Going back to an abusive relationship

[purplepavements]

Hi
I have namechanged as I wanted to hear advice and maybe experiences without people having the info from my previous thread.
I am seriously considering going back to my ex. I feel like it's safer and easier to be back with him. He never hurt my dd and she's the only one I really care about. Has anyone had any good experience of going back because since leaving him I just feel shitter than ever.
Tia

I know that feeling well. Sometimes is scarier not knowing what's there though - at least that's what I find when I manage to finally force myself to do it. It is really hard though,so I understand.

I'd imagine that most people, having been through what you have been, would want to lie in bed. I know that I would. In fact I have, for weeks at a time. But there comes a time when you start to feel a bit better, a little bit stronger, and you can start taking the steps you need to. You already have really, you've contacted all of those people that are helping you. It'll all just take time purple, and while it does, taking to bed for a while is OK. It feels safe and comforting, and it's OK to need that. Just make sure that you can get out of bed when you need to let people help you because the more they have the opportunity to help, the easier it will become to stay out of bed.

I hope that makes sense.

Purple, good to hear you're feeling more alert. Small steps, Purple, we're holding your hands.

Good to hear from you again purple

Could you let someone in rl sit with you while you open your post and check your emails? You could write a list of anything you need to do then we can help you to plan when and how to do it.

Do you have any appointments coming up can you remember? And do you have food in the house?

I don't have any food I feel worse today I don't know what to do anymore

I don't have any food I feel worse today I don't know what to do anymore

How about an online food delivery with Tesco or Asda? Treat yourself to something really nice. Doesn't have to cost a bomb.

I can't answer the front door at the moment

Oh purple, you need to eat to keep up your strength.

Would you open the door if it was someone you were expecting?

How can we help you?

I've sent you a pm

How about this... Order a just eat delivery then stick a note on your door saying something like "Just to the loo, please leave on mat/doorstep". Then you don't need to answer and you'll have hot food minus the cooking.

I have had Tesco leave a delivery in crates on the doorstep before due to my bad back. Asked them to collect the crates next time they are passing so I didn't hold them up. They were v good - I just signed and off they went.

I can't do it, I just just need to be in my bed

When did you last see anyone or eat anything purple?

Have you seen my message?

I don't really remember. I really don't know. I think I'd like to go for a drive

That could be good, but you need to eat a little so you're not too light headed to drive. Where would you like to go? Do you have anything you could eat? Even some chocolate. Or bananas are good

I am just gonna sit at a viewing point I think. I don't know if I will be able to go yet. I will eat something

That sounds good. What are you going to eat?

It's supposed to be dry and warm, although not very sunny, tomorrow. Could be a good day to drive somewhere and just sit for a while. You could pick up a few bits - perhaps from a fuel station if you can't face a big shop. I always find them easier and more anonymous.

I'm eating some cereal x thank you for caring about me. I did reply to your message

Morning purple

How are you this morning?

Hi Purple. Glad you've eaten something, have you managed to eat anything today? Bananas are brilliantly nutritious, so if you can, you could just eat bananas for now until you're feeling a bit better. Avocados are too. Both are easy to swallow if you mash them. (You could mix mashed bananas with a scoop if icecream....)

Did you get to drive yesterday?

I am notokay today but I am here

Purple, make sure you eat properly or you will only feel worse. Be kind to yourself.

You can't change the past but you can change the future. It won't be easy but you must try. You deserve some happiness in your life, especially after all that you've been through. Have faith that your life will get better soon.

Morning purple, I'm glad you're here. What are you doing today? I hope that you've got some food in. I'm trying to work but I'd rather be in the bath reading a good book!

This morning I made ice lollies because I havea really sore throat today and I need to clean and sort stuff because I really want to move out of this place. I feel a bit better and I got up and I'm okay I just want to start sorting. I have a back to work meeting this week. I would like to meet someone for a coffee I think it will help me. Beaufort I'm sorry about your ankle and thank you all or being with me

Great to hear from you purple. Hope the ice lollies help your throat. Great idea.

I'm up for a coffee on Monday afternoon if that would work for you. Message me . I have friends down from "up north" this weekend so can't do before then I'm afraid.

Doing some sorting and planning is good.