Going back to an abusive relationship

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Hi
I have namechanged as I wanted to hear advice and maybe experiences without people having the info from my previous thread.
I am seriously considering going back to my ex. I feel like it's safer and easier to be back with him. He never hurt my dd and she's the only one I really care about. Has anyone had any good experience of going back because since leaving him I just feel shitter than ever.
Tia

Purple, you have made huge strides. Well done, oh well done! I think your dd is watching over you and smiling. She knows you are going in the right direction.

Purple, have faith. You will have bad days and good days. At the moment the bad days seem all-engulfingly bad, but every time you think of your dd, there is a little point of brightness.

Take the help people are offering. They Will bring you more points of brightness.

The bad days will become less bad. There will be more light. One day, the bad days and good days will balance.

One step at a time, Purple. One step.

I don't know what to say because you won't/can't phone me.

I hipe the new medication will give you peace and strength to move forward.

Keep going. New medication, another brilliant step.

purple
You are doing so well.
Today is a difficult day. Think of all you achieved yesterday, managing both those appointments. Medication change sounds very promising.
The times feel dark now but remember what I said, you have been through the worst thing imaginable and yet you are still here
Because even though you might not feel it, you are so strong.
The thing that would break most hasn't broken you.

If the pressure of calling is too much, could you send sad widow a text?

You have all of us behind you. You are not doing this alone.

I didn't mean to make people angry

You aren't making anyone angry. You're very inspiring!

Nobody is angry, I promise.

I know I'm useless I'm sorry I really do need this help and support you are all giving and I'm sorry

You're not making anyone angry and you're not useless. You just need some handholding just now and we're all here for that, and happy to be. We're with you purple.

You are definitely not useless.

And I am so very pleased to hear that you are getting a psych referral, counseling, and a support person. That is fantastic stuff. And you deserve all of that support, and much, much more.

Please hang on.

Is there something that you like doing - a craft, a hobby, a type of book...? Something you could turn to and distract yourself with when you are getting overwhelmed by gloomy thoughts?

Hi Purple
So glad you've seen the DV officer you've agredd to counseling and your medication is being sorted. Hopefully you'll be able to phone sad widow tomorrow.
I think you're doing so well. You are most certainly not useless, you've come so far in such a short time.

Nobody is angry purple

Just keep saying how you feel.

If you can give us a clue about how we can help, that would be a bonus.

I am at home again from this afternoon (other than dog-walking and you have my mobile number).

We can talk about how I can carry you and DD in my heart and sit by a canal bank whilst the dog plays.

You said you couldn't see my PM - is that because I talked about a memory box?

Give me a ring after 3pm and we can chat. You know I am a good listener.

You're not useless.
You're not useless.
You're not useless.

honestly you're not, purple.

I'm wondering whether it's worth you writing it down a few times, and keeping the bits of paper in your purse, in your pocket, under your pillow and so on, so you see a scrap of peper in your purse and you know it's reminding you that you're not useless.

You have had a horrible time for a long time, purple. You are struggling your way out of it and it's hard. It would be hard for anyone, purple.

You are getting there, purple, you are. You think you're not making progress but you are, in small steps. Small steps is all anyone can do.

You are doing great

I'm too tired I'm to to tired

You're certainly not useless. If you've run out of strength for today, that's ok because it's nearly the end of the day and tomorrow's another day. All you need to do is keep occupied till you go to sleep. You can talk on here, watch TV, read something, listen to music. Have you got a favourite film you could put on?

Are you eating? Your body needs fuel or it will let you down. The body feeds the mind, so you need food so your strength of mind can function. Bananas and avocados are both nutritious and can be swallowed fairly easily, particularly if you mash them.

Have you got your new medication?

I'm not nagging by the way! Please don't think that. I think you're doing fantastically well in dreadful circumstances.

Sleep, purple.

Morning purple.

Did you get some sleep last night?

Hope you have your new medication..

When are you next seeing someone in rl?

You're doing so well although I'm sure you can't see it yet.

Hopefully the sun is shining where you are, it certainly is here in central London.

Hi purple, keep going, keep posting

I'm in hospital now. I'm not feeling well thank you for your messages

I'm sorry of course that you are in hospital but very glad you are there and are likely to be safe and getting the professional help that you need.

You can hop back on here whenever you like or just start a new thread when you are feeling stronger. Glad you aren't on your own and that there are real people on hand to help you and support you.

Good luck and never forget that you are worth it.

Another huge stride for you, very well done! Get as much rest as you need and pop in when you can, we'll all keep the thread going.

Glad your in a safe place and getting support. Hope things improve for you

I don't want to lose people who have been nice to me on here

Why do you think you might lose us? Would it help to show the people looking after you the thread?

How about promising me that when you are out of hospital and feeling better, you will let me come up to where you are and hug you and buy you that coffee and cake?