 01:13

Friday Bogey....can't believe we're back in again. Hopefully this will be it and I can apply for the absolute. As much as the "mum and wife" me doesn't want it...the hurt, cheated on and betrayed does...I need to put this behind me, somehow, and that is the only way. I don't think I will ever come to terms with all of this though....something you just have to learn to live with. Wish he'd died like OWs husband...way easier all round.

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WellWhoKnew · 18/07/2015 01:20

Would be worse for pineapple farmers though! And you're one of those women who always looks after others.

Disclaimer: I do not own a pineapple farm. Or work in any industry associated with pineapples. Nor hoping to marry the man from Del Monte.

Bogeyface · 18/07/2015 01:29

Of course, I didnt add it up with court...been a long day and I have had wine :o, sorry!

I wouldnt wish him dead. If he was dead then the evil in his heart against you and your son would have died with him, as it is he will now have to live with the consequences which will be so far reaching that he will never have another moment in his life that is not affected by it.

Karma is already kicking his ass, let Karma do her work :)

pointythings · 18/07/2015 09:34

If I can't get a decent fresh pineapple, will some chunks do? Going food shopping imminently.Grin Grin

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/07/2015 12:14

Absolutely Pointy...Wink

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butterflygirl15 · 18/07/2015 12:32

How about a Hawaiian pizza? ;)

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/07/2015 12:50

Pig and pineapple apt Smile

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AcrossthePond55 · 18/07/2015 14:11

Why, thank you WWK. Coming from you (author of such brilliant 'letters) I'm truly flattered. [blushing] I'm from the 'gotta laugh or you'll cry' school of survival, I guess.

I shall certainly join the 'Pineapple Panoply' this week. I have a few pineapple recipes that I think apropos.

Pineapple on Skewers (poke a stick in it, serve)
Grilled Pineapple (throw in on a fire, serve)
Crushed Pineapple on Ice Cream (whirl it in a blender, serve)
Pineapple G&T, American Style (trebuchet the pineapple, drink gin)
Grin

pointythings · 18/07/2015 15:15

Sainsbury have pre-mixed pineapple, coconut and banana smoothie. I's just begging to be turned into Pina Colada. Only DH and I are barely drinking at the moment so I made do with the pineapple chunks. Woe.

iwashappy · 18/07/2015 15:43

How about wearing this?

Desperately Trying to Move On - My Divorce from Mr WT Part 3 - It's Nearly OVER!
Anniegetyourgun · 18/07/2015 16:00

Food porn link

Bogeyface · 18/07/2015 16:33

www.food.com/recipe/pineapple-upside-down-bundt-cake-88794

is it me or does this one look like a seriously haemorrhoidic (made up word?!) bumhole?! :o

pointythings · 18/07/2015 17:43

It does - it also does not look nearly caramelised enough. Good pineapple upside-down cake is lush...#

DD1 has a fabulous flapjack recipe that she learned in DT in school, we added dried pineapple to it and that is amazing too - I feel some baking coming on in the runup to Friday.

Bogeyface · 18/07/2015 19:02

oooh can that be Mr WT's new nickname?

Seriously Haemorrhoidic Arsehole!

TheFormidableMrsC · 18/07/2015 19:06

Ha ha ha! Love you girls! You do make me laugh! I have also found the perfect skirt to go with the vest...I am not sure that it is appropriate court attire though...Smile

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