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Can I ask how a 'normal' person would feel about this minor thing?

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twirlypoo · 15/05/2015 06:49

I feel a total idiot asking this, but I'm trying really hard to keep myself on track and need someone who has healthy relationships what they would do/ feel.

Quick background: I have always had abusive / ea relationships. Last one ended 4 yrs ago when I was pregnant, and I tried really hard with a years psychotherapy to sort out my reactions / self esteem so it doesn't happen again.

I've just started dating again after aforementioned 4 years break and have met up with lovely guy who's a friend of a friend. We are on date 4, and I really like him but am trying not to get ahead of myself.

Ds sees his dad once a month for the day and it's the only break I really get. I'd arranged to meet new guy on sat when Ds with his dad. We were meeting lunch time out then going back to his to watch films and get a take away on the evening.

He texted me last night to say he had been asked to watch football with his mates and now wouldn't be free till 5pm.

I feel really hurt like he's got a better offer and have replied quite breezily saying not to worry and I'll pass on seeing him and just meet my friends instead (a lie, I'd do housework Grin) and he says that's an over reaction and he would just meet me later on.

Am I right in what I did or am I over reacting? In the past I would have just said no probs I'll see you at 6 or something, but I'm trying to have self esteem and value my time.

Am I being a princess or was I right in reacting the way I did?

Sorry for massive post. I've been trying to figure this out since last night! (In case it's a factor, I do really want to see him, but not if its wrong thing!)

OP posts:
springydaffs · 20/05/2015 00:21

Ouch! Flowers

Actually, he expected you to drop everything so he could have a shag. That doesn't cover him in glory eclipses the bra thing anyway

Short and brutal sweet, but there we are ((hug)) - if you hadn't wheeled on some boundaries this could have dribbled on for some time. You did the right thing Flowers

DistanceCall · 21/05/2015 16:05

Actually, I thought the bra thing was funny. Childish funny, but funny.

Yes, a bad idea, and yes, he could have taken a snapshot, etc etc.

But at the end of the day sometimes dignity is overrated. This was silly. That's it. Don't beat yourself up about it.

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