The Oddest Thing Just Happened - My Husband Just Strangled Me

[Quootiepie]

We started to bicker over the smallest things (it started with me not washing something of DSs) and transfered onto my lack of doing the housework, which led me on to saying he wasnt perfect. He said "how" so I brought up abit about him telling his dad something personal about me, and he said dont talk about his dad (because he died a little while ago) and I said "whats the worst your going to do? Punch the wall again?" and he came over and put his hands round my neck and lifted me right off the chair...

I tried to call the police, but he kept grabbing the phone off me, but then he called them himself. They have just left. I dont really know what to think... or do to be honest...

I hate knowing our relationship is tainted now by this... maybe I should have left and gone to a refuge

... you prob don't need a refuge. after all, its your home, u and your child are happier there. i asked the police to take ex's keys that he had for my flat. obviously your situation is different. it seems embarrassing and i don't know how close you are to your inlaws however, the more people who know, the safer you are because they will be watching your husbands behaviour.

well given that you have your son to take care of i wonder if you are better off where you are? unless you feel unsafe? do you, quootie?

what is awful is feeling that if he is around you need your mobile in your pocket just in case you need the police urgently.

no... I just feel... like I really shouldnt be with someone who does that... and since he pays the mortgage, like I should leave I guess... im just rambling now...

if you do feel unsafe at all there are safe places or of course possibly a friend/family members

he pays the mortgage, you are the mother of his child, don't feel as if you HAVE to leave

dont feel unsafe... I just feel I should be stronger and independant and move out.... i dunno... im all tired and confused now...

you didn't do something wrong to him, there is no excuse for what he did

its too much for you to think of such upheaval at this tme of night after such a day. what u should be doing now is trying to unwind and get some sleep

i think tired and confused is exactly where you should be, quootie, it's half-one in the morning and you've just had the shock of your life today. go to bed and see if you feel any stronger tomorrow... and if not, come on here and we'll try to help.
got to go to sleep now, night night, give your ds a kiss from me.

i cant sleep... although DS will wake me early...

Night Aitch, thanks for all your kind words & help xx

night night
h x

you probably feel as if your whole world has just slipped. so sorry, its one of those moments (like discovering an affair or something) where you just feel shocked and wonder how everything has suddenly changed. its very dis-orientating. poor you see what happens tomorrow, see what he does about getting help etc, admitting to his mother. see how you feel. time will tell.

yeah, ill let him take the stress & strain.... ill just pretend to be a single mum for a few days one less person to cook for and clean up after

I think I should get some sleep now, thanks everyone for posting xx

goodnite babe. everything will be o.k xx.

goodnight guootie

gotta admit I;ve feeling rather frustrated here! Sleep well and please text me if you need anything, I;m ony down the road.

Kelly x

It may look better in the morning. In long marriages people do things they shouldn't to each other from time to time. Often it's best not to get it out of proportion. He did this once. If he never does it again then assuming you can deal with it then just forget it. If he gets like my ex husband and others mentioned on this thread then yes make it a serious thing and talk about going but 5 seconds of that when someone loses their temper as a lot of people do as probably most mothers have done with their chidlren and shouted at them more than they should is just life, real life. Not grounds to leave him. Not even grounds to tell his mother and I think he was stupid to involve the police either.

Xenia, i can't believe you wrote that. It's a serious thing now - not if it happens again!

Hope you are feeling ok Quootie xxx

feeling OK... except DH now not answering his phone

Do you need to speak to him yet?

Have you got to speak to the police today? Maybe it will be best to get through that first and get it clear in your head. Personally, i think he should be phoning you and worrying about you

need him to take me to GP this afternoon... had terrible pains during the night.

Police are ringing sometime today - ill chat to them then.

Isn't there anyone else that can take you?

I'm worried that you are sending out mixed messages to DH.