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Going back to an abusive relationship

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purplepavements · 30/05/2015 20:02

Hi
I have namechanged as I wanted to hear advice and maybe experiences without people having the info from my previous thread.
I am seriously considering going back to my ex. I feel like it's safer and easier to be back with him. He never hurt my dd and she's the only one I really care about. Has anyone had any good experience of going back because since leaving him I just feel shitter than ever.
Tia

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Jux · 02/06/2015 17:54

Thinking of you purple. Figuratively holding your hand. I am standing shoulder to shoulder with you, and so is everyone on this thread, and I bet there are more of us at your back too.

BeaufortBelle · 02/06/2015 18:08

Purple can you just touch base please to let us know you are safe. If I were closer to you I'd be over in a shot.

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purplepavements · 02/06/2015 18:17

I am going to call the police now I guess. I'm just scared of the proCess. But no I don't want to go through this again even tho I believe I deserve it. Im trying to do robot mode. I'm trying all of it. And I am reading the thread but I am just struggling.

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BeaufortBelle · 02/06/2015 18:28

Well done Purple. We are all here for you. Please let keep in touch with us. I am worried about you and want better things for you and I'm sure the others on the thread do to.

I think you are an absolute star. . ))) (((

Here's a hand to hold until the police come

twistletonsmythe · 02/06/2015 18:32

well done - we are all right behind you x

tipsytrifle · 02/06/2015 18:36

oh purple - this is an exact repeat of what happened before, darling one. If you can't hear it from those of us who were with you on your other threads will you please listen to those who are trying to help you now on this one?

You are not at fault, you do not deserve to be punished and you will not succeed in getting rid of your grief and pain by allowing "him" to hurt you. Because no-one can hurt you "enough" the way your mind works atm. But still, you are not at fault for ANY of this. It has been forced on you to feel like this and you need help to re-train your brain. Love and Light to you, dear soul.

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purplepavements · 02/06/2015 19:11

The police are coming they want to send an ambulance I think

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twistletonsmythe · 02/06/2015 19:12

oh you poor poppet

Esmum07 · 02/06/2015 19:20

Well done for calling the police. Stay strong. You don't deserve this. Whatever he says or does remember YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS.

BeaufortBelle · 02/06/2015 19:21

You do not deserve what has happened today. But, it just might ensure that you start receiving the help and support you need from professionals. I wish you had got that help more easily and without this though.

Sending lots of supportive vibes.

skyeskyeskye · 02/06/2015 19:38

well done for calling the police and I hope that you get the help and support that you need from them and the hospital if necessary. If you need to see your GP then see if the hospital can escalate it to an emergency appointment, not sure what powers they have in these situations.

please take up sadwidow's offer of somebody to talk to. she is a lovely person who has helped me a lot with advice in the past and ongoing.

if he has hurt you then please press charges, for your own protection.

I am so sorry that this has happened to you .

LadyBlaBlah · 02/06/2015 20:34

Well done. We do know how hard that was to do.

And you've done it.

You are back in the fight girl - one step at a time. Just tell the truth, don't cover for him in any way ever - he deserves nothing from you and make it so he has to accept the consequences of his disgusting behaviour - all will be OK.

Robot - truth - no covering .

knowledgeispower · 02/06/2015 21:26

Thinking of you

GoatsDoRoam · 02/06/2015 21:28

Glad to hear that you have spoken to the police and that they are sending someone. I hope that they are kind to you and will listen and understand what's going on.

We are here with you Purple.

And there are plenty more people than us who are ready to listen to you and to help you.

BeaufortBelle · 02/06/2015 21:32

I should also have said, it wad very brave of you to come back on here this afternoon and to admit things had gone wrong so quickly. I am very impressed by your courage today.

Hope you are ok tonight x

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purplepavements · 02/06/2015 21:53

Ivegiven my statement and I had forensic exam I am using my old phone . I am feeling a bit overwhelmed and I just want to hide now

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Aussiemum78 · 02/06/2015 21:55

Oh you poor thing.

I hope the police and doctors can help you. You really need someone strong right now to do the fighting and tell him enough, stay away. Right now you are too tired to fight by yourself.

It sounds like your work is supporting you too. Maybe your friends there could help with changing your phone number or offering you a place to stay so he can't find you?

LurcioAgain · 02/06/2015 22:05

You have been so brave - I can't imagine being able to be so brave myself. I hope the doctors and nurses you've seen today have been kind to you, and the police. You deserve having people who can be kind to you.

BeaufortBelle · 02/06/2015 22:05

Night night lovely. Hoping you are home now and going to snuggle up. I hope you get some sleep.

Please come back on tomorrow and let us know you are OK.

With love.

Gilrack · 02/06/2015 22:06

You've done it, brave girl

ASAS · 02/06/2015 22:16

That's ok if you want to hide. We're here all night even if you don't respond.

You've been so brave. I can't believe everything you've been through in the past few days and I'm sure the police have told you how strong you are being.

twistletonsmythe · 02/06/2015 22:44

Oh I keep checking this thread to see how you are.

Very well done - you have been so brave.

We will all be here tomorrow. I hope you have managed to eat and drink something and hope you get a sleep tonight. Time to start taking care of yourself I think.

MrsHathaway · 02/06/2015 22:47

Well done. Sleep tight.

knowledgeispower · 02/06/2015 23:05

Night purple

Jux · 03/06/2015 08:07

Hey there, purple, well done.

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