Going back to an abusive relationship

[purplepavements]

Hi
I have namechanged as I wanted to hear advice and maybe experiences without people having the info from my previous thread.
I am seriously considering going back to my ex. I feel like it's safer and easier to be back with him. He never hurt my dd and she's the only one I really care about. Has anyone had any good experience of going back because since leaving him I just feel shitter than ever.
Tia

Morning purple

Hope you managed to get some rest and feel just a little stronger today.

Will you be able to contact someone in rl today do you think? Can one of us help you with that?

The domestic violence officer came to see me she is being very nice to me

And I have an appointment with victim support at 3pm and women's aid are going to call me at 1pm

well done purple you are doing great. Talk honestly with all of them and ask for the help and support that you need. WA totally understand how you feel about wanting to go back and they are there to help support in and show you that you can make it on your own.

one step at a time, you are making moves to help yourself

Great news purple. Important steps. Proving that you CAN do this.

Hope your call goes well with WA. Are Victim Support coming out to you?

You are doing fantastically well, purple. I'm in awe of your bravery. And very glad the DV officer was so nice to you (you deserve people being nice to you!)

That's great!

Please don't hesitate to ask the people from WA, victim support and the DV officer for any help you need: that's their job. Worst case they can't do x or y but will be able to point you to whoever else can.

Yay Purple! Well done!

Just say yes too all help offered, you can change it later if you want to.

You are making great progress Purple

Now don't forget that my phone numbers are on your fridge. Phone me tonight if you want to talk about the visits you have had today. I am always here for you.

When you feel a bit better, we'll help you to start on the memory box for your daughter.

They are going to refer me to mental health services and get a psych referral but victim support have arranged counselling and women's aid will arrange a support person for court because I don't have any one else to come with me. I am tired and I think I am forgetting about my daughter it is hard to remember her laugh and o scared

Huge steps in just a week! Imagine where you'll be in a year, 5 years...!

You will never forget her

That's great progress purple, really great. I'm so pleased for you.

Your daughter will always be with you. Always.

I am delighted at the steps you have taken. If you were my daughter I'd be very proud of you. One day, when you are stronger I hope you will feel up to meeting me for that coffee and cake.

I guess only you could make the decision to take the steps you have this week. The start of a new week and a new chapter.

You will never forget your daughter your know. Sometimes life events will take over momentarily and swamp you but they will never erase the memories.

Keep talking to us and go to sleep thinking about how many people have supported you on this thread.

I hope you start to get all the help you need now.

I am tired and I think I am forgetting about my daughter it is hard to remember her laugh and so scared

We talked about this the other night. You have to put yourself first to get through the real life challenge. When your head has got some space left, you will be able to think about your daughter with lots of happy memories.

• she giggled when she was tickled
• she loved you stroking her hair
• she walked with confidence and held her head high as she was so proud
• her smile lit up every day
• she gladdened your heart - and you gladdened her heart

Don't forget that my phone numbers are on the fridge.

I find that my beloveds on the other side come to me in dream. Do you keep a dream diary? It can help in many ways. It marks time and mind's progress; it might show that issues dogging you in waking hours leave you alone at night; or that there are other ways of dealing with them (in dream) that you could transfer to day time. Just a thought.

I am so happy that you have allowed sadwidow to step closer to you.

Glad you are getting some RL help .. You are doing so well..

You will never forget her but sometimes you do need to get stuff done without her been in the forefront of your head.

It all feels too dark and scary. My breathing is too quick

Find one of my phone numbers on the fridge. I am here!

I can't call I want to hide

You can!

Find a phone

Press the numbers in. I will listen!

I can send you my phone numbers via PM if you have lost them.

Phone numbers sent by PM

Phone me if you feel up to it.

I have them I just can't do it. Not today I need to hide

Will you phone me tomorrow then?

I'll walk the dog now and pray for you to have healing and strength.

I am here for you day or night. I have been taking both phones to bed with me since we last spoke.

Take care.

Your DD's name means: "protect, shelter; gentle, beautiful, precious"

I think that sums her up.

She still watches over you to protect and shelter you from harm.

I have had a psych assessment and they said they are going to send a medication change to my GP today and now I am just sitting here ion the dark. Am feeling horrible.