Affair - not sure how to cope part 2

[OpheliaRose]

In my previous thread I found out my husband was having an affair with a girl from work and has decided to leave me for her.

My previous thread is here for anyone who would like to se ether full details Old Thread

Don't reply.

You owe him nothing. No reply, no justification, just complete silence.

Look how he has progressed his replies in a few short hours.

Keep your cool. Keep your silence and let this undignified worm slim around.

You don't know what has been said and done at his work or by his friends. You do know he is a liar.

So will others.

Ophelia I am available to go beat the sh*t out of your Ex

Violence is not the answer.......

God he's a piece of work!! Well done for keeping silent Ophelia. It's rattling him, hence the bit about you doing him a favour. You have the upper hand, although it may not feel like it

Let us have his mobile number, I can think of a number of choice responses for him and a few about professionalism in the workplace of which I would like to impart upon him. Thoughtless, bastard. To be honest I didn't think he could get any worse - but he can - new lows!

His last message was clearly made to hurt you. After everything he has done he still wants to hurt you. I'm livid for you the man is a cunt.

Hi ophelia. Am delurking to offer my support. He's showing himself to be a total fucking cockwomble isn't he? Thought she text you as response to him changing his status on fb? He can't expect you to lie to cover for him. You're doing a brilliant job of staying composed. (Hope his willy drops off it's what he deserves)

Sending hugs xx

Cockwomble

So first text he said it won't go any further, second text he said you have done him a favour???? Doesn't make sense. Your silence is irking him greatly. Stay strong. Do not respond. he thought he would have you in the palm of his hand. He hasn't and is beginning to realise this. He is being purposefully mean to rattle you. He is a twat.

I think it's time to become the ice queen.

Sorry to be blunt, but he doesn't give two hoots about you or the children.

He is only thinking about his ego, wank fodder and his dick....

Oh you poor love, he's just disgusting!!! Please don't reply to him again.
I just can't get my head round how nasty he is!

Hi Opheliarose, I have read your thread and it's made me feel sick. I can't believe this man can treat his wife and family so terribly then have the face about him to try and make you feel bad about it.
You are within your rights to tell people exactly what has happened. He knows he has behaved disgracefully and should feel ashamed of himself when people find out.
I will be thinking of you and sending you strength.

Oh my love, he is one callous, cold creature and in time you really will see that you're best shot of him.

I know I wouldn't be able to resist replying, along the lines of:

'The very fact that you expect me to cover up for you astounds me nearly as much as how easily you've walked out on our marriage and our children and assumed a new life. Your actions have turned my life, and the lives of our children, upside down and caused immeasurable damage. Do not expect me lie to protect you. You have behaved appallingly so take responsibility and own it.'

Cool, calm and so, so much better than him.

ears that is perfect

Oh my god. This man is out of control.

You did the right thing.

At first I would have advised to reply to him factually, however the fact he's sending you multiple messages and increasing his vileness each time, makes me agree that silence is the only answer.

Just who the fucking hell does he think he is? He fucks someone else and leaves his family, yet you're in the wrong for telling someone who contacted you the truth?

Did the solicitor give you a timescale of when you will be officially contacting him? That will give him the shock of his life, the prick. And make sure you keep these recent messages as further proof of his despicable behaviour.

De lurking.

You've done him a favour?! I wouldn't be able to resist replying to tell him that no, it is he who has done you the biggest favour of your life by outing himself to be a selfish, ridiculous and rather quite pathetic man who in about 3 months time once Cock Fodder is sick of picking up his shitty undies and spending her free weekend playing mum to his kids, will find himself very alone and watching Store Cupboard Slag sniff out her next cheap thrill.

But you're far too dignified to send such a text

What a stupid man he is. How they will ever trust each other is beyond me.

You are amazing. Keep your head held high, carry on handling everything with dignity and I promise you that soon the pain will be replaced with relief and you and your wonderful children will be truly happy.

Oh yes he can openly be with her with work colleagues, but they'll probably feel quite uncomfortable in the presence of their affections knowing what they've done.

Well done on not responding, you don't answer to him and what you do is no longer his business. The sooner he learns that the better.

Maybe just switch your phone off for now? He's out to hurt you with his messages tonight.

Keep strong Ophelia. I wish I could transport you six months in time when everything will be so less raw.

De lurking to say please don't reply, he appears to only like his story when he's in control.

Keep strong Ophelia, you will get tons of support here. You're not on your own even if it feels like it lately. MN will help you stay strong and filter his bullshit.

I am so sorry Ophelia. You must be even more heart broken that your husband can act like this. Get the divorce running. Remind yourself daily you don't have to answer to him about anything at all. I have no more words. I'm so sorry and angry all at the same time.

Nasty little man.

Ophelia, you keep on doing the right thing. Maintain your dignity. Don't give him any indication that he has devastated you. He is shit on your shoe.

Your behaviour is dignified and rational.

He sounds mad, spiteful and on the brink, frankly.

There will be fallout from all this for him. It's going to bite him on the arse. Hard.

Make sure you are ice queen when that happens.

Much admiration for you from this quarter. You're dealing with a pair of creepy worms. Shudder. Flesh crawling people, the pair of them.

I hope their filth doesn't affect the children.

What a dick. I thought he'd get angry, he lost his right to have any privacy or respect from you when he started an affair with WF. Can't believe he thinks he has the right to anything in this situation. If he can't live with people seeing him for who he is then he should never have done it. You owe him nothing. No protection, hec he didn't use any with her, he has no right to demand anything off of you.

Ophelia, this really is the time to maintain silence with him and not just because its the best thing in the world for you

Good girl, the worm is indeed turning...

"on reflection,you've done me a favour". The stupid idiot might think that, the OW certainly won't.
Expect the next couple texts to be nasty, he is going to get a bollicking from her this evening. He really hasn't a clue.

Can't believe he hasn't mentioned the kids, he doesn't care about them, its all about her. Be careful.

There isn't a hope in hell that girl will keep her mouth shut. No matter what he says.

BTW you sound stronger.

Do not respond under any circumstances Ophelia.

The brief satisfaction you might derive from a smart retort just isn't worth it. It achieves absolutely nothing. As soon as you respond you are giving him back the power. The power to ignore you in turn, the power to twist your words to his own advantage, and the power to come back with another cruel text designed to inflict further hurt ... and a dialogue ensues that is both point scoring and pointless at the same time.

Ignore, ignore, ignore - should be your mantra at all times. Retain your silence, and your dignity. But please continue to tell the TRUTH to anyone who asks. Just the simple truth is enough to show anyone with half a brain to see this bastard for what he is.

At the moment I would bet my life savings that he is irritated, agitated and puzzled by your lack of response. Keep it that way. Don't give him a single morsel of anything.