Desperately Trying to Move On - My Divorce from Mr WT Part 3 - It's Nearly OVER!

[TheFormidableMrsC]

I am so grateful to all of those who have followed and supported me throughout this bloody ordeal! I hope this will be the last one.one and it will be over very soon! Thread 1 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?
Thread 2 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2137545-Whos-Desperate-and-Awful-Now-Story-of-My-Divorce-from-Mr-WT-Part-2

Oh prom! One of the reasons I'm glad I had boys! But seriously, I hope DD has a wonderful, magical time!

Even in the best of situations, I'm sure most children would rather stay with the familiar. There may be some bumps, but I'm sure DS will settle in to his new school.

"Princess Pauline's Pretty Pineapple Platter Place". Her slogan could be "Want something cold, hard, and prickly? Pauline is for you!!!"

Hahaha, love that last comment, Across!

Prom is such a big thing now for girls, isn't it - it's big in Australia too, they get very excitable about it! We had a lovely tv programme here for a while where the parents got to pick the prom outfits etc. for their child - mostly it was hilarious, but to be fair, most of the time the parents did get something their child liked. Not just daughters either - there were a few sons on too! And dads! Wish I could remember what it was called...

Sorry DS isn't so keen on the new school MrsC but he may feel better after the next time. x

Or Prickly Pauline Purveyor of Putrid Pineapples - want something lumpy, spiky and a bit rotten as we have no customers ........

Very acid, pineapples. Delicious, but I tend to avoid them as they give me little sore spots on my tongue.

Very acid, pineapples. Delicious, but I tend to avoid them as they give me little sore spots on my tongue.

You know, if there's any justice in this world, it won't be Mr WT's tongue that gets the sore spots.

I can eat pineapples without getting a sore tongue, but DD2 can't.

I'm so sorry DS found the transition tough. However, you have done everything possible to support him with the autism course, and you will get through all the changes. KOKO and you will come out the other end.

Tell your DD from me that nail stickers rock - we have loads of them in the house and they bling up your nails like anything.

Mr WT and his OW are a pair of fing reprehensible *'s. When I am feeling less aggressive, I shall return...

Bad day MrsC? Not that I'm disagreeing with your opinion on this matter. They truly are (no matter what they've done today).

I agree with you, MrsC.

MrsC you are amazing.

Will be back to comment more later-but just need to say that.

Oh dear - here for you whenever you're ready to vent your spleen

Oh Mrs C they are utter shits. Why on earth can't they just fuck off and leave you to it. Hope you're ok

Just popping up to say how lucky your son is. I cross paths with lots of people with LDs, few have parents who are as determined as you to help their child fulfill their potential.

Hope you are OK and they haven't caused too much shit.

Hope you're ok, MrsC.

Hi everybody, thanks so much for lovely messages, sorry I have been missing for a few days, I am up to my neck with things at the moment and also having huge difficulties with DS. I will post more fully later or tomorrow but in the meantime, would like to bring more traffic to this thread. It is a shocking read really. I am going to try and help start a campaign and raise awareness. Whilst I receive the bare bones of maintenance for DS, it is not nearly enough and I am struggling. I don't see why people like Mr WT should get away with things like this. Or the women who facilitate it. Some people should never have children!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2422950-To-ask-how-much-are-Mumsnetters-owed-in-maintenence-arrears?

MrsC, like yours, my ex's new partner decided to actively encourage his avoidance of child support. I heard (via someone they didnt know I was friends with who worked with them) that she almost lost her job by "losing" the paperwork for his deduction of earnings order when it arrived, thus earning the company a fine! She wasnt the OW but the havoc she wreaked, she might as well have been.

I also used to work with a woman who was the OW and made sure that her new man didnt see his son and didnt pay a penny to his "bitch" ex. Guess what happened when he moved on the next OW?! Yep, same again. Yet the woman I worked with was not only surprised but utterly outraged! She never spoke to me again after I told her on the day I left (on maternity leave with DC3 from my second marriage, ironically) that you reap what you sow, and she had by her own actions told him that she was ok with him abandoning his children. I stand by what I said. The last I heard, her ex was on his fourth family and not paying a penny to any of the children. He should be in jail.

I wonder if Pauline is anything like her namesake in Royston Vasey!

Okey, Cokey pig in a Pokey!

Sometimes I think the Americans have it right - you can get jailed over there for not paying child support. That would focus a few minds...

Yep. Jailed and you also lose any professional licenses you hold, and your drivers license.

BFF's ex was convicted and did 90 days. Didn't do a damn thing though. He worked under the table.

Evening! I am sorry, I meant to update tonight but have been run off feet today and absolutely need to go to bed now as we are up at 5.30 am to take DD to hospital for her ENT surgery terrified mum, trying not to show it. Poor DS is not going to like this horribly early wake up, he will have to go in his PJ's. The vagaries of being a single Mum I guess it sucks sometimes.

I must mention in terms of the CM thread posted above and the huge activity on it, that it appears a campaign of sorts is growing. Am about to contact a journalist acquaintance to see if she can assist. It has to be done.

My 4 yo (who is tall for his age) is still in a toddler bed because I can't afford to buy him a new one. He has no wardrobe doors because his twat of a father removed them when starting one of his endless "projects" that were never completed. He promised to replace them and never did. DS is scared of the wardrobe and I have had to improvise with a covering for the entrance. I shouldn't be in position where I can't provide these things for him. Twat's maintenance at less than £4 per day barely provides for anything let alone endless clothes, shoes, activities, sensory toys, books etc etc etc that DS needs. I also provide a packed lunch as he is incapable of feeding him anything other than McD's it seems. All of this comes out of my very limited fixed income. Ex had no problem laying out £2K for a bed for him and OW but his son doesn't cross the radar it seems .

I have just spent the equivalent of my weeks grocery budget on new school uniform items as I have had to order before the holidays for his start in September. I am regretting buying the bike, even though it was very cheap and it's brought another aspect to the activities that DS and I can do together, yet I feel guilty about it! . Why does ex think he shouldn't provide properly and fairly for his child yet be able to lavish money on his "latest" cocklodge? If I neglected my children emotionally and financially in the way my husband has, I would be arrested and they would be taken from me and put into care and rightly so. Why are these "men" allowed to get away with it? It is an absolute disgrace and the law needs to be changed.

Anyway, now I've got that off my chest, I will have a catch up tomorrow evening when hopefully DD will be recovering and DS will have an early night due to being utterly knackered! KOKO

Hope you're sleeping now mrsC - good luck for your DD's ENT surgery tomorrow, hope it all goes well (including getting DS along for the ride).

I have no idea why men are allowed to ignore their responsibilities to their children either - it truly beggars belief. Too many of them just think they can spread their seed around with no come-back, it's disgusting. And more disgusting that other women encourage it! (Although I did smile at the karmic comeback in Bogeyface's colleague's case )

Thanks Thumb, been a bit of a nightmare. Was up all night bar 2 hours with DS who is having night terrors at the moment. Ended up in bed with me, then we gave up and lay on the sofa. I am EXHAUSTED. Got to admissions at 6.45 am. They have now sent her home as she is last on list due to positive MRSA test two weeks ago even though she has been treated daily over that fortnight. She's not eaten since 9 pm last night and can't have anything so has tummy pain. She has gone to bed to try and get some sleep. Have to take her back at 2 pm and hopefully she will have the op late afternoon . Looking forward to a very trying post-contact DS today.

Somebody just posted on the CM thread that she wished she had a "magical penis" that meant she didn't have to pay for the children she produced...made me laugh, but SO true...

Oh God, that's hard on your DD - hope she does manage to sleep! They could have told you that before :(

And contact today as well? Argh!

There are things I would like to do to all these fuckwit "fathers" but I'd probably be arrested for typing them...

But we have something better than a magical penis. It's called a brain. Doncha think that men wish they had one of those? OK, I know not all men think with their penis. But it seems a lot of them sure do!