Affair - just about coping part 3

[OpheliaRose]

Many of you will have read my original thread and my part two thread here

Brief outline I found out H was having an affair with a girl from his work since ten he has left me for her. His behaviour has been unbelievable

My old thread was titled not knowing how to cope however I am slowly learning

*ophelia rose

You are so strong and handling all this with a much greater dignity than I have ever.
I can't imagine how it feels that your husband has been out n about with the OW as if nothing has happened!
My partner left me New Years Eve a few crocodile tears and lots of excuses, turns out he was having an affair with his married supervisor, they had little reguard for me and she now works with him running the business he and I had planned for much of our relationship, they have gone out on nights out and she slept in my bed two days after I left, I longed for him to wake up and smell her cheap perfume and come home and it's yet to happen - what I will say is last week after over analysing every part of the situation much to the annoyance of some of the ladies on here, I finally got some emotion and regret from my partner, there is no going back for me now and he can live with the life he has chose.
I hope your husband will have the same realisation about what he's lost, mine was too much of a coward to admit his wrong doing all those months ago, he's acted childishly,selfishly and now when he drops the kids off with his tears in his eyes It seems to me it really wasn't worth the "fun" in the end.
Keep going your wonderfully strong.

How are you today mrs?

Wasn't around much yesterday as spent the afternoon at Go Outdoors...now there is a sentence I never thought I would say

Did you get much sleep?

Sorry to hear about your bad night's sleep, but hope you have a great day today. I don't think it's a bad thing if your mask slips at some points during the day.

Longer term, would it help to come up with a couple of strategies for if/when you bump in to your ex and WF?

Vivacia, I think strategies for this possibility is a good idea. What do you think, Phee?

I'm thinking a megaphone and supply of post-its that say slag on them.

I think the strategy currently would be to walk the other way very quickly or completely blank. In time, there may be some cuttingly dignified strategies if they last that long.

Whoever mentioned that it would be very bad for the kids to meet WF and her child, it may help OP if you could link some info on this - or books which talk about it. She will then have 'evidence' to use with exH rather than her opinion vs their "perfect joint opinion". And without saying anything, it can expose how badly WF has handled this in terms of him having a relationship with her child so soon. She is so un-selfcontrolled, it beggars belief.

if they last that long refers to exH and WF's relationship

The play date went well although we were early so I was really nervous waiting for them to show up. I kept thinking people where looking at me saying thats the women who's husband went off with the girl who gives amazing blow jobs at work.

I had lots of fun by then end but I was glad when we got home. It all felt a bit much to have to make small talk for too many hours.

Just had tea and watching Beauty and the Beast before bath and bed.

Not sure what i'll do with my evening yet but I can't quite face going to bed really early again. It seems too pathetic

Glad that the play date went well. You are awesome!

Don't go to bed early but watch trash TV keeping up with the kardashians, the housewives of something, any soap or watch a DVD.

You could even surf the net and look up new furnishings, paint colours etc?

Might be an idea?

It's another step, well done

I agree, there is nothing that makes me feel more normal than watching the kardashians or real housewives

Odd question ...

Has anyone seen anywhere selling children's gardening sets like a watering can and other things? The Twins apparently want to do some gardening tomorrow

Have you got a B&q near you? Good sets there. Also The Range, Hone Bargains (not all over UK though).

Now now, Phee

'Pathetic' is NOT ever an adjective that can be used to describe you.

Early bed is good if you need it but if not, get surging the Internet. Pinterest has been a particular addiction for me lately.

Am delighted the play date went well although I know exactly what you mean re small talk being exhausting.

B&M store and I have seen them in pound land/99p store.

I would also look in any big supermarket as they tend to stock stuff like this in their seasonal department.

I think any big supermarket. We've tonnes of the stuff lying around. In fact, cleaning it up ready to donate would be a good job for the DC...

Or for some further entertainment this evening you could go over to AIBU to watch them all kill each other over the Royals!

We got ours from Wilkinson's and Home Bargains

ps I think 'The girl who gives amazing blow jobs' is the last thing she'll be known as!

Wank Fodder is so more suited as a title for her.

Christinayangstwistedsister I think i'd just end up crying over the Baby again! although I imagine ABIU would give me a few laughs

Hex I had a pinterest account but its full of Anniversary idea boards, wedding stuff (I know I'm already married but the dresses are so beautiful) and worst of all new baby ideas so I think I need to avoid that. I guess I could start a new one

Thanks for all the tips I'll see what I can find

Pheonix and Hobart I guess you're right! I just hate the fact soon he'll be introducing her to all our friends (or already has) and she'll be taking my place / winning them over. Apparently she is very charismatic

I still haven't watched my DVD so I may have a bath and then snuggle down to watch that.

His meaning of charismatic is, "gives blow jobs willy nilly".

There will be many people sneering, trust me.

Stop believing his hype about her!

Confident, charismatic women don't need to target married men..
Besides if she decided to spend 2014 'working on herself' that sound to me like she was dumped by her ex and spent 2014 flirting with every man with a pulse in a desperate effort to boost her self esteem.

I wonder if she's jealous of the ex and new girlfriend and that's why she's fast tracking getting your H into her son's life so soon to play tit for tat.

Let's be honest if she was soo charasmatic she would have no need to give married colleagues blowjobs in cupboards. I'm not sure your ex knows the difference between charasmatic and just plain distasteful!

Glad you had an ok day. Xx