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DRY 7!!!

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mollyonthemove · 03/04/2015 20:10

The new thread for the alcohol free and the wanna be free Grin. come and join us Brew

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SoberAsMyJudgeypants · 17/06/2015 13:18

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mollyonthemove · 17/06/2015 15:28

The headline was grim I have to say! I had no say in that unfortunately. The rest wasn't too bad Grin

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Fontella · 17/06/2015 15:40

I'm just going out to the shops (on my bike, instead of using car ... as am in healthy get fit non boozing mode Grin) so will try and get a copy of Bella.

Well day 6 for me and all is well although, as predicted I've gone into Rip Van Winkle mode. As soon as I abstain from the booze and my body realises its usual liquid refreshment has been withdrawn ... I just become like a sloth, wanting to sleep all the time. Despite an earlyish night last night, I slept right through until past 10am this morning. I'm self employed and work from home so don't have to keep 'office hours' and my daughter is away on a course at the moment and leaving home at 6am, so there's no alarm clocks or reasons for me to get up at a particular time, although I would normally wake around 7.30ish.

I woke up with a dreadful hangover type headache which hasn't shifted all day, so I have now just taken a couple of paracetamol in the hope I can get rid of it.

The sleepiness and the headaches, are exactly what I experienced when I gave up last year (only to fall off the wagon after nine months) .. but it did eventually pass after a few weeks and then I really started to feel good. I know the early days/weeks can be difficult, and I am prepared.

Luckily I am not very busy workwise at the moment, so instead am trying to focus on getting some DIY done around the place, but I am seriously lacking in energy. This trip out is to get more paint stripper for my shed door in the hope that a bike ride in the sun will perk me up a bit.

Well that's my update - nothing very exciting but very happy to be off the vino, and long may it continue.

Sigma33 · 18/06/2015 08:16

AF day yesterday!!!

Glittery7 · 18/06/2015 08:24

Well done! Me too! Haven't drunk since Monday. Molly, I bought Bella especially to read your feature. Very honest and inspiring. Makes me realise it's possible for me too.

tsonlyme · 18/06/2015 09:01

Really pleased for you Sigma & Glittery! Grin Are you going to aim for the same today?

I'm completely broke this week so I googled the Bella thing but today I might go and lurk in the supermarket news aisle and see how much I can read before security throw me out. You look like a normal person Molly and I mean that as a compliment Wink Nice to put a face to the name.

Hope everyone has a good day.

mollyonthemove · 18/06/2015 09:25

Haha. Thanks. I think Grin

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Lucy2610 · 18/06/2015 09:35

Woop woop sigma and glittery!!
Molly changing lives missus :) Am going to do like tsonlyme and go lurk in Saino's magazine aisle for a bit today Grin

pollycazalet · 18/06/2015 12:37

Molly - just in awe of you. If that just helps one person make that change you'll have done a great job x

LastGleaming · 18/06/2015 13:08

Well done molly. Finally managed to get down to the shops and secure a Bella. I think you're incredibly brave being so open, despite the overly dramatic headline it was a story that it was possible to see how could happen to anyone. Had a wee sniff to myself reading your dd's words about how proud she is of you.

One week today Star Fontella. You still doing that bleeding shed Grin?

Lucy2610 · 18/06/2015 13:47

Molly read avidly and just wanted to say so proud of you

gladistopped · 18/06/2015 13:51

Molly I went and got Bella today and read your story :) Brave and honest and so familiar :( Well done :)

gladistopped · 18/06/2015 14:16

Hi polly Drinking loads of water will help as well - and get some good quality jojoba or sweet almond oil and massage your face gently ( if you are ok with those oils, of course) Lots and lots of water and moisturising really does make a difference - as does a bit of gentle exfoliation to help slough off the dead skin cells to reveal the radiant you underneath :)

Fontella · 18/06/2015 14:31

Well done molly. Finally managed to get down to the shops and secure a Bella. I think you're incredibly brave being so open, despite the overly dramatic headline it was a story that it was possible to see how could happen to anyone. Had a wee sniff to myself reading your dd's words about how proud she is of you.

One week today Fontella. You still doing that bleeding shed

Bugger! I forgot to get a copy of Bella yesterday - I was too knackered pedalling along carrying paintstripper and suchlike back from the hardware shop Grin

Yes I'm still doing the bleeding shed. Wish I'd never started to be honest. I have to go and do it in little bursts as it's so flamin' boring - scrape, scrape, bloody scrape, a millimetre at a time. I get fed up after 10 minutes so go and lay on the hammock for a bit or come in and have a sit down!

I will get there though, and I will post a lovely picture of the finished article - probably around December time Grin

mollyonthemove · 18/06/2015 16:16

Oh blimey - thank you everyone Grin I wasn't sure if it was too 'women's magazine' or not Confused if you see what I mean. it really is just a snapshot into the car crash that was 25 odd years of my life though. Sadly.

Went for a curry with two friends last night which was nice - they had wine, I had mango juice! it's getting easier each time to just drink non alcoholic stuff. I have 600 days tomorrow which is just amazing.

To those who are struggling - we were all there and it is rubbish at times but please don't give up x

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pollycazalet · 18/06/2015 18:09

Hey GladWink

tsonlyme · 19/06/2015 08:50

Molly congrats on 600 days, what an achievement! Do you find it helpful to count days? I don't count them and I had to scroll back through this thread to work out that it was a month since my relapse (thought it was longer Blush. Counting days feels pressured I suppose, I don't have an 'end point', I think that's part of it too.

mollyonthemove · 19/06/2015 09:13

Thank you! I don't count them exactly - I have a counter app on my tablet which I just glance at every now and to remind myself what I would give up if I stopped. Sometimes though, seeing a big number is just thrilling Grin

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TeapotDictator · 19/06/2015 09:52

:)

Re. counting days I agree with molly; it's not so much that I count them but also have an app which has it logged so I can occasionally see. I thought I would not want to count days because before stopping I interpreted people doing this as somehow clinging on for dear life and a sign of not really feeling free of alcohol. It doesn't feel like this though, it feels like a celebration to look at that ever-growing number and a reminder yes, of what I would be letting go of if I had a drink. 329 days and counting here Grin

molly I haven't read the whole article but hats off to you for doing it; extremely brave and helpful I'm sure to loads of people who will read it and identify.

I'm feeling a bit low today; had an annoying date last night with someone I felt as though I'd built up a good rapport with and therefore thought 'even if we don't fancy each other, we could end up as mates'. Just didn't go that way at all and we'd discussed lots of stuff around drinking (he claimed to want to stop and said he thought he was an alcoholic; and had attended an AA meeting a few months ago). I'm very sleep deprived today (two nights now of stupidly early wake ups from the DC and bad sleep beforehand) and just feeling very wobbly about having put myself out there only to feel very rejected on the actual date.

Fontella · 19/06/2015 10:01

Morning all,

Well I've just slept till nearly 10am again, although in fairness I was up until nearly 3am doing work - as in earn a living freelance work.

However, in doing so ... I've freed myself up today to scrape paint - all day if I want! I know you are all jealous. Grin

This is my 9th day now, and I can feel myself getting into booze free life mode. I know it sounds somewhat over confident saying that after such a short time ... but I can feel 'a change' already, if that makes any sense. When I gave up last year, something just 'clicked' and although I managed a dry January and have had shorter stints of a few days trying to give up since, (so no guarantees of course) I do feel more focused and in the zone this time.

Good luck to everyone this weekend. The weather here today is absolutely glorious, so I think I'll be doing a fair bit of lying on the hammock, in between scraping paint off the shed door.

x

Lucy2610 · 19/06/2015 11:12

Another day counter here - with the same thinking, joy at how many days - 636 and almost £4K saved Grin
Teapot hugs lovely. It's his issues not yours so take heart Flowers Wont' suggest the Morning Gloryville in West London tomorrow am then if you're already sleep deprived! Wink
Fontella congrats on day 9 and have fun!! :)

Fontella · 19/06/2015 12:55

636 and almost £4K saved

Bloody hell .. when you put it like that!

If that's not an incentive to pack up I don't know what is.

pollycazalet · 19/06/2015 13:05

Day 19 here so not a patch on you lot but have worked out I've saved just over £100. That's the icing on the cake along with feeling and looking so much better.

LastGleaming · 19/06/2015 13:10

Awesome molly, well done. Anything nice planned?

Also have a counter app and take great pleasure in watching the days stack up. It's kinda like how I love watching my savings account slowly build up now. Savings, get me! I barely had a penny spare at the end of the week when drinking and smoking.

Sleep deprivation probably isn't helping your mood any Teapot Flowers

Grin Fontella sooo jealous of your paint scraping. Blooming freezing here.

mollyonthemove · 19/06/2015 14:05

The bloody daily mail has picked up my story. I'll have to leave mumsnet Sad

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