Desperately Trying to Move On - My Divorce from Mr WT Part 3 - It's Nearly OVER!

[TheFormidableMrsC]

I am so grateful to all of those who have followed and supported me throughout this bloody ordeal! I hope this will be the last one.one and it will be over very soon! Thread 1 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2030270-PLEASE-HELP-DESPERATE-AND-AWFUL-DIVORCE?
Thread 2 : www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2137545-Whos-Desperate-and-Awful-Now-Story-of-My-Divorce-from-Mr-WT-Part-2

He presumes he's the most intelligent man in the room. Only when he's alone is that the fact.

Not necessarily even then. There maybe dust bunnies under the furniture.

Argh... "may be". My fingers haven't quite woken up yet.

Im trying to find it Wise. xx

I cant find it. It was posted on a new thread around the same time we had the visitors. Ive done searches on a few words from the post and being through a few of the boards. I'll keep on trying and maybe some others can also have a look.

I looked earlier weebirdie I seem to recall the same thread but I couldnt find it either..wonder if it was also pulled along with the FB profile??

Afternoon all, no I didn't see that thread but frankly nothing would surprise me .

Anyway, this situation is in hand with those most appropriate to deal with it.

I shan't dwell on it, I've got enough on my plate so shall concentrate on that instead yawn. DS and I are decorating today. God help me!

Hope everybody has a lovely Sunday .

I think you just have to prepare yourself mentally and really know that there is nothing, nothing at all that WT and Whatserface won't stoop to. Whatever you've just survived, there will be more. It's sad, but the old trite phrase 'what does not kill you makes you stronger' does apply, and in spades. You will be invincible at the end of all this. He on the other hand will be a quivering pile of gelid mush.

He presumes he's the most intelligent man in the room. Only when he's alone is that the fact.

I disagree. I suspect the chair he is sitting on would have the edge.....

...if the room is empty, even the corners will be sharper than he is.

Knowing that they are reading this thread, it's no surprise that this fake FB account disappeared as soon as you mentioned it on here. Still, we can only speculate use our brains, contrary to MrWT & Pineapple Pauline and have to leave the real detective work up to the police.

Hope MissC is doing ok. Can she even go to a festival now she's been diagnosed with MRSA? Bless her, the poor girl had to sit her GCSEs through all of this, now needs an op and ends up with that. for MissC.

Once all of this is behind you, just live by this !

Well I can't possibly comment on anything...at the moment...I am absolutely sure that it will all be dealt with in the fullness of time . I do know that deleting an account makes no difference whatsoever, it is all traceable. So will just have to wait and see..especially as it is all "alleged" at the minute...

acat, she did go to Wireless, armed with everything, I did check with hospital beforehand. Her surgery is in just under two weeks (providing she is clear of the MRSA), I am just worried about how I am going to juggle all of that as she has to be in hospital at 7 am...I have to get DS to school for 8.45, then back to hospital...so on and so forth...I will manage as I have done with everything, it's just having to be super organised (a skill I am not known for I will readily admit!).

It has been really tough for her but she's been OK...and had a lot of support and backup. Thank you for the , I will tell her in the morning!

Anyway, a new week beckons and so does ironing of the school uniform! xx

That is a fab tune acat..thankyou! Reminds me of being a teen in the 80's! x

Holy firkin schmit! I've just read through all of your threads and it has required a bucket of tea, numerous biscuits, multiple eyebrow raises, copious amounts of swearing and quite a lot of expletives!

I take my hat off to you. You have been to hell and back and you're still standing tall. I think you deserve a little Nina and a great big hug..

m.youtube.com/watch?v=xr8ol8ufSRg

KOKO

Dear Mr C,

If you are still reading this, which I'm sure you are, I'd like to say, without resorting to insulting profanity or name calling, that you have probably made the biggest mistake of your life and you actually know that deep down.

The hurt and anger that you use to lash out against your wife and child is your internal depression turned outwards. I'm sure you live with the horrible knowledge every day that you have made a mistake. Deep down it is gnawing away and no amount of money or material goods from your new situation will take away the fact that you have treated your own child appallingly. Twenty years from now the OW will be a distant memory but your son will still be there. If you continue down this path, you will end up a very bitter person with much to regret.

But you do still have a choice, you can still be a decent human being and do the right thing. Put him first, make him your priority and I guarantee your self esteem will get better. That knot you carry around that's chips away at you will relax and life will get better. Call a truce, let MrsC go and be a good dad before you do anymore damage.

Here's hoping you do the right thing not the easy thing.

Ahhh RaaRaa, that really touched me, thank you . Yes, it's a bit shit isn't it really? I would love to think that MrC would read your message and take heed, but I think unlikely he would be allowed to. There have over the past couple of years been the odd regretful e-mail. He how badly he's behaved but unfortunately he is easily influenced and will happily go along with OW's plan for my total destruction for being born and existing. I just look at him and think that all the ugliness he has displayed has shown itself physically in an utterly shocking manner. I don't think he realises how old, lined and bad he looks. It's very odd.

I do think it is too late for him to make amends, he has done too much. I just feel sorry for him really, he has missed out on so much in DS's life and he can never ever get that back. Neither will he ever be able to make up for it. He has unfortunately got involved with somebody who takes malice to a whole new level. Lucky him! . However, I thank you for the effort you have made for his benefit .

I am feeling very stressed today and had a massive panic attack . I haven't had one of those for a long time. I think it's just a combination of a lot of things. I am still awaiting the outcome of the school appeal I attended last week. I did everything I could but know that the odds aren't good. I think for me the worse thing is knowing I have to go through the whole horribly stressful settling in process again with DS only for me to have to inevitably uproot him again when we move. I hate my ex for putting us in that position, it's unforgiveable. However, I have arranged for DS to have three visits to what is going to be his new school (and with which I was actually very impressed, especially their SEN facilities). I have tried to make it a bit of an adventure but know it's going to be horribly disruptive. I got his final school report today. So full of praise and lovely but he is so lagging behind. I am doing all I can but I know he is going to struggle. Bless him. He deserves so much better than all of this shit and there is no way that the last two years of stress haven't had a significant impact on him and I can't do a bloody thing about it.

Then there is Wednesday's budget...that potentially could make life very very difficult for us, but will have to wait and see. I think I am my own worse enemy when I start worrying! Anyway, onwards and upwards!

KOKO

MrsC the twattish behaviour never ceases to amaze. Across has the right idea with the exorcism. Hope you're ok and the panic attack abated somewhat.

Thanks Bobs....couple of minor ones today but not like yesterday. I think I am just coming down with something. DS has had a bad throat and the snots, I think it's that.

Got the bad news today that the decision not to keep DS at his current school has been upheld. Very apologetic letter but that really is no help. There is no further right of appeal and I am bitterly disappointed. I tried really hard to build a strong case but at the end of the day it came down to class size legislation. So I have to take the bull by the horns and concentrate on new school. What really galls me is knowing that DS won't stay there until year 6 and I will have to go through it again because of the shit we have been left in by that prick. I hope he thinks about that when he's splashing out on flying lessons and expensive knickers for OW.

Anyway, am tired and annoyed tonight so am getting into bed with Mr Grey for some mindless literary drivel before sleep

Sorry to hear about your DS's school. Is the alternative suitable fir him and have you seen round it?.

Hope you're feeling better soon and Mr Grey has been good company

Hi bobs, yes I have been round it. It wasn't a good school a few years ago, a new headmistress has performed miracles. I was very impressed with her and very impressed with the SENCo. I have arranged for DS to have three introductory sessions over the next week. I have talked about it a lot. We have a lot of friends who's children go there so he will know people and there is another child from his class going there too. Her mother was equally worried but reassured from the parents morning we attended.

Next week I will meet with the SENCo and then I have the horrible task of explaining the hideous divorce situation and the safeguarding issues surrounding it ie : police, MARAC, SS, the rest. Fortunately DS going full time will end midweek contact so there should be no need for ex to go to the school, he wouldn't want to anyway, there will be quite a few people there he won't be able to make eye contact with...

Today I had to drop DD right by OW's business for an appointment. They looked run off their feet it was completely empty . I do hope they don't cross paths over the coming weeks. How awful not for DD she has a mouth on her

Anyway, hope everybody is well! KOKO

Is it a dog grooming parlour by chance !!! thought that would be right up her street. Perhaps not tho if it is empty.
It would seem then that the customers have got her measure as well then. !!!
Let's hoe DD can control her motor mouth--NOT

Really sorry to hear your son can't stay at his current school. Pleased to hear that the alternative school is now a good one and the head is impressive too. At least your son will know people there too.

Perhaps if OW's business is not doing very well she could open up a greengrocers instead and sell lots of pineapples.

KOKO.

Pineapple specialist. She could do platters and stuff

Glad to hear that the school has improved and that DS will know some other children there. I'm sure that is of some comfort to you, even if not your first choice of school.

Evening all! Platters and stuff!!! Snort.

Well I am feeling like death warmed up, awful cold, but there is no time for either sickness nor slacking as it is Prom night tomorrow night and this house is awash with chiffon, glitter, nails, heels, you name it, we've got it! DD is so very excited and she so deserves this after the year she's had. Her Dad has a very nice car and is travelling some considerable distance to drive her and two of her friends to the Prom tomorrow night. DS and I will already be there in readiness for photos.

DS has his first transition session tomorrow morning at the new school. He seems OK-ish with it at the moment and has apparently mentioned it to one of his current teachers. One of the other parents on my ASD course has a little boy who did his first session yesterday and he really struggled. He has a similar diagnosis to DS and found the lunchtime routine particularly difficult. So will just have to play it by ear. ASD course was completed today! Been a very enjoyable, if gruelling 8 weeks, but the difference in DS has been astonishing. It really helps when somebody else can point you to strategies you might not have thought of. There is absolutely no point in Mr WT doing this now. It will be too late, I have put everything in place, they can't do home visits as where he lives is not DS's home. He was banging on in his first post about doing it in September like he was some sort of hero, but he should have done it with me as all the other parents did. Yet another thing where he has totally failed DS.

Other than that, all quiet here! It's lovely....

KOKO

Hope the cold's better soon MrsC

Prom is such an exciting time, and a proud moment for you that your DD has reached this stage. Good for her dad driving over to take them.

I hope DS's session goes well it sounds like the ASD course has been extremely helpful - for you at least!

Thanks Bobs, feel a tiny bit better today by virtue of a good nights sleep for once! Palpitations in overdrive though, it's only lunchtime and prom stress has reached fever pitch and not in a good way teenage girl hell. Hospital told DD she can't have her nails done because of surgery on Wednesday so am off out to buy stick on thingies that she can peel off. DS had his first transition morning, he came out and said he wanted to say at his old school . I felt really choked, but can do bugger all about it. Have a meeting with SENCO on Monday and then a safeguarding meeting about divorce shit in September. They have been really very lovely and helpful and I am sure he will settle...but for how long? It's crap, it really is. Thanks Mr WT, you win the award for "Father of the Year". Not.

I can't wait to open the wine tonight!!!!!