So as things stand, I am worried about my DS when am I not?. Last Saturday, he returned from contact and seemed OK, I just asked if he'd had a nice day and he said he wanted to play out with my neighbour's little boy so we sat outside for an hour or so. I then had to pop to Sainsburys, half way there, DS starts to cry and said "I don't want to go to Daddy's anymore". I asked him why and he said "Daddy keeps telling me off". OK, he has him for 11 hours a week, what the fuck could he have to keep telling him off about? It transpires, through sobs, that it was because he chased the puppy. It is quite possible he could have hurt the puppy, it has happened with other animals, so you keep him away, surely?
I have mentioned before that DS has an issue with animals, we all know, family, friends, neighbours, that he absolutely must be supervised and he has received injuries in the past because of this. So Mr WT moves into a zoo. He puts DS in a no-win situation, where he is exposed to the very things he really ought to be kept away from. DS, it appears, reacts as expected and gets told off. He has already been injured by Mr WT's ferrets, despite the idiot knowing full well about the animal issue. More recently he has come home with huge scratches on him which he said were caused by the puppy and he has frequently said he doesn't like the puppy. Of course, Mr WT would say I am making this all up. Fortunately, we all know differently. Why is he incapable of keeping my son away from the fucking animals? That house is absolutely full of them. It makes me laugh, we weren't allowed pets, Mr WT didn't like them. Mind you, his other hates were breast implants and tattoos on women, it's amazing how you adjust your preferences when you need to cocklodge isn't it? However, I digress. I think it is unacceptable to put an aspergic four year old in that position and then give him a hard time about it.
Furthermore, despite undertakings to solicitors, parents, me, so on and so forth, it is clear that OW is frequently around my DS. I don't know what is wrong with the woman that she thinks this is OK? She hasn't demonstrated any reason for me to trust her around my son. She dismissed his autism, has been cruel about my daughter, let a man she only met two weeks before move into her house with a child who had just lost his father as you do 
. I do wonder if her husband had done to her what mine has done to me if she might feel the same about a woman who had wrecked her family and behaved in the way she has being around her little boy? I did put this to my husband once and he couldn't answer me. He fucking well knows what she'd be like, we all do, especially my brother. As far as I was concerned, Mr WT arranged contact around the few hours a week she works. That was what he asked for. I still maintain that they tell him "don't tell Mummy", his behaviour is so odd on return, he is either very quiet and withdrawn or very angry and violent and that was why I arranged for the therapist to be here post-contact a few weeks ago in order that she could see how he behaves. It's really quite upsetting. She had already seen DS after the arrest incident and decided to not even assess him as his behaviour change was abundantly clear. They are damaging him and absolutely fail to see it. THIS is the reason why, as a parent, you do the courses, you learn about the condition, you put strategies in place and everything I do, they undo. If my husband has got off his fat arse and done all the things I have, we wouldn't in this position now.
On the following Monday, DS had his second transition visit to the new school. When he came out I asked if he'd had a nice time and what he'd done and he said "I drew a picture of you, daddy, me and before daddy left us". I was horrified, I was standing next to the other mum from our current school whose DD is moving too and she just put her hand to her mouth and then said to me "they don't realise how much damage they do". DS has asked questions and I have just said that daddy didn't want to live with us anymore. He is starting to realise and they need to realise that DS will one day know the whole horrible truth. It is interesting when you look round the relationship threads, particularly Hobbits Bar, that where there are older children, not a single one of them has wanted to meet Dad's "other woman". Not one. They have the choice. My son appears to have no choice, his father attempting to shoehorn him into his latest set up and force his OW, her kid and her parents on him at every opportunity. He is not old enough to say anything, but the reflection in his behaviour and wellbeing is clear. When OW was busy issuing ultimatums to my husband, the last person she gave any thought to whatsoever was my little boy, yet it is him who will suffer the most because of their vile, selfish behaviour.
I am taking advice where I can, from appropriate sources. A decision on going forward will have to be made. I am relieved that DS will be in school full time from September as that will reduce his exposure. What a fucking mess this is 
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