Affair - not sure how to cope part 2

[OpheliaRose]

In my previous thread I found out my husband was having an affair with a girl from work and has decided to leave me for her.

My previous thread is here for anyone who would like to se ether full details Old Thread

I'm glad you messaged the girl at work.

He is an utter cunt.

And why thank you OW for being SO considerate of my feelings, by saying you didn't want to hurt ME anymore....NOT.

Only communicate with him in regards to the children, do not feed his inflated EGO anymore.

The girl from work has replied. She said she can't believe they they actually had an affair. She knows they've been close for a couple of years and get on really well. She said she feels bad because she almost suspected something's. Few weeks ago but just laughed it off eventually.

She said H was dropping hind all
Last week we were separating and that things at home had been really hard and stressful since the twins where born and the presures on him at work.

< sends chocolate cake, nice juice, fluffy duvet, favourite box Sets>

He hasn't cheated because of any inadequacy you think you have. It is all about HIS failings.

Aw, poor lamb .

He was dropping hints!

You are lovely ophelia, do not ever doubt yourself. Ever.

It's time for that inner warrior to rise up.

Do not hold any prisoners.

Ophelia

Tell the girl thatbtherecwasnt any pressure, only when you found out she had been giving him a blow job in the cupboard...shame the piece of scum

Relationships built purely on sex rarely last, and that's what this is, despite his claims of soul mates.

I think you said that you had been a couple since sixth form, which would mean not a lot of sexual experience except together. Right now, this clown is behaving like a kid in a sweet shop, with all his fantasies being acted out by the office bike. All fifty shades of illicit sex. Sadly he is confusing it with love, and has thrown away everything that makes life worthwhile......genuine love and family.

This won't last Ophelia, as he will find out very soon. In the meantime, let him keep digging the very deep hole that he is eventually going to fall into.

Oh no, he's an utter shit.

So he's been spreading lies to make things easier for when the news of his affair broke, so he knows he is in the wrong and that people will judge them harshly. You really have nothing to be ashamed of, I'd be telling people the truth, why let him have an easy ride after what he has put you through?

ophelia just to lighten the mood a second.
The day after I found out about ow, I went to the gp in a right old state and asked for some Sti checks.
Knobhead ex rang me while I was on the couch, legs spread and a speculum inserted.
I lost the it with h and spent about 5 minutes telling him what I thought of him in no uncertain terms.
My language was colourful and some of the things I wished on him were bizarre!
The female gp stood motionless with a swab in one hand.
When Id finished I apologised and then we both burst out laughing and laughed untill tears streamed down our faces.
She told me that I coukd have some anti depressants if I needed them but thought "your spirit will see you through"

Nice, blame two innocent children for his affair what a cop out!
As you see, he is trying to rewrite history to hide his shit behaviour!

Well at least now the oh feel sorry for poor old me ground work that he is laying will come to naught now as she will hopefully put people right. Frankly though if he has been saying things were hard since the twins were born, other parents are going to think he is a bit of a twat anyway.

There was pressure after you had HIS children????

Sounds like he was paving the way for leaving you shortly if he was giving it all the "woah is me!" at work. I suspect you forced his hand by challenging him and he and OW, if she knew he was planning on leaving you, were forced to move faster than he anticipated.

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^this^

I think with it being last week that he started dropping hints that there wasn't any intention of it moving as fast as it has done for them both. It looks like you've forced their hand by finding out and now they are out for damage limitation. Oh no, I do hope it doesn't cause them any problems, poor things.

I meant caves post.

ah, x post with CaveMum, I really need to type faster

Ophelia, tell the girl from work exactly what has been going on. The photos, the cupboard, the lot!

What she then does with the information is up to her.

I agree,yu absolutely cannot let him them blame your babies for this, you really need to tell the work colleague every detail so he can't get away with shutting on his own daughters.
What a total bastard

*shitting

Agreed. Tell her absolutely everything. How dare he blame this on your poor kids.

"I can't let him blame the children. There hasn't been unhappiness at home, we just had a lovely family holiday. Unfortunately I found photo and email evidence of his affair, so he couldn't deny it".

I'm not sure if it's wise to send domething like this, but part of me would want to set the record straight.

Vivacia
"I can't let him blame the children. There hasn't been unhappiness at home, we just had a lovely family holiday. Unfortunately I found photo and email evidence of his affair, so he couldn't deny it".

I'm not sure if it's wise to send domething like this, but part of me would want to set the record straight.

That would be perfect. Succinct, controlled but absolutely on the money.

"He never once told me he was unhappy at home. In fact, he was, unbeknown to me, sleeping with both of us. :( "