if you were asked out on a date by a woman you've just met

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I mean, not just asked out under pretence, but actually for a drink and 'to see how you feel'. If you were a single woman over 50, and not had gay relationships but if you were 'off men', not dating and bad recent history with men, would you be curious enough to at least go on a date without giving any promises? Assuming you do like the look and personality of the person who asked you, of course.

What I really want to know is, how many women would consider an experiment with a stranger who appealed to them in general terms, at least as far as kissing. And how many would reject it out of habit of a lifetime, or the fact that they are not open-minded enough?

Would you feel that because you've never done it before by your 50s-60s, there is no point expermenting as you can't be attarcted and it would be too ridiculous or reckless ?

I was reading about Navratilova, apparently she came out as a bi- first, but really she calls herself gay now. Her wife had a husband and kids before. But you know, this is celebs, would an older 'normal' woman with grown kids be brave enough)?

Another question, would you ignore the offer if not interested, I'm talking about texting or online, or would you politely reply with a 'no thanks' and be flattered if you've only met that woman once?

hi again, Gin. This is a very small business, I think two other partners, not even sure she has a secretary, though I think her daughter is in it and does most of the PR, and the domain isn't a business name. I've put something like 'for X, private' in the title so if anyone else (decent) had access to it to, they wouldn't have opened it. Otoh she doesn't spend a huge amount of time on internet, so I didn't expect an instant answer.

I did ask her out for a drink but worded it more like 'would you consider dating a woman at all?' adding that I mean just a drink without any expectation of course. It was quite playful/humourous as I referenced something she said about men. It was theoretical but as it was me writing it, it was direct as well, giving my contact details too. I don't really want to put the exact text, what if she is on MN, wouldn't want to cause yet more embarassment!

As everone advising me against it, I 'm not planning to email again for sure, thought of a text but even that's too much according to mn wisdom

Well fwiw op I think you did the right thing to ask her.

And I also think it's very rude if her not to answer if she's got it.

I think you sound lovely and very sensible and caring and I hope you meet someone who appreciates that very soon

thank you, Bit, I'd love to meet the right person.
Thank you those who say I sound nice - I thought I've been sounding quite boring as the thread went on, and lost my humour! so thank you for your kind words!
I appreciate all advice on here, whether critical or not, the thread has been a great support! Imagining I couldn't discuss this in rl, I'm really grateful.