taking a man 'to the cleaners' why???

[Ouchbloodyouch]

Surely they must have done something to 'deserve' it?
I'm in a fairly new relationship. Divorce going through (his). If the ex is the one who instigated the split why would you then try and take everything away from them that they owned prior to meeting former wife.
I'd like to think if I was ending a marriage then obviously I would want enough to give the children stability but this is beyond the pale. I appreciate I am only getting one version of events. He has either seriously done something bad or are there people who are out for every penny they can get?
No other red flags whatsoever btw.

From what I've read while lurking it's not the first time that an OW has posted here with the intention of getting one over on the exw.

When the amazing woman who I suspect is the exw in question posts again I will reveal all on her thread - as this one will have joined the choir invisible I trust I can rely on the collective memory of those gathered here to supplement whatever I can recall of it.

'Paramour' is the most apt word I could come up with other than Mistress. Sadly, I have no opportunity to write smut in my real life which is why I'm like a pig in clover here.

We're on the same page Melon but, thankfully, not in The Sun yet

Ooooh . A big reveal.
It's just like a itv 3 weekday drama.

I'm guessing Robson Green is involved somehow

goddess having done a bit of "research" I can't for the life of me understand what you're on about.

Robson Green has his fingers in a lot of pies

Ffs I am not or ever have been the OW. Well actually I was but it was in my own relationship with my then boyfriend

goddess have you been on the ??

Ha! You didn't deny being Robson Green though . Eh!

4 years

My career and earning potential were totally fucked by out joint decision for me to be a sahm. As a couple we jointly bear the financial brunt for that but if we split I would absolutely expect my reduced earning potential to be taken into consideration.

Either way, I don't think the relationship board is the place to be playing Miss Marple

I agree, Mistress. Miss Marple would be sadly disadvantaged here as I very much doubt she has the IT skills to retrieve deleted emails/texts, take screenshots, save incriminating data, or follow any of the myriad directions given by the super sleuths on this board when tracking down philanderers.

And I now bid you adieu until the 'big reveal', as Pagwatch has it, with more for one and all.

Just having a little google of Robbie Green when I found this, poor fish.

Oh to be that fish!

The problem you got is that because he's not yet divorced, you are 'technically' the 'other woman'. However, that is not to accuse you of being 'the woman he left his marriage for'. So I feel the distinction is important.

When I was divorcing, I was specifically told not to get involved with anyone else...In actual fact, the lovely SHL pretty much advised me to check myself into a nunnery...

So there's a lot of wisdom in the advice since nobody wants their ex to move on faster than they are...and in my case (not saying it's the same for everyone) me even living was a reason for the man going apopletic with rage...so God forbid I contemplated sex!

And even Mostyn (the current president of some legal club or other) has warned women about not getting into relationships during divorce. It's okay for men though...

Goddess you are barking. Up the wrong tree and just plain barking!

Do you think he used his dingler as bait?

And what is the point in the hat?

Ouch I hope you are as excited as I am about the "BIG REVEAL".

I wouldn't want to offend you but you seem to be a fairly ordinary and frequent poster, I certainly recognised your name.

Did you say there were children ouch?

Why does he have all the assets and her none? Has she been at home taking care of children and allowing him to earn and build a pension?

A court wouldn't allow one party to take the other to the cleaners.

I'm sincerely hoping that the big reveal doesn't pull up the picture of me asleep in a party dressed up as Miss Piggy.(true)

That depends, were you paramouring at the party?

I think I danced to paramour and fell asleep from exertion...

Hmmm....So Ouch is young at heart enough to know Paramour (band), mature enough to like Robson Green and has dressed as Miss Piggy.

Ouch, are you Kris Jenner?

Sorry Ouch... I had to have a thread deleted because I revealed too much. I think you've been sensible and not revealed much at all.

Goddess I know who you mean and I too thought this may be the OW from this thread. Why else be so secretive? Time will tell. Anyone who gets involved with a married man/woman is asking for trouble and to be honest, them being "taken to the cleaners" is the least of your worries. Your bit of fun is the destruction of another family and children who will never have the stable family they deserve.